I don’t think most women wanted to be pregnant back to back like that then.
My grandmother had 16 children. It destroyed her.
My grandparents had 8 children. 7 came after everyone moved out and 8 came because they didn’t want 7 to be lonely.
Now double it for this woman and my grandmother. It’s insane.
Yeah definitely the elephant in the room when this comes up. Women didn’t have a choice and they were impregnated over and over even if it killed them.
You always have a choice. I see a lot of women applauding for feminism… But I never see them at the rally’s.
Take some responsibility. If you’re getting married and constantly plowed because you can’t think for yourself, that’s on you.
Having said that, humans are going to be human, so it’s nothing particularlt unnatural.
I’m a tenth child and my mom did it of her own volition. It was like being a dog that nobody wanted to take care of.
I’m sorry you were forced to be in that position.
My dad was number 14. He was once asked for advice by a man who had several children already and wanted more. My dad’s advice?
“Stop.”
My dad went on to explain that this guy was already neglecting his current children and that it was abuse to continue. Because there simply isn’t enough time and resources available.
I used to work with a guy who was close to my age and had 12 children. He swore up and down that all of them got the same attention. I asked for the middle name of the fourth youngest and he couldn’t answer.
I have just one kid living with me. (The other one is 26) I spend a lot of time and effort taking care of her, I don’t see how I could adequately care for a double-digit number of kids.
My oldest sister wanted to do the same. My brother in law got a vasectomy in secret after the 7th. Everything your dad said is exactly true.
Edit: I don’t mean to imply that some women aren’t forced into the position of having more kids than they want. But usually having a lot of kids requires two mentally unwell religious fundamentalists.
Oh you’re totally right that there’s people who willingly do this as well! Thankfully we have more choices when it comes to how many children we want these days.
tell that to any woman in the use asking to be sterilized, crazy the hoops you have to jump through, our outlook is so ass backwards
and I imagine in a controlling relationship, birth control would be hard to hide
It is fucked how much easier it is to get a vasectomy than a tubal litigation.
yep the doc wanted my permission for her op like wtf
tell that to any woman in the use asking to be sterilized, crazy the hoops you have to jump through
That’s entirely about finding the right doctor. I’ve known men who were refused a vasectomy because “you’ll want kids later and it isn’t always reversible” and were asked to get a consent form signed by their wife. Both are things that are common “hoops” women go through when trying to get a conservative doctor to do a hysterectomy or tubal ligation.
My wife actually brought me with her to the doctor’s appointment where she asked for her hysterectomy “just in case” and the doctor asked why she brought me with her and I kind of sheepishly answered “moral support.” She had seen every other gyno in the area and had problems with all of them, ranging from ignoring her issues to doing a uterine biopsy using a kevorkian punch (look it up, it’s designed to be inserted, and then essentially a metal claw on the business end gouges out a piece of tissue to sample) with no pain relief of any kind on the grounds that “it’s less painful than childbirth”. Most of them were women (including the one that did the uterine biopsy), the one who did her hysterectomy was one of the only men.
yep pretty much this
Ya I had an exgf who had a kid with pretty severe ms. The poor little dude barely made his 9th birthday. Apparently she carries the gene, I’m not sure the exact details. But the risk that any other children she had would be afflicted was too high. She had to go to 6 Drs before she found one that would tie her tubes. Absolutely ridiculous
Yeah it’s still an issue now, but there are more options than back then.
It’s very hard to hide birth control and it can be tampered with easily. I’ve heard of men microwaving their partner’s birth control pills, poking holes in condoms, even forcing their partner to remove IUDs.
:( that’s crazy
Maybe it’s just cuz I’ve got a neurospicy bean who is AuDHD and PDA af, but I do not understand how people can have more than a couple kids. Hell, my wife is the oldest of 5 and it’s crazy how much abuse I now see they all endured (both neglect and actual SA abuse of the youngest ones that wasn’t brought to light until a few years ago).
often it’s just the lack of contraception and/or appropriate education.
No, some people get a thrill out of the power of making more people, of having a huge family, even if they don’t take good care of them.
I personally don’t get it. But I have a friend who is a really incompetent person - when we hang out, we have to make extra sure she doesn’t do dangerous things like she is a child. She is a sweet person, but very oblivious in a way that is hard to put a pin on. She is married, and her husband takes care of her and has always seemed to kind of like the responsibility. To each their own. But they now have 2 kids and he is completely overwhelmed. But she wants more and keeps talking about trying to talk him into it or ‘oops’ getting pregnant again in a few years. We all yell at her when she says stuff like that.
It is the perfect flip-flop of the usual gender roles - where Dad has all the responsibility and doesn’t want more, and Mom just sees it as some kind of power trip about her self image and is oblivious or just doesn’t care that it would break her partner.
There are certainly people who choose to do this. But in the time period pictured, it is more likely that this woman had no other choice.
Oh absolutely. Women were basically property then and no one had any concept of ‘spousal rape’.
I was more addressing the mentality when people do it now - that it shouldn’t be assumed to be ignorance about birth control
Right? I’ve got one kid and I’ve got my hands full! I can’t imagine having more kids than I wanted because of lack of access to contraception. Sounds like a nightmare.
The folks who have large numbers of kids typically start handing off childcare duties to the older ones as soon as they’re physically capable of doing those tasks. Especially the girls - usually these sorts of families don’t want boys doing child care unless there are no girls, but the boys start getting used for labor around the same age.
The folks who have large numbers of kids typically start handing off childcare duties to the older ones as soon as they’re physically capable of doing those tasks.
More than once I have heard of the eldest child in these situations running off as soon as they are 18 and going no-contact.
My eldest aunts ended up being pregnant the same time my grandmother was often.
There’s a lot of resentment and grudges in my family tree.
Sounds like there might be more grudges than branches.
Yeah, I grew up catholic and that’s how the big families I knew were. You had kids who were largely raised by their big sisters raising the younger siblings… And no, they weren’t ok, they ranged from mad about it to excited to be the mom in such a dynamic
Bro I’ve got my hands full with two cats.
You see, it’s simple – once you’ve been going for 5 or 6 years, you make the older children take care of the younger ones. Parentification is fun and saves you lots of work!
My mother wanted two, got two at once, went “DONE NOW” and it was for the best.
Your mom is a POS
God that poor woman. That’s so many kids.
Her husband forced himself on her while she was still recovering from birth. There’s no way there were so many children so close without that happening.
Y’all can disagree with me, but I’m right. There’s no way this particular woman could’ve healed from birth enough to safely get pregnant again that many times. Marital rape wasn’t even against the law back then. It was normalized.
Sex would not have been enjoyable for her immediately after birth.
Damn, the amount of people here who don’t understand where the phrase “keep em barefoot and pregnant” comes from…
Literally “if you keep them pregnant constantly, they will have no need for shoes because they will never leave the home.”
There’s a lot of people who are uncomfortable with examining their long-held beliefs and biases.
Like that women like this wanted to have that many babies and that husbands have a right to sex with their wives no matter what.
You’re most likely right. Though, she is holding twins in the picture I think. Depending on genetics, it’s possible that a few of the other siblings are also twins. But that’s still a hell of a lot of pregnancies, and twin pregnancies are generally harder and riskier than singles, so… yeah that’s not really any consolation.
~~You are most likely right, but given there are trad wife’s now adays, it isn’t impossible that some women wanted that. And unless there are more specific information from her family on her choices, chances are, we will never know. And as much as I don’t want to deny past sexual violence, I also don’t want to deny agency. ~~
After writing it I realize it is a shit opinion because even the most trad wifeliest today, with more resources and healthcare do not go for so many children. And I now agree with you fully.
My ex’s best friend is one of… 11? 12? I forgot. Probably more by now. Both parents of that family are weird but as far as I can tell it’s mostly the mom who wants more but… I’m not entirely sure if she actually wants more children or she just likes getting parental pay which is 18 months in this country. On 12 kids that’s 18 years that she hasn’t had to go to work. Don’t think the woman in the picture got 18 months
Not sure if she can stay employed so long. I am not sure if you can Irish twins your parental leave indefinitely,
I couldn’t imagine an employer paying her for 18 years of parental leave.
In Germany parental leave is paid by the state and you can receive it instead of unemployment money. Probably true for other countries as well.
Nice, sounds good.
Yeah it’s not even so much how many children she has here (even though that’s an issue all on it’s own obviously), it’s how close they are in age.
kind of both Irish twins are not rare among every society, but having to move my mouse pointer to count so many children so close together it.
Although I am willing to bet a photo with cousins too rather than just one set of siblings. because I don’t want to belief that said family is even possible.
My grandmother had 16 children. It’s very possible and way more common back then.
While doing genealogy research I found it quite common in rural norway in the 18th and 19th century for women to have a child every two years until their early to mid fifties. Sometimes they’d have as many as 18 children.
That seems like an extreme place to go that would only seem justified if you can’t imagine wanting a seemingly ridiculous number of kids. So I’ll offer my perspective.
I grew up with an unusually large number of women in my extended family and heard them talk a lot about enjoying or wanting big families. Many of my cousins went on to have as many kids as they had hoped for originally, and they continue to have children, as if it’s a competition. I don’t get this, because I never wanted children of my own. But all I have ever heard is the woman’s side.
My impression in every case is that, if one of them is setting the agenda on the child front, it’s invariably my cousins. I’m not sure how that conversation goes, but these women are all conventionally attractive, and I would guess it doesn’t take much convincing to get unprotected sex from their guy if that’s what they want.
Long short, I’m not too worried about my cousins being tricked into pregnancy. I do sometimes worry that maybe the men (who have meek personalities by comparison, and look more tired each time I see them) might feel like they weren’t given much say, which could lead to relationship problems later, but it’s not really my business.
You completely missed the point about the children being so close in age.
It was dangerous and painful for this woman.
I didn’t address the point because a lot of my family’s old photos look like this. Twins become more common later. But also i expect the actual age gaps represented in this photo might not be so close. The children on the right are likely not children at all.
Also genetics has to play some part here. Women in my family have relatively few complications in childbirth, and recover more quickly than usual along with their libido apparently, so just a few months between birth and pregnancy is common.
I’m just trying to offer a plausible alternative explanation that I can vouch for so you don’t have to imagine this nightmare.
My father was the fourteenth child out of sixteen siblings. I’m very familiar with this type of family setup.
Regardless of women who want big families, 16 children is abuse. Both of the mother’s body and of the children as human beings.
I’ve given birth before as well. It is dangerous to have pregnancies back to back.
Women didn’t have nearly as much choice back then.
I fully agree with you re: most of your points, and don’t necessarily disagree otherwise, just trying to not expect the worst of people I don’t know based on a photo <3
That’s fair and sorry to be blunt. Your intent was to see the good and I do appreciate that.
Grandma wasn’t thinking about sex, she was having it.
Whether she felt like it or not.
If you teach women about their bodies and give them the choice, they will have fewer children.
True, but they also have more options for birth control. And a family needs two working parents to have a children nowadays as well.
True, but they also have more options for birth control.
That’s the choice that yesman is talking about. Birth control and abortion.
Ah, I was thinking more along the lines of emancipation
Also, until recently, childhood vaccines prevented a lot of the deaths that made having tons of kids a necessity.
This is why conservatives are anti-sex ed and anti-abortion.
They needed workers. Not pictured is the shallow grave out back for the 4 that got the rickets
It’s a very suspicious ratio of pants to dresses
Young boys and girls used to wear the same outfits and they were passed down. Look closely at the photo.
Oh wow, you dug a grave? Look at mister “thinks he’s better than everybody else because he owns enough land to bury people”. Why don’t you just tie em up in a sack and toss em in the river like the rest of us?
And the “orphan train” already passed by, so it’s not pictured either. Or the “for sale” signs when the children became too many. But the chimney sweep kids are “living it up”, as they’re learning an important trade!
But the chimney sweep kids are “living it up”, as they’re learning an important trade!
The cancers those chimney sweep kids got were horrific. Last Podcast on the Left recently did a deep dive into chimney sweeps and it was eye-opening. Highly recommend listening if you’re into that kind of thing.
I was just recommending a podcast episode lol
Chim, chimney
Chim, chimney
Chim, chim, cher-ee
A sweep is full of cancer
As full of cancer as you can be.
if you’re into that kind of thing
Chimney sweeps, podcasts, cancer, or open eyes?
Learning more about fucked up things lol
Sorry, sorry… that was sarcasm. It was mostly slavery of orphans, guised as trade-skills. As well as the cancers, they also had hellish injury/death, because ya know… 7 year olds are climbing chimneys
“Put their feet to the fire”… sometimes kids were too afraid to keep climbing, so they lit a fire under them. Sometimes, they became too grown and got stuck in the chimney, possibly dying. Hellish
I wasn’t correcting you, I just have ADHD and saw your line about chimney sweeps which reminded me of that podcast episode so I recommended it hahaha
I’m sorry I didn’t make it clear that I was just conversing with you.
Lmao, well damn I’m sorry again! That makes more sense, I misinterpreted cause I is a little dumb. I’ll have to check it out because I am in fact, into those kinda things! Thank you
No problem :)
Tone can be so hard to convey on text and then further complicated with neurodivergence haha
Do you have a link to the podcast “the Left” or related doesn’t show clear results, thanks.
Oh yes! The show is called “The Last Podcast on the Left” and here’s a link to their site.
Ah material to drift off to sleep on to. 😄 - Some of them at least. Will give it a go!
I don’t listen to much true crime anymore, but these guys stole my heart haha
To be fair, I don’t think grandma pumped out 252 children because she enjoyed the sex.
My grandmother had her first child out of wedlock at the age of 14, her second child (my mom) out of wedlock with a different father at the age of 16, and her third child out of wedlock with yet another different father at the age of 17. And this was all in the 1930s. I strongly suspect grandma really enjoyed the sex – otherwise, why go through all the social approbation and abandonment by her family that went along with it?
Yea she definitely loved that D.
Nobody asks to get kicked in the nuts twice do they?
Can’t have been that bad.
Societal pressure to produce children as woman has definitely been a big thing back then. Hell, it is still a thing today, just not as much.
Geez lady, is a vagina not a clown car
Dunno, but if I remember correctly, in the 19th and early 20th centuries child mortality was very high in some places, especially where there is little access to medical services, and certain vaccines have yet to be developed. That’s why some impoverished families became large because survival was on top of the list, and nearly all the children had to find work early on.
That and in combination with very little access to contraception and abortion. Women had as many babies as came from being married and having sex.
Being pregnant is the cheapest contraceptive after all.
Um? I assume your comment was made tongue-in-cheek but seriously: Being pregnant (and raising the kid afterwards) is by far the most expensive contraceptive.
How many of those old kids were acting as parents because the folks were too busy fucking?
The two oldest, seated in front, are tending two newborn babies. Presumably the parents are off somewhere else, fucking.
How is this a meme? SMH
Isn’t it funny to laugh at women in tough situations through very little choice of their own?
Peak comedy, right?
They didn’t think about it they just did it.
I came from a big family like that. My mother had 13 children and 11 of us survived long enough to get married and start our own families. Lost one sister to fibroids and another to gang violence.
Please stop. The planet is overcrowded as it is.
The planet is not overcrowded, the West just exploits it with sheer arrogance and greed till it fucking implodes.
Based and factual.
Dude. They just said two of their siblings died. How about you stop?
My mum have 6 children, she call us her pension plan
That’s like 2 decades of pushing out kids.
Before modern medicine, often people would have a ton of kids because they would frequently die.
Before modern medicine, often people would have a ton of kids because they would frequently die.
Before modern medicine, birth control and abortions were much harder to come by, too.
Also, women didn’t really get much of a say in the matter.
God forbid you point that out though, there’s a bunch of people who think this was all consensual.
This is a really important factor here that it wasn’t exactly “Grandma’s” choosing (not to make the meme unfunny but…) Yeah, more often than not it was “Grandpa” with no choice in the matter.
It’s ok to not laugh at a meme like this.
Rather than attributing this to the lack of modern medicine, I would attribute this to the lack of television and the internet. 🤣
100%
What else if there to but fuck?
