• gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de
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    7 months ago

    so relatable, i call everyone “dude” or “man”.

    i think names are an exception and only reserved for rare occurrences. honestly, i wouldn’t mind if people didn’t have names in general. just call everyone “child” “man” or “hey you” depending on their appearance. names are a weird concept to me. it’s not natural that people have names, i guess.

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    7 months ago

    When I was around 20yo, I spent a summer with a new group of friends pretending I knew everyone’s names. It was anxiety hell. Today, I realize that I can just admit that I forget names and ask and it’s no problem. But that was an interesting summer.

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      7 months ago

      When I first started work I was in shop where there were three Bills, two Phil’s and two Neil’s . I never ever worked out who was who.

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      7 months ago

      Bro, homie, dawg, phil

      It’s easy to go years without knowing names, better if you don’t use that last one

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    7 months ago

    For real. Came into work for six months and talked to this dude about a bunch of stuff every time. Only a week ago did I find out his name. Now I can finally say his name instead of starting off with “hey bro”

    • u/lukmly013 💾 (lemmy.sdf.org)@lemmy.sdf.org
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      7 months ago

      At least you remember names. Someone can tell me their name, I’ll repeat it as suggested, forget it a few days later anyway.

      I’ll remember a phone number before someone’s name.

      Hell, I remember one dude as initials + his age when I met him. I don’t know why. Example: If I met John Doe aged 32, there’s a chance I’d remember him as “JD32”, and forget his actual name.
      Shout-out to MK22, I forgot your name again.

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        I have a friend who has a lot of friends. Sometimes we hangout together, but rarely. I cannot for the life of me remember their names and I swear 3 of them look the fucking same to me. It’s always a struggle to keep pretending for hours until I finally hear someone call one of them by name. I remember that for a few hours. If we hangout again next day it resets out of my head again.

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      7 months ago

      If someone I just met uses my name regularly I feel like they’re trying to sell me something.

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      7 months ago

      Haha there’s a guy I hang out with at the library and I think he’s great.

      Wanted to invite him to a party and realized I had no way to get in touch. No name or anything.

      For like a month, I’ve been trying to visit the library at the same exact time to see if we bump into each other.

      Library stranger, I hope we meet again.

  • Dragon Rider (drag)@lemmy.nz
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    This is the correct way to do friendships. Drag doesn’t agree with the forced intimacy of learning someone’s name the same day you meet them. Names should be shared the third time you meet someone. Of course sometimes it’s necessary to learn names earlier or later, but the default should be third.

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    A month? I’ve known guys for years and still don’t know their names and it is WAY too late to ask.

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      7 months ago

      That’s when you figure out a reason to hand them a clipboard and say, “Imma need you to sign in.”

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    There’s a place I like to go to for lunch once or twice a week and there is another regular that generally sits at the bar like me. I have talked to this guy over lunch off and on for almost a decade now. I do not know his name.

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      Here’s a fun way to play it- say “We’ve talked so many times over the years, and I bet you don’t even know my name.”

      If he does, explain that you said that because you don’t know his, laugh about it. Get his name and put it in your phone if you think you’ll forget.

      If he doesn’t, then say “Well we’re in the same boat because I don’t know yours!” Exchange names, and put it in your phone if you think you’ll forget.

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      7 months ago

      The obvious way out of this situation: open your own kebab place and start calling him bossman or chief.

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    It’s cool. I don’t usually care about people‘s names that much, and I know he doesn’t care about my name, so why does it matter.

    For the most part people can call me dude and bro until the end of time at work.

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    7 months ago

    “I once worked with a guy for three years and never learned his name. Best friend I ever had. We still never talk sometimes…” - Ron Swanson

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    7 months ago

    I have a friend who is a legend. If I’ve been hanging out with someone he will ask their name and if I don’t know then he will introduce himself to them ask their name then tell me. Saved me so many times.