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It’s actually really rare for anyone to talk politics to me, but that could be because, out of survival instinct, most people think I’m disinterested in politics or know I won’t just nod along.
One time though, and I forget exactly what they said, but they took issue with the Unicorn Rainbow soft serve that the dairy 4h was serving and I told the “you need better hang ups”.
Believe it or not though, I avoid those types and only interact with them because of work obligations.
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Lul, yes, I was supervised how much to think about using “disguising” causes any haters that automatically think you are on their side.
Even a simple “bruh” can help.
Honest question wtf is a “het” now?
I’m pretty pronoun positive but seriously this shit is getting ridiculous.
No it’s нет.
It’s got a space, normally it’s written “cishet” meaning cisgender, heterosexual
cis = cisgender, aka person identifies with the same gender they are born with
het = heterosexual
het means heterosexual i think
Isnt that what cis is supposed to mean?
I want off Mr. Bones wild ride.
Cis is the opposite of trans, homo is the opposite of hetero, Cishet is a shorthand often used instead of “normal” because we’re all normal just different
Weird thing to say. Cis is gender. Het is attraction.
Not everyone knows and this person is trying to learn. Let’s not be critical.
I want off Mr. Bones wild ride.
Sound pretty critical. This isn’t the take of someone that’s genuinely curious and asking in good faith.
Or is it the take of someone who feels frustrated by things they don’t understand?
Considering they also said they looked it up and they get it now in response to you 10 minutes before this reply, I don’t think what you are saying is in especially good faith.
Getting frustrated by things you don’t understand is an acceptable excuse? I saw your spicy reply before theirs in my inbox, that’s all. Not sure why you’re inserting all this drama into what was basically an very in context conversation.
Frustrated by new thing. Makes it weird
The new thing is this. Don’t make it weird.
Okay I understand.
Good. It’s not that you didn’t know, it’s the attitude.
Isn’t that the whole point of the post? Having conversations like this regularly.
I looked it up. I get it now.
Good. To be clear, I was not trying to be critical of you not knowing the terms, just the attitude I found gross.
Likewise but that’s to be expected over text.
It’s not really new tho
New to me! Lol
Because cis men are the only bigoted people in the world……fuck off.
Simmer down, bronco.
Pin this somewhere.
I told a coworker they were “full of shit” then repeated that when they said “what?”
This is legit why I have like two male friends left tbh. After 2016 I stopped giving a fuck. The problem… or maybe the cause in a way… is that I’m an oddly assertive introvert so it’s very easy for me to end up in a situation where I’m doing nothing but going off on people and making drama.
Just yesterday at work I heard some coworker telling some nightmarish stuff (for the other person of his story) and laughing as if it was fun. Problem is, all other dudes were laughing with him.
“Oh damn, didn’t know it was hate on people for being different day.”
“Lighten up, we’re just having a bit of fun”
Now what?
“What’s fun about it?”
That why calling out people for being weird worked
word to the wise, don’t do this if you don’t have the physicality to back it up
That sounds like a threat?
I’m Ron Burgundy?
Yes. We cis men know nothing of criticizing our friends, and need instruction in this.
As a gay guy who’s definitely been in the room for gay jokes because they didn’t know I was gay: yes, you do. If you are only willing to call out bad behavior when you may get caught associating with it, then you aren’t actually an ally.
Shuddap you privileged rapist, I’m telling the bears!
So Mexican dudes can’t say these things, eh? Only white dudes, and only if they’re straight?
My ‘hey, you’re being a fuck stick’ detector doesn’t discriminate, despite what my stolen meme says
And only to men, because of course there aren’t any women who hate on trans people!
It’s only bigotry if it’s cishetwhitemen doing it, otherwise it’s just sparkling discrimination.
I’m not in the trenches of this particular culture war, so I don’t know shit, but I really do wonder why not phrase it as “people who want to be better allies” instead of targeting a single racial group and sexual orientation. Would feel more inclusive.
I think you got it. The op was probably fixating on the biggest impact that they can see, but that’s going to vary by community and who is reading this.
Also huge shocker, diverse groups of people also need to be mindful of this shit.
It’s the reason good “DEI” policies are important. If you just start hiring people from more diverse backgrounds (good) then have them land in a toxic work environment with 0 support (bad) then they’re not likely to thrive.
Middle-aged white men have a lot of privilege. It’s time we used it for good.
Is this white-saviour and/or patriarchial? Yup. Does it work? Also yup.
I don’t know if we all realize this, but some shitlord being told “What the fuck is wrong you?!” cuts deeper when it comes from someone who looks like their dad, granddad, or their boss.
I’m a 47-year old white guy in a leadership position in a large company. I’ve done exactly this to both young-millenial edgelord types who think I’m in on the joke, and boomer or elder-Xers who are yelling at clouds. I will tell you that, not only does it smack down the dipshit who thought that “lol rape” or “brown people bad” was funny, it also sets the tone for everyone else in the room, and it gets word around that bigotry isn’t acceptable.
Anyone can say this, but it hits harder when it’s someone privileged. Women, LGBTQ folk and other vulnerable groups don’t have this privilege, and get shut down, and if we don’t want that to be the case, we need to speak up for them.
All of this also applies to women saying horrible things being called out by other women who they respect / think are part of their social group.
Fuck yes. This is the entire point of the post. This is not my meme, but some turds are focusing in on ‘buh only WhItE mEn?!’. No. Not just white men. White women and children too, anikan. Anybody really.
You raise a very good point about our white male privilege and the lack of ‘stopping power’ less privileged groups have when challenging bigotry.
Didn’t know there were so many All Lives Matter people on here, Jesus Christ.
You need to add ‘ese’ to the end of it.
Throw 3 or 4 ‘pendejo’ in there for good measure
The only Spanish I know is from Speedy Gonzalez, so is it ok if I just chuck “Andale! Andale! Arriba! Arriba! Yii-hah!” on the end there?
What a weird thing to say
That’s a disgusting opinion to have!
I had a Mexican friend back in college and we used to joke that if you put El in front of something, it became Spanish.
So he’d say something like, “Hey, do you want to get el pizza tonight?”
And I’d say, “Sorry, I don’t speak Spanish.”
(Although normally we’d do it as an inside joke when someone couldn’t understand him because of his accent.)
Yes. Didn’t you know that straight men are the root of all problems in the world?
Honestly I haven’t had to say something in almost a decade
You’re hanging out with the right people
It’s all about where you live and what you look like.
I’m a huge white dude in a red state, I’ve been getting hit on by nazis since before I was a teenager because I look like their “ideal”.
Like, when they picture their “master race” it’s what I look like, so they always fucking assume I’ll agree with any side comment they make.
If you’re not in a super blue area, you’re not hearing stuff because something identifies you as “them” and not “us”. But even in blue areas I’ll hear shit.
I’m a white American immigrant in Germany. The shit people say to me about immigrants, which they then walk back with “but not you, you’re one of the good ones,” is infuriating.
