• AsheHole@lemmy.world
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    0
    ·
    1 month ago

    My husband wants kids, I’m okay without for the same reasons as you and a big disgust of pregnancy. I have a lot of experience with kids in my career and we love kids, but it just seems the kindest thing to do for them is to not bring them into this world. We’re planning on fostering once we’re in a better financial position and hopefully adopting from there. I’d rather grow our family with a kid or toddler that already got the shit luck of being here.

    • cybersandwich@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      0
      ·
      1 month ago

      Holy shit the negativity between these two posts is disgusting. This world is far from perfect but it’s not a dystopian hell scape and it’s far from a lost cause.

      Hop offline, touch grass, talk to your neighbors. Be the change you want to see in the world and all that instead of being the world’s biggest wet blankets.

      • NicolaHaskell@lemmy.world
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        0
        ·
        1 month ago

        I’m with you calling it out. “His generation’s future is bleak” lol thanks, dad. Half the content on here is screeching about how prior generations failed to save the world, and this guy is leaning full in on “not my choice, not my problem” to a cheering crowd encouraging him to spike his son into the ground.

      • Dozzi92@lemmy.world
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        0
        ·
        edit-2
        1 month ago

        People on the Internet, and specifically reddit/Lemmy, sit and read all this negative shit all day, every day, and then come and regurgitate it for others to do the same. Life has literally never been easy, except for a very select few. I personally think some of the best things in life come from the fact that there are difficulties weighing in opposition (winter and summer, as the most general example). If you don’t want to have kids, that is great, but to say it’s because the world is difficult is just such a copout, because the world has always been and will always be difficult. You need to live for good times, weather the bad times.

        • FozzyOsbourne@lemm.ee
          link
          fedilink
          English
          arrow-up
          0
          ·
          1 month ago

          the world has always been and will always be difficult

          So why do you think a child deserves to be brought into a world where they’re going to suffer?

          • Dozzi92@lemmy.world
            link
            fedilink
            English
            arrow-up
            0
            ·
            1 month ago

            Other than perhaps what else I addressed that you didn’t quote, are you asking me what the meaning of life is? I’m not sure I’m qualified to answer.

      • Rekorse@sh.itjust.works
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        0
        ·
        1 month ago

        Yeah I’m shocked they literally said the best thing we could do for kids is not allow them a chance at life.

        How closed minded they must be, to think everyone shares the exact same despair they do, as well as the inability or lack of creativity needed to envision a better future and a path that takes us there.

        If thats the perspective they will teach their children, I really hope they prove their parents wrong.

          • Rekorse@sh.itjust.works
            link
            fedilink
            English
            arrow-up
            0
            ·
            1 month ago

            Why do you think the world sucks for half the population? You must be making an awful lot of assumptions. I mean, I barely know if my neighbor is having a hard time let alone 4 billion people who I never see.

          • cybersandwich@lemmy.world
            link
            fedilink
            English
            arrow-up
            0
            ·
            1 month ago

            For what it’s worth I’m not judging them for their decision to not have kids. I don’t care if they have kids or not. That’s their choice. I’m just commenting on their incredibly fatalistic world view. When in reality, in the west at least, we have so many positive things going for us like tech advancements, healthcare/medical advancements, and the education opportunities.

            It’s the safest it’s been in a while and even with what’s happening in the middle east and Ukraine, it’s one of the most peaceful times in history.

            • medgremlin@midwest.social
              link
              fedilink
              English
              arrow-up
              0
              ·
              1 month ago

              There are plenty of people in the West, especially in America, that are desperately impoverished. There are millions of people without access to any healthcare, let alone the fabulous new advancements in medicine. Education is also being torn down at the foundations by the GOP fucking with schools, and higher education is extremely expensive. You can only get a college degree with generational wealth or crushing, inescapable student loans.

              I don’t blame people who are not financially comfortable for being fatalistic.

            • medgremlin@midwest.social
              link
              fedilink
              English
              arrow-up
              0
              ·
              1 month ago

              There are plenty of people in the West, especially in America, that are desperately impoverished. There are millions of people without access to any healthcare, let alone the fabulous new advancements in medicine. Education is also being torn down at the foundations by the GOP fucking with schools, and higher education is extremely expensive. You can only get a college degree with generational wealth or crushing, inescapable student loans.

              I don’t blame people who are not financially comfortable for being fatalistic.

        • LarmyOfLone@lemm.ee
          link
          fedilink
          English
          arrow-up
          0
          ·
          1 month ago

          How closed minded they must be, to think everyone shares the exact same despair they do, as well as the inability or lack of creativity needed to envision a better future and a path that takes us there.

          Lets do a test. Could you imagine supporting:

          1. Banning of commercial advertising
          2. Abolishing patents or making them free or extremely low cost to use to quickly adopt new / better technology
          3. Nationalize all big news and social media companies and turning them over to the democratic control of their own workers (a cooperative)
          4. Massive wealth and land redistribution

          Most people can’t because they have been programmed to see these as “holy touchstones” of their true religion, capitalism. And that means only economic power may rule, and there are no paths to the future except the profitable ones. They rather de-federate call socialists tankies and than to deal with the angry dirtbag left. They prefer to exist in a calm apolitical space with a total war on good vs evil.

          So please don’t insult people who can imagine many paths but also have the wisdom why all these paths are shut. It’s just like a physics problem, you can’t overcome the political energy worth trillions of dollars with a few measly millions of dollars of political energy we could muster.

          • RaoulDook@lemmy.world
            link
            fedilink
            English
            arrow-up
            0
            ·
            1 month ago

            I can imagine lots of great future possibilities without doing any of those 4 things too. Mankind has the technology to do innumerable amazing things now.