On dating apps, the only men who sent me messages were either 20 years older than me or non-white.
But… dating apps are literally for both men and women.
So exhausted from these constant MEN VS WOMEN (women wins lol!) threads.
If I were ever single again, I’d take the Cloth, figuratively speaking. Unless they’re very rich, men my age don’t have much to bring to the party.
My wife and I have been together more than 30 years, married 25, and I still can’t believe my luck.
Post clearly written by a woman
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Just incel shit probably
The MEN VS WOMEN posts? Yes, 100% posted by incels/femcels every time.
If gender is the single defining quality of your personality, you’re typically an extremely narrow minded, childish, and unpleasant person.
That’s just a statistical fact.
Why are you people still trying to date online? If there is no one worthwhile in your area, there is no one worthwhile. Living with other people is overatted anyway.
So, guessing you’re a cishet man that lives in a population center?
I must be the luckiest broad in the world. I joined a dating app only once, had zero negative experiences, found a great guy, and now we’ve been together for 17 years (today is our anniversary).
Either that or I am powerfully ugly or monstrously scary.
Don’t sell yourself short. You probably recognized all the red flags, knew what you wanted, locked in and went for it. I’d call it lucky if he was literally the first guy that showed up on the app and you didn’t need to say no to anyone else.
Women are generally the ones who get to pick on these apps, and you know how to pick.
Or maybe you have a toxic worldview that doesn’t correlate with reality and a pathological need to push your personal narratives down everybody’s throats because you have a fragile ego.
I mean both have the same likelihood of being true.
Yawn, who cares…🙄
I met my partner of 8 years on bumble. College roomate met his wife on bumble too. It’s not impossible, but i know I’m a lucky one.
Another Bumble shill
Lol sorry I had a positive experience on a dating app, wonder why that annoys you tho :D
Because like the meme says, men are dumb and evil and women are faultless angels, and you are not allowed to challenge that dogma. Or do and be called misogynist or some variant of phobe.
I met my partner of 7 years on bumble
maybe, but no one cares.
very different environment a decade+ ago on those apps. in my experience of then vs now, with nothing in between
Tbh they were a lot better 17 years ago, now there are a lot of hostile patterns built into them
I’ll just eat beans in the dark and dehydrate myself in that case
global warmimg.
Men using dating are getting 90% AI/bots now I would suspect.
Yeah, it is the same for interviews. You are told you are not good enough, but really…even if you were, you never had a chance there.
Or you do, but it is not worth the effort really.
The reason why is because we are in end-stage capitalism, and there is too many of us around.
So this can only fix itself naturally if we stop making more of our selves.
Can confirm it’s not a great time right now. I accidentally once downloaded an app that literally flooded me with bots asking for personal information it was bizarre
So I can find a boyfriend or a girlfriend if I just boil them first? 🤔
Gotta watch out for those PFOAS.
Never heard this comparison is an apt one
The fact people use dating apps still shocks me. I’ve never once used them.
I did find out in Korea they have a word for guys like me. “ 자만추” or jamanchu which means “self righteous pursuit.”
Guys who prefer to find love naturally without the use of dating apps. Apps like that are all bad and have a financial incentive to keep you single and using the app.
“Naturally” lmao what a crock of shit. At least the self-righteous bit is correct, and not in a good way.
The point of dating apps is for you to come back to the app. And harvest your data.
Swamps can have drinkable (as in not poisonous, not as in thirst quenching) water so I usually say ocean in place of that. Because good luck drinking saltwater. And it’s more fitting because the water is all around you.
I was thinking ocean was a better choice as well. You can drink as much as you want but you might regret it.
I don’t know what the answer is, but I do 100% know it’s not a dating app. Saw another post about people playing more board games, maybe try something like that. Go where people actually talk to each other. Participate without an agenda. See what happens naturally. Social media and heads-buried-in-phones have made everyone socially incompetent.
And pray tell, how do you find the people?
I’ve only ever gotten one date on a dating app ):
It’s a hard thing. When I was single I would try this and then it wouldn’t really go anywhere. Which would be fine if what was missing from my life was having a board game group, but what I wanted was companionship.
I think the way it should work is to basically create situations where romance could happen, but not necessarily seem like you’re actively pursuing romance. For more reserved people that can be hard to do, I think I tended to come across less as “fun person, potential partner” and more “kind of quiet guy from my board game group”.
I ultimately met my wife through a dating app so I’m glad I stuck it out, but dating is hard whichever way you do it.
Being a complete person and not expecting another person to be the “missing piece” is important. I’m not saying you did it wrong. It’s normal and healthy to want companionship.
A lot of folks have stupid Hollywood notions of what “true love” is.
IOW, have your own shit together, don’t be a burden who thinks someone else can fix them or meet their every need.
Counterpoint: I’m in that situation, and now I am no closer to finding that person.
I’d be happy to help make someone feel whole. But since I am whole myself, I’m not expending effort on locating anyone single.
So, there’s truth in what you’re saying. A partner fills a void. Being self-sufficient fills it too. But spackle doesn’t feel as good as concrete.
