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If I have the spoons and money, I like to just host an outing for my friends. Plan it, pay for everything and drive. It’s sweet to provide an experience that might not have happened without the effort.
Never ever book an airbnb
This week, I planned a 4p game night, got several people to respond affirmatively on it. No one showed up.
Some people are just so brain-empty they can’t associate words to meaning. They just respond in expectation, assuming they should say “Yeah, I’ll be there!” and then perform no follow up with travel planning or calendar entries. That is how dumb this generation is.
Flaky people have always been flaky it’s not a generational thing.
You were planning the event. Did you perform any follow up?
It’s the phones 😒
People were flaky before phones, don’t make this a generational thing.
I’m not, I was less flaky before I got a phone.
Young folks are the ones eschewing smartphones, not boomers
I’m the opposite. Having easy access to calendar reminders has made me way less flaky
Ah interesting. For me being able to actually reach people at any time has made me much more prone to cancelling plans.
I guess that shows the danger of generalizations based on a small sample size.
Neat AirBnB ad
Obligatory, FUCK AIRBNB!
…fuh … rinds? …free unds?? What is that word? Oh, the TV show? What is this?
oh sure thanks, let me get my gold lined cheque book and start making reservations this second!
Well yeah that post is bougie af, you could just invite people over lol
I live in a single room in a basement.
i was living in a shed when i made that comment 7 hours ago. just picked up keys to an actual apartment today. hoping the best for your situation, i know its not easy.
Thanks it’s honestly not too bad. Just no good for hosting social events.
Congrats on the apartment.
Can you write something in that gold lined checkbook for the rest of us too?
Yeah, book airbnb, buy tickets and then watch people casually forget to pay you back.
Those are not friends.
Except everyone is like that. If you will insist on only hanging out with people that that take part in organizing, are on time, pay their debts promptly and actually have time to go out you will be handing out alone.
Skill issue.
What’s the skill? Fixing the world?
This is false.
If it’s different for you, you’re very lucky. Enjoy.
When i inv people to things they don’t come
You have the planner and the nucleus. The nucleus is the person that everyone wants to hang out with, usually an extrovert with no planning skills. The planner and the nucleus are natural allies because they meet eachother’s needs. So figure out who the nucleus of your group is, be good buds, and plan things out with them first so you know they can make it before you send out the invite.
Then when you send out the invite they’ll reply all to say they’re coming and everyone else will come. Some groups have multiple nuclei so that’s a thing too.
Planner nucleus followers arrangement might make you feel unloved as the planner… But it’s just normal human social structures. Even Nazis had the same setup with Hitler and Goebel, Trump and Miller. Any group you look at has this structure! Secretly without the planner nobody gets to hang out at all so they’re the real OG imo. A group with only nucleus-followers is a bunch of people who rarely meet and say “we should do this more often” and then don’t.
I got lucky, our extrovert also has planning skills… Mostly, but good enough that a few of the rest of us can supplement on the details that get missed
Possibly the most crippling part of having adhd for me is that I desperately try to do this but cannot hold it together long enough to make anything happen. Everyone I know talks about how bored and isolated they are, how much they miss getting out or getting together, but the only reason it worked when I was leading things was because I had an open door policy and no one else ever had anywhere else to be. Now that we all have lives and partners and families I can’t just let people show up at 3am, crash on the couch, and hand out tomorrow. They couldn’t do that if I could because they all have work in the morning. Ironically I live closer to my friends now than I ever did before and get to spend so much less time with them.
I was the planner for my friend group for the better part of a decade, and then I moved to a different country.
I’m still the planner for my biweekly Zoom call with my besties, which is going strong.
The other friends pretty rarely get together now. I told them someone had to take up the mantle, but nobody did.
book the airbnb
I’d rather be lonely than give this garbage company a single cent of my money.
They rent out Palestinian homes in the West Bank that were stolen by Zionist settler terrorists.
Fuck AirBnB
Thankfully I hate all of that shit
Introverts need more casual interactions, the walk or bike to work/school, with a stop at the local park or coffee shop
coffee shops are where it’s at
Maybe it is me but I’ve never been sitting in a coffee shop and seen anyone who wanted to be talked to. Headphones, laptops, doom scrolling.
Probably me, though.
different kind of coffeeshop : )
Oooh…
A regularly scheduled event is imo the best solution. Just have something on one night per month, everyone knows when it is, if they can’t make it no big deal there’s always next month. No need to continuously be organising something new.
