• Lovable Sidekick@lemmy.world
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    2 months ago

    Yeah… those old hippies with their “be yourself” and “let it all hang out” - clearly the key to life is to wear a mask. Such enlighten. So fulfillment.

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      2 months ago

      You can be yourself without a deluge of your own interests flooding the conversation. Unless being yourself of taking only about yourself and no listening. In that case mask on.

    • ameancow@lemmy.world
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      2 months ago

      I couldn’t possibly spend a moment with a woman who couldn’t talk with me about historical disasters.

      I held to my values and wanted good things for myself and that’s what I got.

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        2 months ago

        Ayup. Autistic abrasive af here, never made any attempt to change or hide who i am. Been happily married 20 years

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          Major congratulations. I despair seeing so many people who ostensibly want the same things and yet live in constant stress for living up to some imagined image of what’s “normal” or “proper” for a relationship.

          People tend to argue for why they’re lonely so impassionately that you start to realize that loneliness and hopelessness is what they actually want on some level because it’s more comfortable than the challenges of sharing your actual life with someone, and their brains are just inventing stories for why they can’t find a partner who they can be friends with and enjoy things together.

          We have entire industries of scammers on social media pushing videos that serve only to feed this insecurity and avoidance and it’s making everything so much worse. I’m very glad I’m not part of the modern dating world because I’ve known what I’ve wanted since the beginning.

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            2 months ago

            I know so many people who are in unhappy relationships because they’re following a scrupt.

            I also know a great many who have wiped their arse with it.

            Best thing you can be is yourself, ya got no other fucking choice anyway

  • emeralddawn45@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    2 months ago

    I assumed this was a cheat sheet with the dating profile of someone they were meeting from online dating, but judging by the comments i misinterpreted. Why would someone need a cheat shret with their own name and not know what their own job is?

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      2 months ago

      My interpretation is that they’re bad at smalltalk and will forget basic facts about themselves. It would fit in with them needing a list of smalltalk topics to choose/avoid…

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      2 months ago
      • “Finance something”
      • variable income

      I know it’s a joke, but he’s lying to get laid.

  • M137@lemmy.world
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    Yeah, not being a kid and knowing enough about Five Nights at Freddy’s is a major red flag, good that he recognises that (but still bad that he even has to in the first place).

  • But_my_mom_says_im_cool@lemmy.world
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    Why do people care about incomes and jobs when they date? What do you care how much money i make, you ain’t getting any of it. My job is my way of making money and in no way reflects my personality in any way, so I don’t even like talking about work and capitalism on a date.

    • theUwUhugger@lemmy.world
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      Some people wanna live good lives, there is no other way of saying this! Is it unabashed to openly have this in your list of criteria? It is

      One of the very few, but strong reasons I don’t have long term relationships with woman! I would recommend for you to look up femboys OwO

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        It’s fine for long term but I see it even in people who advertise they’re only looking for casual, and to be fair it only seems to be an issue if you’re a man. If a woman is a dog groomer making minimum wage, she’ll look down at a guy making slightly more. Tbf I’ve only dated women and not in a while, but I always found that society cares more about a man’s pay when it comes to dating

    • Baggins [he/him]@lemmy.ca
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      2 months ago

      Probably people who are looking to form a long term committed relationship where resources will be shared.

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      2 months ago

      Many people don’t want to date someone destitute or with poor financial prospects. That’s just going to be hardship, and there are many other people that are probably just as good a fit without that problem.

      Similarly, someone who makes way more money than you can add tension. They might be like “oh let’s go out for dinner!” to someplace expensive, and you don’t have the budget for it. Are they going to pay for it? Are they going to resent that? Are they going to pressure you into paying? Their expectations and standards may not align.

      Also, if the relationship is going to be long term most people assume there will be some merging of finances.

      Some jobs are also just gross. I wouldn’t date someone who worked at Facebook. I wouldn’t date someone who worked for Fox News. Your job 100% can reflect your values and personality.

  • Wilco@lemmy.zip
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    2 months ago

    This made me Google Coleen Hoover to find out what she does and I still dont know what she does. Something to do with flowery pastel book covers.