I was comparing the hatred directed at them, which is very much comparable. For both groups, it is misplaced and causes harms. Yes tf I can compare the hate one group of people receives to that of another, especially when for both it is due to immutable attractions.
I’m not defending him. I’m discussing your views and the meanings of the words you use. You conflate things which are not the same and you definitely have misplaced hate.
I have past comments where I express support for non-offending pedophiles.
Then they seem hollow with the other things you’ve said in this thread.
He said in his memoir that after he learned she was 14 years old, he “had sex” with her again.
That doesn’t negate what I said, which involves his intentions.
Disgusting
That is how I see you. In one comment you say that you do not hate non-offending pedophiles and then you are disgusted by the comparison to another marginalized group with a history of facing hate for immutable traits. You clearly do have hate for them.
From the comment explaining the guy and the event, (again, unless I’m misunderstanding) he did not initially know her age and did not assume that she was a minor. That does not seem to be a pedophile to me.
I’ve actually got past comments that touch on this subject
Idk what that means.
I don’t hate non-offending pedophiles ie people with desires for children that have never acted on them.
I don’t believe that at all. Why else do you resort to using the term as an insult and conflating it with violence?
If that was the angle you were coming from, you did not make that clear at all.
That “angle” wasn’t relevant until you started slinging it around as an insult.
Since you refuse to look at post histories, I know you’re just shooting from the hip here.
I base my opinions of you from what I’ve seen of you in this thread and my faint memories of seeing you in a few other threads. I’ve already said this.
I just also happen to be stubborn.
And wrong. You can’t expect me to believe that you don’t hate non-offending pedophiles in the same thread where calling me that was your first step into insult-comments rather than responding to the message being conveyed. You can’t take that back. Saying shit like ‘you’re a pedophile defender’ is like the people who say “you’re gay” (meant in a bad way) or who call everything they perceive as bad “gay”. That it’s in your insult-arsenal speaks to your character. This is definitely not the first time I’ve seen fedi users do this exact same thing. It’s just that I was active this time, instead of being a passive lurker.
Why are you defending him if you don’t know the true extent of his crimes?
I never defended him or any abusive people in this thread. My qualms have always been with your word-choice. Including labeling people as pedophiles or “pedophile defenders” as insults to dismiss them. It’s hurtful and harmful. It’s wrong to attack people like that and also to conflate “pedophile” with “child-predator” or “child-rapist”. I refuse to hate people for immutable traits like that.
Yet I see that on fedi every time I browse it. It’s been bothering me for weeks and today was the day I randomly decided to say something about it. Unlike my meme posts, I didn’t make a structured post about it. It’s hard to care what people think of me sometimes because I see so many of you as hateful to your core (at least that’s what comes across to me). I’ve spent lots of time trying to be thoughtful in my responses to people in various threads, trying to get people to understand that bodyshaming is unhelpful and not nice, while trying not to seem like the stereotype they’re bound to ignore. Ditto the topics discussed in my own threads about computer/tech stuff. I do tend to try to choose my words carefully and take my time responding to everything as thoughtfully as possible.
This thread was different, partially because I feel like I’m in the presence of people who should be more able to understand and be more likely to be agreeable than the one with the bodyshaming stuff, while knowing that it’s likely to feel like shouting at a wall. People follow the numbers, what they perceive to be majority opinions, and most people don’t care to rock the boat about things. My view of most people on this platform was already so low that I realized I lose nothing at all by saying whatever feels right in this moment. I’m kinda surprised anyone agreed with me at all, based on my own experiences and what I’ve seen of this place over the years.
It’s not that I enjoy talking about these subjects
I think you do. I think you like to be provocative with what you say and how you say it because you want to get a rise out of people and stoke conversations about it whenever possible. That is what I see of you in this thread. Nothing I say has mattered to you at all. We both have mentioned that we do not value each other’s opinions and yet you persist because you like to do so.
At least I can be entertaining to strangers who neither understand nor care about me. Feel free to see the other hills upon which I’ve died in those “controversial” linux meme posts. I don’t like muting myself for the benefit of others. I’ve done that for years. Fuck the world. This place should not be the toxic hate-filled violence-obsessed hell that it is.
I mean, Kiedis has the money and power to rape children when he wants essentially. I could see how someone would classify him loosely as part of the “Epstein class”.
Some of the stuff I’ve read about the epstein files is enough to make me feel physically sick. That is not comparable to a rockstar having sex with someone whose age he doesn’t yet know, if I understand correctly what I read in that longer comment somewhere in this thread. Idk how anyone could see such a thing as comparable. That’s what frustrates me.
As it is, I was already feeling bad due to a wikipedia article that I shouldn’t have read recently. I don’t like these intense things being brought up lightly and then feeling that I’ve been manipulated to have a worse reaction than I otherwise would have had. I guess part of it too is just how fucking pervasive the rape and pedophile talk is on fedi. I see that user with “Trump Fucks Kids” in basically every community, and it’s very unpleasant to constantly see these things. Is it really just me? Do y’all love thinking about this constantly? I don’t. I thought this thread was just gonna be about age-gaps and my opinion that they’re not inherently harmful or predatory. The thread just kept going and getting worse and worse. I hate these more intense topics and that they are inescapable.
You seem really hung up on the difference between violent, forcible rape and other kinds of rape.
If you actually still don’t understand, then I have no clue what to say to get you to understand.
I’m married to a man and have a son. Maybe this should be a lesson for you to not make knee-jerk assumptions about people.
I didn’t say that I assumed, and it wasn’t a knee-jerk reaction I just made today. It was based on the little I’ve seen of you on this platform. And I still barely know you and don’t intend to get to know you further. I figure the types of things you talk about are like this post, which is upsetting in multiple ways, as I’ve said. I wish that fedi could just be chill and not so focused on violence-talk and hatred and othering. I don’t know why I bother to get online and interact with people at all. Most people are like this now. I try to make a funny meme post, and while there are nice comments, there’s push back. Against some of the most mundane stuff. And this thread represents what it feels like fedi wants to talk about constantly. I hate feeling awful all the time and felt like interacting for once, knowing it would just be what it became. I have no hope for this platform.
The main subject of this post isn’t about rape at all.
Yet you went off about it repeatedly while making it seem very different than what it was (again, according to the comments about the event).
I don’t give a fuck about this guy or his band. I am not invested in the story of his life at all. I saw a thread and opted to respond to it, because I do find it ridiculous to infantilize adults as is done in your main post and the title.
You wanted to bring up rape and did so repeatedly, making me initially think that you were saying he’s another wealthy “epstein class” type of celebrity, and it frustrates me that you continue to not notice or care that I and others had that (predictable) reaction. With all of the posts on fedi about the epstein files, you post about a rockstar and then start going off about rape. It’s not unreasonable to think what I’d initially thought of it, based solely on what you’d said (which is all I had to go off of, because I don’t know anything about this guy).
There’s a lot of positive comments about men in my post history
Again, I don’t browse comment histories, but if that’s true, then good. I’d be glad to know that you don’t generally look down on men, which was kinda the vibe I was feeling from you based on the comments which I had seen.
Being cognizant of different biases in how society treats AFAB and AMAB isn’t a negative thing.
What I’m talking about is how you seem to look down on AMAB people in general, based on how and what you say about AMAB people.
Statutory rape is rape.
Insisting on leaving out the statutory part when introducing a topic is deliberately misleading to your audience.
Countering someone who points that out by calling them names and suggesting that they’re either a rapist or rape victim is bullying.
An outspoken queer feminist is not going to gel well with that demographic all of the time.
As a trans girl, I’m aware. But I also get to see subtle jabs at AMAB people, like one of your comments in this thread.
You not understanding that there are many different types of rape doesn’t make me dishonest.
You’re dishonest for informing people about statutory rape without calling it that or sharing the details, which makes it seem significantly worse. And I know you know that.
I haven’t done that, and you know it.
You definitely do not make for a more diverse community by being so hateful and deceptive. I do remember seeing you get lots of hate in another thread a few weeks ago, and some of it did seem justified, as I see in this thread. I don’t remember the details, but I did know going into this thread that you would likely respond as you did.
But I did give you a chance to correct yourself and move on. When you didn’t, it caused me to continue making the points which you continue to ignore and pretend do not exist.
I haven’t done that, and you know it. You definitely do not make for a more diverse community by being so hateful and deceptive. I do remember seeing you get lots of hate in another thread a few weeks ago, and some of it did seem justified, as I see in this thread. I don’t remember the details, but I did know going into this thread that you would likely respond as you did. But I did give you a chance to correct yourself and move on. When you didn’t, it caused me to continue making the points which you continue to ignore and pretend do not exist.
You most certainly are doing so because of our disagreement on the use of these terms and you’re infinite doubling-down on dishonest language. As you just did, of course.
I guess it’s worked as you probably had hoped, garnering lots of activity on this thread. I find it especially interesting that you claimed you’re “working on making the fediverse more diverse.” lol
Absolutely. And that doesn’t change that what y’all are doing is bullying, by publicly speculating such things as you are.
“This person disagrees with my use of words, as other users have similarly articulated. They must be a rapist or a child molester or a victim of such things.”
You’ve gone beyond disagreement and into excessive use of name-calling and insulting.
I hope you bullies get the help you clearly need. Y’all are mean.
Speculating about me like that, in a comment I’m less likely to see, is bullying behaviour. Not unexpected but gross.
I’m not a guy, not defending child rapists, and it doesn’t surprise me that you would stoop further into name-calling and bullying.
Yeah I don’t have any more to say to you
Good. You have a terrible way with words and a terrible view of the world.
The intentions do matter, because rather than a pedophile specifically seeking out a prepubescent child, it reads like a guy who thought she was 18 and then (selfishly, yes) did it with her again after she told him. That’s not comparable to child-predators who knowingly seek out children.