Yup. Watch The Good Place, then ask again.

“The only person who won’t fire you is you.”

“Are there no prisons? Are there no work houses?”

“I’ll try not to swear around you. I’m sorry. I will probably not be perfect, but I assure you I’m trying.”

That’s enough.

I assume you are genuinely sorry and have decided you want to behave differently around them.

Pitch me. I could switch, but it would help a great deal to understand more about why. I’m open to change, but not eager to change.

I’m very happy. I had the same early experience as you, but I kept with it. I’ve been using it several years now. When I’m forced back to vim, my fingers remember just enough, but I have to undo pretty often.

I kakoune instead.

Pink noise sounds soothing.

“You first.” 🤷‍♂️

“I’m not looking for a family here. I never was. Thank you for the invitation, but no.”

It could be that simple.

“I’m not interested. Please leave me alone.”

You want candy?

In that case, I’m not sure you’re missing anything and I’m not even sure you have a problem to solve here.

I understand better. I might relate, too.

I’m not the type to keep relationships “alive” by checking in, but at the same time, when someone re-enters my life after even years, it can be as though no time had passed. If I can help, I will. We can chat for minutes or hours. I’m happy to pick up where we left off.

I have the distinct impression that many other people don’t operate this way. I do. Do you?

I have a big chosen family, including people who feel like children, and even grandchildren. I don’t believe that a blood relation would make that any richer an experience for me.

The same as any friendship: mutual support and love. What you’re describing sounds like an acquaintance to me, not a friend, if conversations don’t develop past small talk. Maybe that’s what you’re missing.

Check your privilege.

I wish you continued good luck in this regard.

I don’t live in a shithole, so nothing.

Where are my Rogers home internet customers at? 🇨🇦