I’ve had female friends and I’ve had male friends but for some reason I’ve noticed that females are more intimate and close to there friends then males are. Is this true for all male friends?
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I find my queer male friends are willing to be intimate while straight male friends are very shut off and rarely open up. Generally. Of course there’s exceptions.
Straight people even today live with the fear of being perceived as gay so there very closed off and distant.
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A system of oppression can only be a system of oppression and nothing else. It can oppress some less than others, but it can’t ever free anyone.
Relatable
Careful spraying those broad generalizations everywhere, you’re making a mess.
I wouldn’t say fear has much to do with it, just how most are raised. Not that it’s a good thing that society is built like this mind you, just saying.
If a male friend starts touching me in a way that not even my own father did, I’m just midly uncomfortable. The last thing I’m thinking about is other peoples opinion on my sexuality. It’s more about just not being used to it.
Tbh, unless I’m sexually attracted to the person, I find contact uncomfortable regardless of the sex. Probably not exactly healthy behavior but anyways.
No. Next question.
What does the moon taste like?
Creme Cheese. Next Question.
do you think my cat is cute?
Only on Tuesdays. Next question.
Yes, cats are by definition cute. Next question.
Of course, hugging, touching, sensitive subjects. ima give a homie a kiss if we’re hyped up enough.
Well, I hug friends to greet and show compassion. But it doesn’t really change anything, in terms of closeness or intimacy for me. Maybe others feel like that too and don’t really engage in physical intimacy. I do hug female friends in comfort too, but that’s very awkward for me. It seems to help them though.
I feel better when my personal space is respected, I don’t really want hugs when I’m feeling down. I do like hugs when I’m feeling comfortable though.
I’m in my thirties and when I compare my friendships to my wife’s, I must say that women are more intimate with each other. They hug and cuddle. My friends and I don’t really do that. I only hug my friends when I feel they need it.
I try to be that open with my good dude friends, but I only have a couple I’d consider good. Most are superficial friendships based on a single common interest.
maybe 100+ years ago before gay panic really got going.
I’d wager the opposite. I’d say men hug more now.
Source: am secretly a Highlander
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Not true for all but true for most.
However let’s make a difference between being close and being intimate; females are usually more intimate than males or at least open up more quickly on personal topics. Gay/bi males are also like this.
As for closeness though, I don’t think there is much of a difference between sex/gender/sexual orientation. I’ve found bros sticking together and backing up each other the same as girls do if not more.
I’m generally more open with female friends than male friends. There’s one friend that I’ve become more open with but that’s because we’ve been friends for over 15 years. Growing up taught me that showing emotion was weak and not what I was supposed to do. I was very sensitive as a kid and learned to hide and intellectualize my feelings rather than feel them
I think your experience is extremely typical.
Not really. It’s been 70/30. I have some male friends and there pretty intimate. Always doing things like slapping my butt and giving me sexual compliments/wolf whistling at me. At first it was pretty awkward then I thought to myself “what’s the problem?” There only complimenting you and there not exactly wrong😏.
But now I don’t know if there just being friendly or if there flirting with me. I’ve had women say similar things to me before.
I say this in the gentlest way possible: you keep writing “there” when you mean “they’re” or “their” and it’s making it hard to read your posts.
So do you think my friends are flirting or just being friendly?
I have absolutely no idea.
Girlfriends have naked bubble make out pillow fights. Guys do not.
You are going to the wrong parties
Can confirm. There are a few web sites that have video evidence. Google it, and thank me later.
No. Not in my experience anyway. That said, furries are a whole different breed. Furries love sharing physical intimacy. Cuddle piles in the furry community are a real thing.
“furries are a whole different breed.”
I see what you did there
100% intended. But seriously, the furry community is the place where you’ll get guys being just as cuddly as gals, if not moreso, depending on your orientation.
I’m (m) somewhat “intimate” with my friends I’ll hug and stuff. But I’ll play it off as a joke half the time depending on who. I was fortunate enough to have made really great friends in high-school that I can be more friendly and am secure enough that if anyone said anything it wouldn’t phase me
Women being intimate openly remains more socially acceptable than men doing it, at least presumed heterosexual men.
I have noticed a shift in the last five years and more of the (heterosexual) men in my social circles have openly hugged me more enthusiastically than they used to.
I have become more comfortable being affectionate in public in general, but that’s about becoming more comfortable with myself, rather than a matter of what’s assumed to be socially acceptable of the various genders. I’m definitely falling into the category of life’s too short and I’ll be dead sooner than I’d like to admit, so here I am, motherfuckers. Deal with it.
