You act like I disagree with you or am a card carrying Democrat lol (I’m not and I agree with almost all of this). I revile the concept of vote blue no matter who. I just don’t think it’s fair for you to insert and enforce your experience with gender onto everyone else. As you say yourself:

People misgender me all the time. I don’t care

Yet many people do care. For many, the misgendering is enextricably entangled with violence, loss of family, loss of medicine. Who are you to blame these people for their “emotional” experiences with violence and loss?

It’s not out of malice

Sounds like you are in a unique and privelaged position here. You shouldn’t speak for others where it is out of malice. Just because you have the privilege to not care right now doesn’t make it okay to use other people’s experience as a downplay.

Anyway I will end this conversation as it’s clearly not going anywhere. Just be respectful to queer people who share identities and experiences with you eh? It’s not that hard. (And to reiterate one more time since that seems to be your railroaded train of thought, I have no defense of the Democratic Party.)