I tend to believe people don’t really change but they do tend to show their true colors eventually. However, some of us are not a great judge of character.
Some of my best friends acted liberal until they hit 30 and suddenly they were Uber conservative. I’m less concerned with if they were really liberal before and more concerned with what they’re okay with now. No longer friends with any of them because these are basic morality concerns
I’ve dated conservative women a few times, they definitely said things like “I don’t let that come into my relationships” and that never ended up being the fact. And goddamn it they all were REALLY into D/s dynamics. Albeit that’s a quality I typically find in a partner, but tbh they kinda excelled at playing the role phew.
Any of those topics that people who care more about society being polite than just tell you to avoid are ones that should be not just discussed but agreed on before making a relationship legally binding. Religion, money, politics. They are each too serious for “agree to disagree” to last long.
My stepmom lived in one of the most liberal towns in Massachusetts, running a Montessori program before she and my Fox News watching dad got married. (We never actually talked about politics because they “had an agreement,” but I have to assume she was very liberal- probably not very left though)
She started voting republican after a few years :(
It helps to understand what’s happening, gives some support, and some tips to wean our elders out of right-wing extremism. It’s quite good and potentially helpful.
Why marry a turd in the first place? 🤷
I tend to believe people don’t really change but they do tend to show their true colors eventually. However, some of us are not a great judge of character.
Life is also complicated and messy.
A drunk action is a sober thought.
I disagree. Some people do change. Learn new things, car accidents change your life, cancer changes your life, new job, …
The only thing constant is change.
Can confirm. I was a hard right conservative during Obama.
Life happens and now I’m an anti-capitalist pro-union progressive.
Congratulations on your positive change :)
You can always bet on people changing and never on how they’ll do it
Some of my best friends acted liberal until they hit 30 and suddenly they were Uber conservative. I’m less concerned with if they were really liberal before and more concerned with what they’re okay with now. No longer friends with any of them because these are basic morality concerns
Young conservative men have trouble getting laid.
Alternatively, both Republican, and she changed for the better for herself.
I’ve dated conservative women a few times, they definitely said things like “I don’t let that come into my relationships” and that never ended up being the fact. And goddamn it they all were REALLY into D/s dynamics. Albeit that’s a quality I typically find in a partner, but tbh they kinda excelled at playing the role phew.
The basis of right wing thought is hierarchies.
I personality know two very liberal women who married right wing nutjobs, the first one was with a full MAGA guy and she thought she could change him.
The other one thought that political differences didn’t matter in a romantic relationship (it did).
Both ended up in divorce.
Any of those topics that people who care more about society being polite than just tell you to avoid are ones that should be not just discussed but agreed on before making a relationship legally binding. Religion, money, politics. They are each too serious for “agree to disagree” to last long.
Has this ever worked?! Like a single time in the history of our species?
My stepmom lived in one of the most liberal towns in Massachusetts, running a Montessori program before she and my Fox News watching dad got married. (We never actually talked about politics because they “had an agreement,” but I have to assume she was very liberal- probably not very left though)
She started voting republican after a few years :(
Things happen. Stuff. Reasons.
People also change, and someone may over the long haul become something you didn’t really expect out of them.
Anyone who knows friends or family that fell down the magat hole understand this
This.There exists a pipeline from somewhere on the left to the alt right. It is dangerous to think otherwise.
This was my dad. He was always right leaning but then Trump came along and he went die hard political full on Trumpet.
He’s one of the smartest people I know and watching him get more involved and more and more angry was terrifying.
I’m sorry about your dad, truly.
Someone posted this elsewhere, and I’m adding it for visibility because it’s an important watch for people in situations like yours:
*The Brainwashing of My Dad on freevee, Pluto, Roku, and Prime].
It helps to understand what’s happening, gives some support, and some tips to wean our elders out of right-wing extremism. It’s quite good and potentially helpful.
Because not everyone makes their political alignment their entire personality.