young with a mustache…
In the romantic sense, someone that seems dumb or childish. I just can’t go there without some sense of being a peer.
Ok, I get that you don’t like stupid people, but you shouldn’t judge people solely on how they act. You can act like a child and be a intelligent and a competent person.
I have a sister who I’m close with, who has all kinds of dinosaur-themed stuff and loves it. That’s not the issue. It was a poor choice of wording I guess to describe it that way. I had an exchange recently where I literally felt like I was talking to a kid after a while, though, and all thoughts of romance were immediately dead, so that was my first thought.
you shouldn’t judge people solely on how they act
I’d say it’s impossible to do it I any other way. We’re not telepaths and intent is not magic.
The way people act is the interface with which you interact with them. It makes little difference if what lurks behind is an intelligent person or a child if they both behave the same.
The opposite for me tbh, someone who can’t let loose and have some stupid fun every so often isn’t my bag.
I would agree unless the looseness and stupidity is caused by alcohol. In that case is a huge red flag.
I’m still in the middle there, sometimes is fine but if it’s the only way or all the time it’s a problem.
A stick up the ass isn’t the exact same thing as low intelligence or whatever this turnoff is, but then again I’m not good at let-loose stupid fun, so maybe I’m biased.
Either way, more left for me, as they say, as long as everyone’s having a good consensual time.
There’s a difference between goofy and dumb. Goofy is fun, I’m all over that. Actually dumb is exhausting and awkward, it’s just not fun
Yeah, not my best wording.
Sure, but “dumb and childish” to me conveys “dumb as in goofy” rather than “dumb as in a bag of rocks,” and that is why I responded with disagreement related to such. The operative word here is really “childish,” tbh. They go on to say that they are not good at letting loose, but also clarify that they meant “low intelligence.” It is unclear if they perceive goofy fun as a sign of low intelligence in and of itself.
In any case, arguing the semantics of the phrase “dumb and childish” doesn’t meet my definition of fun lol. Like I said “different strokes,” people can like different things and I think that is wonderful tbh.
That makes sense and that’s fair
Displaying Narcissistic tendencies. And or lying
I firmly believe that love should be color blind, which is why I never see any red flags.
Being rude to service staff. Immediate indicator on who they are as a person. There is zero reason to ever be mad at someone making near minimum wage whose job it is to grab you a drink or check you out or something. It also shows that they’ve themselves never worked service, which is a rite of passage
“Why should I tip?! I’m already paying for the service!”
Immediately leave without even telling them to take a cab.
That is specifically a US problem.
Not necessarily. I’m not in the US, but we’ve imported a lot of their less savoury customs, and tipping culture is one of them. It is costumary to tip 18% where I’m from.
If I am ordering and picking up at a counter fuck tipping. If I’m actually being waited on then I’ll always tip if the service wasn’t dogshit.
I tip in those situations because the $5 won’t make a difference to me, but might to them.
Like, if you’re broke, whatever. But some people are pulling in seven figures annually and still whine about a $5 tip.
Happens to be true in all modern western countries though, only the US seems unable to force companies to pay a livable minimum wage.
Smoking cigarettes
Does this apply to vape and weed?
Yes, but not to the same degree.
Might be picky but if they don’t return their shopping carts or just leaves it in a parking spot
Cart narcs are fucking annoying and it’s only a matter of time until someone pulls a gun on one
That already happened to him in Texas hahaha
based
Probably. That would be wrong, though. If you’re really sure you want to leave the cart right there just ignore them.
if some dude was hounding me/getting in my face they’re gonna learn a little lesson
Ah, and then you go to jail, where you can put your epic tacticool alpha-wolf skills to the ultimate test! Shit fury on them! They’re dead kiddo! /s
Good thing my state has stand your ground laws. Plus I’m white so cops would most likely just give me a pass anyways.
What an excellent understanding of stand your ground laws. /s
Unfortunately no amount of bait will allow you to shoot me through the keyboard.
Smoker.
Poor hygiene.
General negativity or insecurity.
Late to time commitments.
Drinks/imbibes beyond group vibes.
Drinks/imbibes beyond group vibes.
Man, I have a couple friends that have this exact problem and it’s tiresome…
drinks/imbibes beyond group vibes.
How about drinking while cooking? Yk, having wine while cooking steak au jus or something.
I don’t have a problem with drinking. It’s unattractive when someone ignores the situation and drinks way too much. “Beyond group vibes” means out of touch with whoever they’re drinking with.
If everyone else is enjoying a quiet get together, maybe one drink or two, don’t get raging drunk. If everyone else is smoking weed, don’t start doing shrooms.
If it’s a party where everyone’s drinking more and plans to get home safely have been established, then go ahead and drink to match.
On early dates, getting to know someone, I’m having one drink if any at all as a matter of safety. If the guy I’m out with gets drunk while I’m sober, that’s an ick.
Hm, yeah that’s more than reasonable.
Certain accents. She can be gorgeous and all, but some accents are an immediate turnoff for me…
What accents in specific?
The ones associated with poverty are the usual ones that catch crap. Regional or recent immigrant.
Maybe this person is going to surprise me and just finds Australian or Parisian French grating personally, though.
Now we need to know which ones.
I’m gonna bet bri’ish
🚨 Eurocentrism incoming 🚨
Someone that takes abstract statements personally and responds in anger. It shows a lack of self awareness and depth. It also implies that they have a limited binary view of the world around them; a bipolar me versus others perspective outlook.
Lemmy.ml mod /s
+1 to being rude to service staff Also MAGA apparel or citing Jesus/God constantly
Can I interest you in this Chick Tract?
/s
It depends. I run a bar and also frequent bars. I see a lot of behavior from wait staff I’d fire them for. Wait staff endlessly bitch about customers but its a two way street, staff develops a blind spot to their own behavior due to spending so much time in a bar.
Bro they are working in a high intensity environment. You are there to have fun. They are talking behind your back. (So how does that affect you?) Versus actively being a jerk to someone just doing their job (which is, unfortunately, to engage with you). It’s not the same.
Are you really trying to explain running a bar to me? Anyways your answer is horseshit. I work in that high intensity environment and see the blinders go on. Innocuous requests by customers turn into staff acting like it’s a massive imposition. They openly talk to me because they’ve been at my bar, served by me, and I know who’s I’d hire and I wouldn’t from the free talk.
Cool story bro.
Republican
Status quo defender
Whimsical, fame-seeking change maker.
More this for me. I deal with activist drama enough just doing activist stuff.
fame-seeking
I agree there, lol. I’m not into people who are doing what they do for the fame.
I do all my activism on the sly. Publicly, I’m a status quo defender.
I’ll have you know, Rockin’ All Over the World is a fine song.
I like it…
Whatever you want…
Far right or far left. Both obnoxious. How hard is it to do what’s right for people and not have to be on either end of a fucking seesaw?
What if an opinion held on the far end of the spectrum is what is actually right for people? Do you dismiss it because of being on the end of the fucking seesaw?
Obviously. Im just not dumb enough to put myself in a box.
Some of us have held our political opinions since before 2016. We’re much more bearable, even those of us on the far left. I firmly believe people need to go through an obnoxious political phase. It’s just way more normal to go through it in high school/college. But will it be just a phase when people are going through it in their adulthood? I dunno. But I guess we’ll have to find out the hard way.
I was so apathetic in my early voting years, so I guess I’m doing my weird political thing in mid-life.
I mean, it’s great that people are getting more involved and aware. But I think the combination of the explosion of political awareness with the current state of discourse thanks to social media/the devolution of the right into petty, bald-faced, reactionary rage (some of you may not have been around for this, but the right used to have a mask over their petty reactionary rage) has made for a noxious cocktail of nothing of value ever being discussed.
Now, was it more frustrating when they were less open about their intentions? Sure. Because it felt like shouting at a wall. And it was more “boring” to be politically aware. But under those wraps we had the patriot act, PNAC, intelligent neocons playing politics way more competently, and a serious problem with somehow even less conscientious democrats.
But now we have companies operating blanket eavesdropping via apps/home aid/LLMs (and the patriot act is still hanging around), project REDMAP/Project 2025, less than intelligent far right lunatics not understanding how to play politics, and democrats playing conscientious for appearances while still being, at best, useless neoliberals and at worst, reactionaries themselves.
Things have changed, and not for the better. Add on top of that discourse deteriorating into nonsense while everyone throws their hat in the mix with their uninformed opinions…it’s a depressing landscape. So, I don’t know if people can grow out of that obnoxious, I’ll-informed political stage because that’s just politics now.
