• Madlaine@feddit.de
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      1 year ago

      Baby-Transfem here, started HRT literally last week:

      Until last friday I was suicidal, constantly depressed and full of self-hate I couldn’t understand.

      Since I got my first dose estrogen my mental health drastically improved (as did some other hormone-related body functions that only need the hormones in my blood but not necessarily a prolonged exposure).

      I learned from my doc that some transpersons have a brain structure of their non-assigned sex and then show exactly my pattern of relief; meaning my brain was actually born to be estrogen- instead of testosterone-dominated. (which seems to be based on the hormones oned mom exposed one during 3-4th and 10-14th week of infancy. One periods influences the gender of the brain, the other the sex of the general body)

      So while I see where you are coming from, and I heavily prepare myself for all the sexism that will probably bring me back to earth as soon as I visually feminize; I can attest that HRT improved both drastically for me (for now)

    • CheesyCheese1 [She/her]@lemmy.caOP
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      1 year ago

      I think the person who made this list did not grow up as a girl.

      Are you trying to argue that us trans women aren’t real women you disgusting pig?

      • MentalEdge@sopuli.xyz
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        1 year ago

        You are on a hair trigger, friend. No one’s trying to reject you or hurt you.

        Your meme didn’t land with some of us, that doesn’t make you any less valid.

        The meme implies the list of benefits simply comes with being a woman, not just from transitioning as a trans person.

        If you’re trans, every step of transitioning to your real gender is a real improvement to your life and health.

        But if you’re not trans, or are trans, but FtoM or just look at it a little different…

        The meme is rubbing people the wrong way because it mixed up the improvements that come from transitioning as a trans person, with being a woman being better than being a man.

        If you were assigned male and transitioned or started transitioning to female, of course your life and health will be better!

        But you accidentally implied being a woman automatically solves a bunch of problems that women absolutely can and do still have, and that the problems men have are caused by them being men.

    • HopeOfTheGunblade@kbin.social
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      1 year ago

      Depends on where you start. My mental state was pretty fucked before, and while I can’t say my self confidence is amazing, you shoulda seen it then. Definitely not for everyone, tho.

  • LostWanderer@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
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    1 year ago

    The same thing could be achieved by self reflection, developing emotional intelligence, and doing the work to improve as a man! That way hostile masculine feelings can be calmed.

    Nothing wrong with becoming a cute girl if that’s what will bring you gender euphoria.

  • comador @lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    No one remembers Metrosexual I guess. It was the 00’s attempt at trying to stop the stereotypical masculinity in hetero men.

    • southsamurai@sh.itjust.works
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      1 year ago

      Nah, people remember, it was just not that great at breaking hetero stereotypes. It just shifted them to being pretty while still thinking the same way. It was a step for sure, but not really a big one.

      What really helped break through the bullshit was gay men coming out and living life. When men started seeing the vast array of masculinity in that community, it allowed new discourse about what masculinity is, outside of the old patriarchal paradigm.

      You started seeing more men embrace their self and express it fully. The discussion about being free to express emotions, to be a nuturing man, to be gentle and kind and open with everyone started becoming a possibility instead of a weakness. And nobody had to give up anything to have that freedom. It’s still perfectly fine to be traditionally masculine if that’s who you are, as long as you aren’t trying to define others.

      From there, we all got to expand our personal definition of masculine for ourselves. And, as we move into a paradigm where everyone can just be who they are, without any need to label themselves if they don’t want to, we will be able to pick and choose even more. We can explore the fullness of human experience in a way I don’t think has ever been possible. And that is largely thanks to our trans and non binary friends and neighbors stepping up and living their lives without apology.

      Hell, if you ask me, the first step was back with the hippies and their long hair. Then the metalheads picking up that baton and running with it through the eighties until that one barrier to looking like a man was gone and likely gone for good. Those guys at the end of the boomer generation looking to escape the trap patriarchy had set for them took the first public step by growing their hair out and still being men, being comfortable with it.

      It takes time to shift perceptions. It takes people at the edges being willing to step forward and be the change.

  • Asherah@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    This gives a very specific kind of trans woman vibe and I don’t think I like it. I think it’s the “angry masculine mannerisms” that is bothering me. Masc / butch trans women exist too, and it feels weird to imply only men get angry. This seems to simplify and put into a box what being a trans woman is.

    Edit: also HRT affects everyone differently and to act like it makes everyone cute and small and feminine is misleading. Being trans is exhausting sometimes and takes a lot of work, and some may never fit this description regardless of how hard they try.

    Edit 2: I’m a trans woman myself and I’m nearly 99% sure OP is just a troll at this point. If not, she’s seriously making herself look like a moron.

  • SuiXi3D@fedia.io
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    1 year ago

    So, like, I literally don’t care if someone identifies as whatever gender. You do you.

    Just don’t tell me how to do me.