Incompatible taste in music. My taste is the benchmark they have to meet and I will not compromise, obviously.
this is why i like to date people who don’t care about music.
My home theater. I love movies and if someone said I couldn’t have it hooked up to the main TV I’d walk. I’d rather date someone who either enjoys it or at least it’s neutral on having there.
Also I don’t care if they have a garden. But it will be classified as a hobby, not as yard work or house work when they work in it. Because I’ll never work in one.
If it’s something you want and your partner doesn’t care one way or the other about, it shouldn’t factor in.
If you want to make the candles you use around the house, maybe they smell nice, maybe they get used, maybe they’re cheaper than store-bought, but that’s a hobby.
If you do a bunch of baking, especially for people outside the home but even inside it, and your partner isn’t all about you cooking, that’s a hobby, and you clean up your own mess. That’s not chores (unless you’re getting paid).
Chores are necessities to keep the communal house going, not anything that takes effort.
I agree with the basic maintenance thing being a chore, but I understand where OP is coming from. So if one person out of the pair decides with previous warning that they want to plant a bunch of stuff then it’s their responsability to take care of them.
In my situation for example, I live with my partner in an apartment, and the vases are his to maintain and take care of. We’ve talked about where we would live next and my parter wants a yard and I don’t. So I’ve forewarned him that if we have a yard in a future house it belongs to him, and any decisions to move to a house with a yard come with that agreement. This is all very different situation to living in a house with a yard already, or not having the choice when moving for some reason.
Exactly. I fully agree
I don’t expect help in the garden on an everyday basis, no way. I do what I want with it, don’t take requests, so it’s mine and my responsibility. But since everyone gets food out of it, they do help occasionally with bigger things; carrying dirt from front driveway to garden, building planters.
Home theater, who cares? Wouldn’t everyone put that on the biggest TV? We have only one TV but if there were two of course the bigger one would make the most sense.
Oh, on that - TV in the bedroom is a no for me, too. Doesn’t matter for casual, but if I am living somewhere I never want a TV in the bedroom. Music speaker yes, that’s fine. TV no way. Thankfully we’ve had space outside of bedroom for gaming and TV and computer, that is very important to me.
Being unnecessarily wasteful with food. Not even attempting to save it or tossing all away over some easily resolvable issue like “I’m not hungry right now” Throws in trash.
Smoking.
Not at all trivial!
For some it is. Sadly
This one got me absolutely destroyed on reddit once upon a time. I have asthma and allergies, but apparently it’s really because I’m classiest and racist. It was a fascinating thread.
…how is smoking supposed to be connected to race? In any way?
Menthols maybe? And that it’s harder for people of a lower socioeconomic status to quit smoking? Otherwise, no idea.
Yeah, that was my assumption. Poor people are more likely to smoke, black people are more likely to be stuck in a cycle of poverty, therefore…?
I don’t disagree with those two sentences, but then making the jump to personal health and personal dating preferences is quite the leap.
I think someone got butthurt that they didn’t have a shot with a random lady on the internet they would never meet, got defensive, and the too-much-time-online types ran with it.
I couldn’t date a cop
That’s just a safety tip
Just the tip.
Something something, fuck the police!
Not like that
My sister in law is a cop when she’s not moonlighting as EMT or Fire. Met my wife Through her as the mutual friend. Her whole family is great.
I just don’t know where this toxic generalization comes from.
Do you actually not know where the generalization comes from, or do you just not like it?
Probably just salty about the tear gas. Maybe they just can’t get over being beaten to near hospitalization with a bicycle for protesting peacefully.
People who downvote EMTs and firefighters have a special place in hell.
People who downvote American cops have a special place in heaven.
What you want to do is hit back, and read a few headlines. I guarantee you’ll figure it out. I have faith in you.
wearing makeup or earrings
turns out i just don’t like that
At least to the people around me, frequent substance us.
I would argue that doesn’t qualify as trivial.
What my friends would say to me is “who cares if they do a bit of weed (understatement), or get drunk once or twice a month?”
Personally, if you need substances to have fun, you’re boring.
Uses tabs instead of spaces.
But once they go through the compiler they’re essentially the same!
// think people missed the reference
But I don’t want a GF who’s gone through a compiler
but she will be optimised for your hardware!
I’m using both a the same time, one tab, two space, another tab…
This way everyone is happy.
You’re a maniac- in the best way possible.
This kills the python
Drinks Tab in Space.
Uses spaces instead of tabs.
Username checks out
Motor mouth
Mixes spaces and tabs in the same line
So really any tab user in any language requiring alignment then?
That’s not a trivial thing, that’s a war crime
Littering.
When someone carelessly throws their trash on the ground, that says a huge amount about their respect for other people, their feelings about the environment, and even their views on social equality.
It’s a tiny thing, but an immediate dealbreaker.
People who throw their trash on the ground are the same people who yell and get mad at minimum-wage staff, while those staff hold back tears. They are the people who take more food at a buffet restaurant than they could ever even eat. They are the people who think the world and everyone in it owes them whatever they want, but without ever giving anything back.
I bet we all know a person whose car looks like a scary biohazard of old drive-through cups they haven’t cleaned yet, but I’d much rather date that person than someone who throws it all out the window.
I think whether or not they litter and whether or not they return the shopping cart are two good ways to judge someone’s character.
Eats with their mouth open or similar mouth noises. It’s not misophonia, you’re just a degenerate scumbag and I will end your line!
Driving slow in the left hand lane
That’s where you’re ment to be if you’re slow.
I was going to say only criminals drive slowly in the left lane, but then I saw. Carry on!
You drive on the wrong side of the road, for you its the right lane
If I drove on the other side of the road I would have a lot of accidents.
I’m assuming they’re North American.
Treats servers badly. Both in restaurants and in IT infrastructure.
That’s not trivial at all!
