• nightofmichelinstars@sopuli.xyz
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    21 days ago

    My ex was Latina, and when we were getting to know each other I mentioned I’m pretty introverted, and I had to explain to her what it meant. She said it doesn’t exist in Latino culture and there are no Latino introverts. I told her she probably calls them alcoholics. That seemed to resonate.

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    22 days ago

    Never felt more identified with a post. I’ve been saying this for a while and all they tell me is “just dance!” :(

  • Kenny2999@lemmy.world
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    22 days ago

    Op would love Finland. Only ever talked to one stranger (who is now my wife) and the only thing we shake is the umbrella. And booze, well you will need it too.

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    I always wondered how it is to be an introvert in such “loud” cultures. Now my guess is confirmed.

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    I felt this way in my own home culture as well. I grew up in a red bubble in a blue state in the US, where the underlying currents were no more than “conformity and hometown pride.” Oddly, the only things to be “proud” of were conformity itself and high school football (the pride-surrogate of adults with nothing better to celebrate.) It was all so hollow, and when 9/11 happened it all turned up to… well, 11. Being 12 and saying, “I don’t think this war makes sense” was enough to ostracize one’s self and be bombarded with the brain-dead argument of, “iF yOu hAtE AMURICA tHeN yOu cAn JuSt LEAVE!” Yeah okay, parrot. It was always obvious the kids just absorbed whatever mindless take their parents said (which was, itself, picked up from other people or Fox News.)

    Man, thinking of my hometown always brings out a rant… Anyway, I grew up always feeling like a stranger in my own home, bullied and cast aside for not being like the rest. Thank goodness I was able to GTFO and meet people who use their brains as more than a copy/paste bin for other people’s thoughts.

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      lol. same upbringing. nobody understands how common this is in most of small town america. probably because they only ‘small towns’ they are familiar with are all the tourist spots, which are not really small town at all because they are full of city people.

      i went from being suicidal everyday to actually being happy and feeling good… because i got out. I was in tears i was so happy my first week in college, of being free from all that horrible ignorant bullshit. people really do not get how utterly provincial these places are.

      god my primary/secondary education was so AWFUL too. nobody in the entire system had any legit knowledge. it was all just deadbeat losers whose biggest goal and achievement in was going to a pro sports game and being bitter about life that other people actually did something with theirs.

      sadly a lot of my friends dropped out of college because it was ‘too hard’ to think for themselves and they ended up moving home, getting shitty local jobs usually working for their dad, and just popping out 2-3 kids by 24 and just repeating the cycle.

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        god my primary/secondary education was so AWFUL too. nobody in the entire system had any legit knowledge

        lol i know that feeling. that’s why i studied so much, to bring the knowledge into the world.

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      I grew up in the US from the age of five and the level of culture shock that hit me in kindergarten when no one knew who the fuck Manchester United was and that’s not a real jersey etc etc etc. it had Best on the back and everyone thought it meant i thought I was the best and I still remember that feeling today.

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      21 days ago

      I appreciate anti-fascist a lot but anti-fascists despite also getting opposed for it I appreciate even more.

      • UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml
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        18 days ago

        I read your comment a couple times, scrolled up to the parent comment, and read yours again. I still dont understand what youre saying.

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          That’s fair, I commented at around 1 am.

          I appreciate people who are against fascism, and I REALLY appreciate people who kept to those ideals through hardships.

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    On the other hand, growing up in this kind of culture, I’ve now been forged into the rare introvert who can dance, sing, and has amazing people skills when needed.

    It’s draining, but useful.

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    21 days ago

    A girl I’m dating fits this person’s stereotypical description of latinas to a T. And she also considers herself introverted 🙄

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      Colombian food isn’t spicy. Spice is high in like Mexico and Central America but that’s not universal across Latin cuisines ex. I know an Ecuadorian who can’t even take a sprinkle of black pepper without having to fan their mouth. Will happily eat vigorously salted green grapes, green apples or green mangos without batting an eye though.

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      I’m an ambivert. I’m also not particularly into watching a good percentage of sports, but I’ll pretty much go to anything if a friend asks if I want to join them going to an event or even just watch it with them somewhere.

      Doesn’t really just apply to sports either, up for anything really: gigs, art exhibitions, hikes, cinema, visiting a random town for some reason, you name it.

      Firstly, I can’t exactly knock something until I’ve given it a good go, but more importantly for me, it’s time I get to spend with one/some of my mates and might result in some good memories. Reminder that introversion is not the same thing as social anxiety, introverts generally also like to hang out with their friends.

      Plus I also like photography, so random days out are a good way to get pictures you wouldn’t otherwise.

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        And extroverts can be socially anxious. I need to go out and talk to people and do things, but fuck am I awkward about it

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        Oh yeah, I definitely know the difference between social anxiety and introversion. Social anxiety is when it’s intensely uncomfortable to even talk to my dad, or my partner. Introversion is being capable of having a nice day all on my own, but still being totally up for hanging out with friends, as long as I get time alone often enough in between.

        Ironically I even like sporting events if me and my friends are actually there in the stadium. The feel of the crowd is magical. But that’s not really about the sport

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      22 days ago

      I hate that the end of every news segment on radio and TV ends in “sports”.

      Sports is not fucking news. Stop wasting our fucking time perpetuating a tribalist game

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          22 days ago

          Sport is politics in Europe, at least. It’s important who you support because sports clubs are often tied to political movements.

          You don’t want to support Lazio, for instance, and Real Madrid was Franco’s club.

          Anyway, politics is also a sort of game as you say.

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            Football hooliganism must be the endgame of “everything is political.” I see it as something to preferably be avoided personally.

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            Not every European country. I’d wager it’s mostly Southern and Eastern Europe where that is the case.

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              True, though there’s also FC St. Pauli (antifascist) vs Hansa Rostock (neonazi). Can’t think of anything from Denmark, off the top of my head, or the UK. Not much of a football fan tbh.

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      I’m mostly baffled that when people don’t even understand the concept of “not liking sports” I have a lot of smalltalk at work with dudes and it’s always something like: wait, so you have no idea who won the football game? What happened?

      Oh i don’t watch football.

      Never?

      Nope, i have never seen a football match.

      Huh. So you just watch the big games.

      No, never.

      But you watch the World championship.

      No.

      Not even when your country plays?

      Is it still millionaires chasing a ball in a really boring manner? Then still no.

      It’s not even just sports, somehow, some people can’t comprehend that someone doesn’t like or even know of “insert mainstream thing”. C’mon, stop pretending you don’t know famous artist who sells out stadiums. For fucks sake, why would i? I maybe read their name at some point or maybe a song was once playing in a mall, but other than that we don’t live the same life.

      • Turns out these people identify with the teams and feel a victory as if it was their own. The “We won!” crowd. Some other folks have a stronger separation between self and other and don’t have any emotional attachment with some sports team that did something.

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          I once talked with my date about football and she said, well, when there is a really big game, she likes to watch, otherwise not really. And i asked why, it’s the same game. And she said, she doesn’t really know, she just likes to cheer for a team and hopes that they win. Which i found interesting. It’s like gambling, but boring and stretched out. When i was younger and people asked me what my team was, i always asked which team is the best, or winning, and that was my answer. Then you get so much shit for being a bandwagon fan. Like dude, you are cheering for a team that has been losing for 10 years like your life depends on it, get a grip.

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          Turns out these people identify with the teams and feel a victory as if it was their own.

          to be fair, they make financial contributions to the club via merch, ticket sales, etc, which in turn impacts the success a team can achieve by spending that money

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        Fine, if you don’t like sports we can talk about the stock market. Tesla and Palantir, bro. Oil futures to the moon. Selling reverse vix puts. Alpha beta gamma I’m going to be rich.

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      indeed, came to point this out, nothing much has changed in 1000s of years though. Pie 'n footy os the new Bread 'n Circuses.

      https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bread_and_circuses

      Juvenal originally used it to decry the “selfishness” of common people and their neglect of wider concerns. The phrase implies a population’s erosion or ignorance of civic duty as a priority

      Loving in Has main a the biggest concern of the public is a es AFL football stadium and yet we have the worst health outcomes, the worst educational outcomes etc etc