• Multiplexer@discuss.tchncs.de
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    11 months ago

    Practically never in my whole live, standing in thousands of checkout lines, have l heard anyone say “Thank you” to another person placing a divider.
    Maybe under very special circumstances that primarily had nothing to do with the divider itself.

    It is in both person’s interest to place it, so the the one who has the opportunity to do it just does.

    Had I encountered the woman from the post, I just would have classified her as mentally not entirely stable and kept my distance…

      • Multiplexer@discuss.tchncs.de
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        11 months ago

        Which is totally ok!
        Although I would either be slighty confused by it or more likely wouldn’t even register it at all, as not expecting thanks to be directed at me.
        After all, placing the divider is somewhat of a selfish action on my part, omitting later stress…

        • Sciaphobia@sh.itjust.works
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          11 months ago

          I would thank you too. GET APPRECIATED BITCH.

          #idontthinkyoureabitch

          #sorryaboutthat

          #igotcarriedaway

          #thanksforthatdividerthingthough

    • WIZARD POPE💫@lemmy.world
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      11 months ago

      I had a girl say thabk you to me three days ago. But that was because I put the divider down and then used it to drag my stuff towards the cashier to make more space for her stuff.

      • Multiplexer@discuss.tchncs.de
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        11 months ago

        That’s one of the exceptions I was thinking about. Looking at someone and deciding to do something beneficial specifically for that person.

    • Shadowedcross@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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      11 months ago

      Do you live in a city? In the admittedly pretty large village I live in, I hear it almost every time I go to Home Bargains.

      • Multiplexer@discuss.tchncs.de
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        11 months ago

        Home Bargains is British, isn’t it?
        So maybe region-dependent custom.
        Here in Germany I would judge it to be equally uncommon both in cities and the more rural areas.

        • Shadowedcross@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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          11 months ago

          Yes, it is. I had assumed you were British, since the tweet is also about a British, albeit multinational, store chain. My bad, perhaps I should’ve looked at the instance you’re from.

  • Grilipper54@sh.itjust.works
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    11 months ago

    The divider is so the cashier knows when to stop ringing more stuff up because it isn’t yours. If she moved the divider back afterwards, that almost implies that she wants to buy the persons behind her products. The story makes no sense, the divider is something you put up for yourself, it just happens to benefit everybody.

  • Dae@pawb.social
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    11 months ago

    I am autistic. Talking to total strangers anywhere but online is really fucking hard. I find the words catching in my throat every time I go to speak. And even then, sometimes it’s barely above a whisper.

    To a normal person, this is petty. To me and mine, this is cruel. And you have no way to tell which it will be. Maybe you shouldn’t support this.

    • Nomorereddit@lemmy.today
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      11 months ago

      You can be a victim or a victor, you made your choice…needlessly.

      You can Literally order groceries to be picked up w no human interaction or go to self check out.

        • Nomorereddit@lemmy.today
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          11 months ago

          We live in a society in which that’s the preference of most people shopping today. Thus I dont think your advice is the best advice.

          Also, If you’re gonna (needlessly) waste everyones time gonna with a meltdown by causeing a scene, then you are being as selfish as someone driving slow in the fast lane.

          This is grocery shopping, get your celery and get out. Im not saying lock him in a padded room.

          • stray@pawb.social
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            11 months ago

            Not saying thank you isn’t having a meltdown or making a scene, nor is it analogous to unsafe driving practices. Are you thinking this up just because they said they’re autistic?

            My advice is only to not be passive-aggressive when people don’t behave the way you think they should, which is pretty low-effort.

    • deHaga@feddit.uk
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      11 months ago

      I’m autistic, rules are rules. The divider provider must be acknowledged.

      Voice is improved with practice. Join a toastmasters,or learn to sing?

      • webghost0101@sopuli.xyz
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        11 months ago

        Also autistic : Rules are a construct we ourself shape and create in order to archive the illusion of control over the raw anarchy that is the reality of free will and sovereign thought.

      • Dae@pawb.social
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        11 months ago

        Putting the divider down is also polite. Why are we expected to always be the most polite or suffer cruelty if we don’t comply? It’s a two-way street.

        And my voice is fine. It’s the presssure and anxiety of the situation. The nervousness makes it harder to speak loudly.

        The point here is that removing the divider after having placed it simply for the person not thanking them is petty at best and cruel at worst, and it simply shouldn’t happen.

        People should be better, and should have some fucking grace and consider that maybe said person has a hard time speaking, or yet again worse, is mute.

        • deHaga@feddit.uk
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          11 months ago

          And my voice is fine. It’s the presssure and anxiety of the situation. The nervousness makes it harder to speak loudly.

          Yes, that’s why you have to practice. I got over mine by working in a hifi shop when I was 16. You have to speak to people, practice makes you better

          • arnitbier@sh.itjust.worksBanned
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            11 months ago

            “I did something great, you must now do it or you are less than me 👋”

            Now let me condescend to you with advice that you don’t want from a pretty obviously petty person that overcame one small flaw

            Sounds great! Where do I sign up!

            Yeeeeeah fuck off with that

            And I’d tell you that, in person, both assertively and clearly

              • arnitbier@sh.itjust.worksBanned
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                11 months ago

                Yeah you clearly don’t have offline friends

                New flaw found! Gotta practice not being an asshole

                I overcame it when I was just a boy, you should practice more!

                Edit: I just couldn’t resist

                • deHaga@feddit.uk
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                  11 months ago

                  I think you might be taking this personally and not really understanding what it’s like.

                  It’s you that is lacking compassion.

                  Couldn’t resist what?

          • stray@pawb.social
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            11 months ago

            I agree that we should all work on ourselves to the best of our ability, but I think the point I’m sticking on is the idea that this person deserves to be punished with revenge rudeness if they fail to perform politeness a specific way.

        • rautapekoni@sopuli.xyz
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          11 months ago

          Putting the divider down is also polite. Why are we expected to always be the most polite or suffer cruelty if we don’t comply?

          I always put the divider down behind my stuff, line behind me or no, and expect nothing in return from the people behind me. If the person in front of me can’t be arsed to put the divider down after their stuff, it’s fun to see how many of my items get scanned before they get to have an awkward conversation with the cashier. Yes I’m normal and well adjusted, why do you ask?

      • WraithGear@lemmy.worldEnglish
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        11 months ago

        literally, the divider is to protect the person in front from having to pay for a accidental scan of the items the person behind them may place. it’s literally is everyone’s interest that the divider is there. don’t go expecting thanks yous in general but especially when the action was in self interest

    • WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today
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      11 months ago

      Cruelty usually is the point. It’s why I think humans should part ways from each other, end this civilizational bullshit.

      • SoleInvictus@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        11 months ago

        I can’t fault you. At least we should organize into groups of 150 or less, the theorized maximum number of people that your average hairless ape can comprehend compassionately.

        I propose a cell-based or council-network system that uses directly overlapping membership via 25 member subgroups, with each person a member of two groups. It maximizes empathic reach as members would better empathize with members of their two groups while increasing the likelihood members would empathize with members of a different group through the connection of another group member.

    • sneaky@r.nfEnglish
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      11 months ago

      I was over here thinking what if somebody didn’t even know that was what she was doing or that they were supposed to say thank you. Now that poor person will be left wondering what even happened because her resolution (picking it up and putting it back) provides no opportunity to learn.

  • elevenbones@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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    11 months ago

    Imagine needing to be thanked for that, yeah I can do it myself if you really have the need for pointless gratitude lol

  • Nanook@lemmy.zip
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    11 months ago

    Does Amanda not do shopping? You place the divider behind your shopping. It’s Tesco Woman’s turn to put the divider, she’s in front. If he places the divider in front of his groceries, she should say thank you.

    • prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      11 months ago

      Dunno if it’s a US vs UK thing, but my experience has always been the opposite. That is, you put the divider down before putting your groceries down

  • Zink@programming.dev
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    11 months ago

    I’m human and I enjoy these stories of pettiness just like anybody else.

    But if I may please speak in my “old man who has seen things” capacity for a moment, this is not the way to live. You should endeavor to do positive things every day to make life better for people around you as well as yourself. And you don’t do this because it gets you praise or rewards, you do it because of the internal rewards. It’s good for your mind.

  • alaphic@lemmy.world
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    11 months ago

    I’m sorry, I fail to see how this reads as anything other than “Amanda” being an insanely self-important cunt…

    So, if you “support this” feel free to assume that extends to you as well

    • skisnow@lemmy.caEnglish
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      11 months ago

      I’d recently blocked “LadyButterfly she/her” because I was getting fed up of her constant low effort ragebait, so I was surprised to see this post appear on my feed - it turns out she’s posting from multiple instances, presumably to get around either blocks or bans.

      • alaphic@lemmy.world
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        11 months ago

        Oh wow… Ya know, I’d noticed on a few occasions that she seemed to be the predominant poster in a few of my mental health/'tism related subs, but now that you’ve brought it to my attention I can’t seem to recall her posting anything OTHER THAN the most basic of basic bitch, LCD kinda stuff day in and day out… So the whole “secret identities” aspect tracks too 🤣😂

        • skisnow@lemmy.caEnglish
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          11 months ago

          Yup. Also the post captions always read a bit too engagmentey, if that makes sense? Like either the account is a bot, or it’s one that being run cynically by a professional who’s following a set of guidelines to maximize reach over anything like sincere interest or value or humanity. Even their username is giving suspicious “there are no girls on the internet” energy.

          • Wren@lemmy.todayEnglish
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            11 months ago

            People who get stirred to rage by someone momentarily impressed by mild and inconsequential pettiness: “This is some kind of social media conspiracy.”

            • skisnow@lemmy.caEnglish
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              11 months ago

              It’s hardly tinfoil hat time - I defy you to name a single poster anywhere on Lemmy who reads more like a repost bot or engagement farmer than that particular user.

              • Wren@lemmy.todayEnglish
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                11 months ago

                Shit, is she getting paid? How do I sign up?

                I browse by subscribed, so I don’t see a lot of stuff. But off the top of my head? Stamets, King, Mickey7, probably others I don’t recall.

                Pretty sure OP switched instances some time back if you’re wondering why you see her stuff.

                • Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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                  11 months ago

                  If I was getting paid I wouldn’t have needed to beg for money a few weeks ago just to try and remain homeless. If I was getting paid I wouldn’t be so worried about getting holiday gifts for my friends or myself. Getting paid… fuckin’ lol

                  It’s kinda funny to be honest. So many people get so worked up the second that they start seeing someone post because, to them, they cannot fathom someone posting that much to social media without an actual incentive whether that be monetary or anything else.

    • drolex@sopuli.xyz
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      11 months ago

      I’m sorry but I have to assume you’re not British (which is fine, not your fault). You wouldn’t survive one day in the jungle of unspoken rules of politeness that is a Tesco queue.

      No ‘thank you’ for a divider? That’s a firm mild stare for you

      No ‘no worries’ when people apologise for forgetting to thank you for the divider? Rude.

      No ‘nonono it was me luv’ when people tell you ‘no worries’ after you apologised for forgetting to thank them for the divider? Are you some sort of sociopathic asshole?

  • Wren@lemmy.todayEnglish
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    11 months ago

    Reminds me of the time I accidentally blocked someone behind me in the grocery store. Before I could say anthing, she shouted “Some people say excuse me!”

    So I looked all confused and did sign language saying I couldn’t hear. I will never feel bad about it because I’m trash and divider woman can join my trash villain team.

    • LifeInMultipleChoice@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
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      11 months ago

      Just for fun I would have considered not putting the divider in so they had to make sure they told the cashier when the last item was, or pay for stuff they didn’t want.

      • pinball_wizard@lemmy.zip
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        11 months ago

        I took would have left the divider out, because I default to assume others are acting in good faith.

        I would have wondered why we needed to not use a divider, today. I would have assumed she knew something I didn’t know. And then I would have shrugged and left it how she put it.

        So I guess I would have achieved an accidental malicious compliance. Haha.

        Edit: No joke or anything, I’m just that naive sometimes.

        • LifeInMultipleChoice@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
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          11 months ago

          When the calling comes, one must crab. No one knows when the call will come, sometimes you’re just standing in line at the market… then you gotta pop it, drop it, lock it, and crab your way out 🦀🦀🦀🦀

  • stupidcasey@lemmy.world
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    11 months ago

    If you require a thank you you didn’t do it for them you did it for the validation, not saying you shouldn’t say thanks but that if you do something for someone you should expect nothing for it to be truly altruistic.

    • smeenz@lemmy.nz
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      11 months ago

      Yeah exactly. This is like holding a door for the person 2 steps behind you. It’s something that decent people do without a second thought, because it’s the right thing to do.