• theneverfox@pawb.social
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    1 month ago

    Sure, the danger is real and that people need to protect themselves

    It’s also incredibly offensive to do it directly.

    The polite thing to do is make being safe a matter of course. It’s very normal to meet in public, it’s normal to do checkup texts, it’s fine to do a group activity if it’s a group activity. We’ve spent decades normalizing subtle ways to do this

    There’s a degree of social hygiene necessary, or society falls apart.

    • Alaknár@sopuli.xyz
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      1 month ago

      It’s also incredibly offensive to do it directly.

      Only if you’re incredibly insecure about yourself.

      The polite thing to do (…)

      Overall - I agree, to certain degree. In my opinion, however, society is already “falling apart” due to how social media trains younger people for immediate gratification, everything is fast. Dating is also fast, and people don’t want to “waste time” on “incompatible people”.

      Dating these days is “let’s have a date and see what happens”, not “let’s get to know each other and see if we want to date”.

      Also, lots of people are pretty lonely, so “group activity” is not possible for them.