Even this attitude of educating others, like every trans person is suddenly an expert in psychology or something.

The education isn’t a teacher to a student. It’s a person revealing their life experience to others. Maybe they don’t want to constantly talk about their life experience with people who might not understand.

The way you frame it furthers the exclusivity of the group, which is odd to me because I would think trans people would want more people in their communities.

Why would you think that should be a universal thing, for communities to want to constantly expand and include people that may not share the same values as the community?

Would you expect every religious person to answer every concern or question that you have about their religion? Would you walk into a church, and expect the average parishioner to hear your concerns about the afterlife, and questions about inconsistencies in the bible?

If you don’t know how to sew, and will never sew a garment in your life, would you walk into a sewing club and expect them to welcome you in?

Or would you understand that maybe they’re in their own place, and don’t want to talk to you?

I repeat:

sometimes people want to have a space to exist without constantly justifying that existence to others.