First off I’m sorry this is happening. It’s abuse and not at all okay.

Hut more to your point, this “friend” , isn’t a friend. It’s just someone you know. Anyone who makes excuses for your physical harm isn’t concerned about your well being. You need to find different people for your support system.

These people suggesting CPS. Good luck the next system can be just as bad.

Your “friend” is an idiot. You should not share anything personal with her. This situation is NOT normal. Take a deep breath. Sit down and write out what’s going on between you and your dad. See if your state has a CPS website and find out what the process is for reporting abuse (and find out what they consider to BE abuse. I’m pretty sure deliberate starvation qualifies.).

Do you have any friends outside the home you trust and can stay with, short term? Cops aren’t going to be useful, here. They’re not CPS or mental health caregivers and they’ll probably just take you back home to your dad.

Bruh I think you need CPS

DM me. I would be happy to help you get help.

Seek help from a trusted adult. Teacher, parent of a friend that you trust, wherever you can.

Maybe someone should create a relationship advice community, because [email protected] isn’t supposed to be that. It’s supposed to be an r/AskReddit clone.

There is a lot of evidence that this type of punishment is counter productive and leads to more problems that it solves. EG https://healthy.kaiserpermanente.org/health-wellness/health-encyclopedia/he.corporal-punishment.tm4923

Maybe you can show her those things and point out that those behaviors do not create healthy relationships. If she agrees with him, maybe her relationship is also not healthy, and should be limited.

Punch her in the mouth and then say you’re just trying to shape her into the perfect young lady.

But more reasonably, let her know she’s a monstrous piece of shit and an awful friend and that you’ll be cutting ties due to her pro-child-abuse beliefs. Then do that.

I hope you can find a safe situation somewhere far away from these assholes soon.

In all seriousness, what do I do? Stop talking to her? Talk to her? Be her friend despite it?

Find her father, seduce him, become pregnant with his child, cause him to divorce his wife, forever remind your “friend” that you are her mother now, cut her out of the will, watch her become destitute, laugh at her as she ages prematurely from stress.

In the short term? Grey rock your “friend.” This person is an enabling shit who does not have your best interests at heart. You are being physically abused. What you describe isn’t corporal punishment (which I personally consider to still be physical abuse), it is abuse. Starving someone to punish them is abuse. Anyone who takes part in, or enables said abuse is not someone you want in your life.

Do you have anyone safe in your life that you could go to? Other friends that would not condone what you are experiencing? An estranged parent? Even a trustworthy teacher? I’d recommend trying to build up a support network of people who actually care for your well being before pushing this enabling piece of trash out of your life.

Tell her to fuck off. She doesn’t care about you.

Maybe her view on proper parenting is also skewed by abuse? Not that it makes it ok. Was just talking with my psych, apparently the way my mother treated me growing up is considered abuse, just not the physical type. It really fucks with your head when you grow up with that sorta treatment.

Either way, don’t settle for abuse. Keep notes about incidents times, dates, what happened, any photographic evidence of bruises from beatings. Go see your local police if you trust them, if not try to look up any youth assistance groups.

Fake or go to the police. Gather evidence of your father’s actions first, then report him. Full stop, end of post. The friend is literally irrelevant.

https://childhelplineinternational.org/helplines/