My dad literally hits me and punishes me by starving me. However, my friend says he’s “just trying to shape me into the perfect young man” and that he “truly loves me”. This almost makes me think she’s either my dad in secret or dating my dad.
In all seriousness, what do I do? Stop talking to her? Talk to her? Be her friend despite it?
In the short term? Grey rock your “friend.” This person is an enabling shit who does not have your best interests at heart. You are being physically abused. What you describe isn’t corporal punishment (which I personally consider to still be physical abuse), it is abuse. Starving someone to punish them is abuse. Anyone who takes part in, or enables said abuse is not someone you want in your life.
Do you have anyone safe in your life that you could go to? Other friends that would not condone what you are experiencing? An estranged parent? Even a trustworthy teacher? I’d recommend trying to build up a support network of people who actually care for your well being before pushing this enabling piece of trash out of your life.