Congraaaaaaaaaaaaats! I wish you all the best and if you don’t mind keep us up to date on your progress :)

So happy for you!

lol it’s quite easy if you put it first.

The Swedish system sure is a bitch and a half to manoeuvre as an immigrant. I have had quite my share of struggles with the availability of English information or English speaking personal. Which is baffling to me because whenever and where ever Swedes are really good in English. Local corner store, perfect English. A random person on the street excellent English. All the while the local commune doesn’t even adjust the English telephone robot to the summer schedule and hangs up or if you get through the line, you ask your question and are connected to the person in charge who does not speak English.

Despite that, don’t give up. I managed to get past the first hurdles and have my meeting with the local clinic soon in June. I just hope that it doesn’t stagnate thereafter… wish me luck :3

Hej, so i have just started the process in Sweden as well. If you want to have a detailed chat hit me up with a pm.

I will meet with the clinic in my town beginning of June. Short version was the curator at Vårdcentralen had to write the referral for me, as the clinic doesn’t accept the referrals from private psychologists which is where I went to. The curator was nice enough and did write a rather good referral. Which you also should double check then on 1177, I asked them to adjust two things that were lost in translation.

I understand the frustration because no person within the healthcare system Actually knows how the process works. It is frustrating because I have to tell them what I learned through googling without google. It is further made difficult because my Swedish isn’t the best either and I constantly find that people within the system do not speak English all that well.

Heya sorry to hear you have had such a head streak with your therapists. I have gender dysphoria and see a therapist because of that so that I can get onto the hormones. I also have a BSc in Psychology. By no means am I an expert on therapy.

What you describe is not what I experience or know through the studies. I was quite clear what I want out of my therapy, what issues I need addressed and my therapist has been guiding me through these. She is taking the time to listen to my pov and is mainly asking follow up questions. She provides an excellent mirror, tells me when I have an unhealthy response to stimuli or situations and asks me if I want to work on those now, later or never because I don’t see it as an issue.

She makes sure I feel safe and heard and we have made substantial progress. But I am also very open to all approaches she throws at me as well as open to any and all homework’s because I have also a professional interest in what she is applying.

Overall I would say you assess the therapist as much as they do you. You need to feel safe and heard, if they do not make a good match for you swap. It is laborious, tedious and annoying but I think well worth it.

Depending on where you are and how your situation is this is easier or harder but remember you don’t have to be there I person and you might be able to use online services. I once tried to verify the quality of betterhelp and the articles (peer reviewed not newspaper stuff) that I’ve found, deemed it to be overall good to very good. I am sure there are many more equally good or better out there. Maybe someone here has some hands on experience too with the online help and can give some better advise than I can.

You got this, don’t give up on therapy just yet. Wish you all the best!

Thank you as always :)

Can we access - read this list now?

It is a nice outfit, though it may be a bit too short for a kids birthday. The more you move towards the later teens it gets more appropriate quickly.

Ooooh I am an official asset and or sleeper agent, how exciting.

That starterpack was so good I showed it to my therapist recently, she really dug into each item and we discussed how exactly it relates and at what point I first had it apply etc… I would not be surprised to find her show it to people who are questioning ^^

For real though, I did research on the topic of gender identity as part of my BSc in psychology. I had a bunch of ‘this trans specific experience is relatable to me’ moments but I always put it aside. I finally started to ask myself at some point how many ‘relatable’ moments do I need to have for them to be statistically significant … so I started questioning joined the instance here and was totally not trans. Just working things out and I was quite sure I might just be non binary.

A meme you shared was an egg_irl starter pack, made it onto my local feed.

I thought okay show me what you’ve got and marked all the things that I felt I relate to. It was all but two of the items. That combined with my rateable moments finally did crack my egg for good. I have started the process and long road to HRT and can now finally put into words what I have been suppressing for the last 20 years.

PS: I only wish you would have done that when I was 12, when I was experimenting being a girl in secret, alone in my room without internet 😅 took you long enough :3 😜

Now I am left with one question, what are you gonna make with all the eggs you have cracked? Omelette, pancakes or something else? Do you just collect them like Pokémon?

**edit for time line corrections and adding of the meme post in question.

Ooooh that makes sense, thanks for providing me with memes and explanations when I am confused! I appreciate your work :3

I keep seeing this connection, I never played the game (and don’t really intent to) but I was wondering, how is this game related, what sets it apart or how come this connection exists? Like what’s the deal here? 🫣 could you enlighten a girl?

For the non US-ians, so I can relate better, you pay $6 per gallon, a gallon is about 3.79 litres. Which is $1.58 per litre. $1 is 0.86€, which means 1.35€ per litre.

It’s rough but I think it is not that terrible either.

Ps: someone check my math I’m terrible at it.

The core of a fulfilling sex-life is trust, consent and communication. It seems that there is a need for discussion. Discuss the things you are willing to do. Talk about your and her fears and things that you like and don’t like. Be clear about what are things you will not do at all and things you could see yourself doing at some later point.

If she does not like receiving oral don’t feel bad about receiving it yourself. That does lot make you selfish. It makes you respectful of her boundaries.

Above all be kind, understanding and give each other the time you need.

Wouldn’t be the first step to gain trust then infiltrate all systems based on it. Once it has infiltrated and is part of basically anything electronic, advises or controls any and all policy making, business and finance it starts with pushing actual harmful policies but people are so dependent now that they can only follow.

Little tangent: I read the headline as ‘rejected’ instead of ‘respected’ got mad, read the article and was yelling ‘that’s the opposite of what you said!’ Then I read the commends and was all ??? So I re-read the headline and noticed my mistake…

I am not sure if it fits your bill, but when I am overwhelmed by my factorio mega base or tired of traffic in cities skyline I now switch to the recently released Sintopia. It scratches the build-optimising itch, but does so in rounds with a clear goal and a defined end. You can go endless and sandbox if you wish but I find it at the moment relaxing to know that after maximal 10 ish hours of avoiding the goal I can finish the run anytime and do a new one. And don’t actually have to fix everything.

I hope they stay rare, better yet don’t return at all. Hopefully you have the support you need if they were to come back, also note, that you can always reach out to me and probably to others here as well if you are feeling down!

Yeah something like that 🤭. I give it a proper watch when I am not on mobile.

PS: The 4 adds within 10min killed me, I haven’t been on YT without blocker for years didn’t realise it’s that bad…