• lugal@sopuli.xyz
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    5 days ago

    Maybe all my downvotes come from people who say it’s the latter? I’ve been in bubbles that see it as a well known fact, I’ve talked to left leaning people who didn’t. Maybe it’s just a wording I used to attract attention, maybe not, we will never know for sure.

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      5 days ago

      my instance doesn’t show downvotes, so all I see is that you have lots of upvotes 😊

      I suspect downvotes would come from people who disagree that marriage is patriarchal, tbh - I think a lot of people don’t really understand patriarchy or feminism, so they might thing you are being hyperbolic, like claiming marriage is akin to beating your wife or something.

      Or they could just be responding merely to the language and not even the content, i.e. by talking about patriarchy at all or posing it in social terms they might think you have been duped by woke propaganda.

      Whether it’s an unpopular opinion just depends on what crowd you are in. I think a lot of people understand marriage is a patriarchal institution, that a patrilineal naming scheme is part of that patriarchy, etc., but I’m sure there are lots of people who think that is false, or over-stated, or who aren’t entirely sure what ten-dollar words like “patrilineal” actually mean, lol.

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        4 days ago

        my instance doesn’t show downvotes, so all I see is that you have lots of upvotes 😊

        In that case: the majority is still upvotes so I’m not complaining or anything :)

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        5 days ago

        I think the downvotes come from a semantic disagreement, based on a strong or weak definition of the word ‘inherent’.

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          4 days ago

          huh, that sounds like a rationalization, a way to find a problem with a critique that sounds more defensible or reasonable than defending patriarchy