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I already had a suicidal meltdown on wednesday morning. hearing about what that prick intends to do is only making it worse hahahaha
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I’ve lost 30 pounds since the start of this year. I should recommend stress as the hip new weight-loss diet.
caution. I tried this diet. it works but has…
…ramifications.
Just out of curiosity, what are the ramifications?
I had a period of time 15 years ago where I was eating about 1000-1500 calories a day for months because I was so busy I’d just forget to eat.
Life is getting to the point where I’m forgetting to eat on weekends again and I’m contemplating just following suit during the week to drop some poundage.
I know if the weight loss is TOO fast there’s a heart component, but is there anything else to worry about?
not sure if kidding but stress builds up cortisol which over time can lead to health issues. heart/stroke/etc. anything that messes with your blood sugar should be taken with precaution.
On the upside, my grocery bill is way down.
I’ve lost 5 pounds and substantially reduced my appetite in the last checks notes 12 days?
NGL, I am enjoying being full sooner. First week SUUUUCKED. I struggled to finish a 5 piece tender meal today, and I’m happy about it.
I think I can start ordering smaller meals now (my wallet will thank me) and not be quite the ravenous fat bastard I was for several hours after.
Holy shit i just now realized the only thing I’ve eaten since the tender meal for lunch (roughly 13 hours ago??) is an apple. And I’m not hungry.
Unfortunately, I’m teetering on the edge of an underweight BMI at this point.
I’m sorry you’re having to deal with that; i swung from that end during my childhood into my currently 240ish (233 as of a few minutes ago apparently) pounds.
I was taken off of appetite suppressing ADHD meds juuuust in time for puberty to hit like a brick and it royally fucked me up long term.
Diet is a shitty tightrope to balance across, especially combined with stress 😞
Nah, I tend to stress eat.
Turn that despair into anger!
Porque no los dos?
Depression is anger without energy.
More like anger that doesn’t invalidate other responsibilities
Anger is like fire. It burns hot, but it needs fuel, and leaves behind nothing but ash.
I’ve been angry for a long, long time. Now I feel tired and broken. Nothing left but the occasional ember in the cinders.
I’ll recover, I’m sure. But not today. And probably not tomorrow. Probably not for a while.
Sounds like you need to sweep out the chimney. It’s a dirty job, it sucks, and it’ll only get worse if you put it off. But in time you’ll be burning like new again.
I don’t know exactly how the metaphor applies in your situation, but I’ve struggled for a long time with burnout and that resonates with me. Hopefully you find some comfort
Lucky for you, I feel enough rage for the both of us. I am consumed by an unquenchable bloodlust of such magnitude that I genuinely do not feel like the words exist to properly describe it. All of these fascist fuckers think they are about to make us ‘find out’ but boy oh boy have they been doing a lot of fucking around.
I will not go quietly when they come for me or my neighbors.
In the words of my therapist, “that’s just rage”. Anger is the feeling that says “no” and motivates you to action, not the one that kicks and screams and does nothing.
Anger has kept one foot going in front of the other at many points in my life. It can’t run on nothing. It can’t burn infinitely.
Anger is fueled by love. My anger is fueled by a woefully irrational love for this country, my state, my city, my neighborhood, my friends, my family, the culture and beauty birthed by this nation, now being set ablaze to avoid facing the atrocities committed to build it. While i am not fond of the past, but i must embrace it and love it; and only once there is not even a memory left of this place i call home, will flame burn out
Maybe you could disconnect and focus on your irl circle for a while.
All of my interests relate back to political and philosophical thought in some way. Closing my eyes won’t help. It’s not the barrage of stupidity that’s killing me, though that is aggravating. It’s the hopelessness, and that returns as long as the matter is considered, whether there’s news to go with it or not.
I feel you man. Most of my friends want to bury their heads in their sand to cope and ignore everything, I just can’t do that. I want to be angry for a while and talk about what’s making me angry.
I’m far too aware that the level of action I’m willing to take and the level of action it would take for one individual to change the course of nations are too far apart for anything but for my mood to change with the winds of the times, despair or hope as massive demographics drive them. On some level, I think, I would prefer to be clueless to that.
But I can’t be. Some fuckers taught me how to read and write and shit, and now I’m cursed with literacy and awareness. I fucking hate it.
But I can’t be. Some fuckers taught me how to read and write and shit, and now I’m cursed with literacy and awareness. I fucking hate it.
Heck yes.
I had a media career and gained a… habit if not love… for news and journalism in a way. The habit is crushing now in the way that an addiction quickens into life-threatening dependence in the blink of an eye.
I’m wrecked, honestly. About all of it, but there’s a little extra ketchup on the shit sandwich for me in the abandonment of journalism we see every day. Not to mention the impending media acceptance of Trump’s retribution.
I feel you in this thread and it hurts because all I need to do is nod along.
Don’t forget critical thinking.
You can develop those subjects irl too, for example by joining a local non profit that focuses on something that you like. I think it’s the best way to go through this difficult period.
My point is that I can’t mentally avoid the reality of living under a Nero, as much as I’d like to. Not that I won’t find ways to cope, some helpful to broader society, and some not.
living under a Nero
You. You impress me, for whatever that’s worth. Stay with us and stretch my brain a bit more.
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Maybe you can develop new circles without having to cut existing ones, like joining some club or non profit about subjects that you like.
This has been a fucking long 2 weeks, and he’s not even in office yet, Jesus Christ
On the plus side, now I know how I’ll react to the news of an impending asteroid/meteor strike.
Not even the mercy of knowing most of the country is against him. Most of the country that gives a shit supports him.
If it gives you any comfort, I think there were a ton of people who “gave a shit”, but were (and in many encounters I’ve had: still are) just too stupid to realize that “morally withholding” a vote for Kamala was going to enable something incalculably worse.
Those people aren’t evil. Just unbelievably stupid. So much so that they’re a danger to themselves and others. But not evil.
The outcome is the same, and they learned nothing from 2016-2020, so fuck 'em.
Unfortunately, we’re also fucked by this.
To be fair, quite a few withholds were probably too young to vote In 2016. None the less, many many more were still too stupid to learn from 2016.
Not a super impactful consolation, but updated vote totals put Trump under 50% so only a plurality of the country that gives a shit supports him
I hate things being undecided so I’ve been a lot more relaxed since the election. Yeah, the asshole won, but at least I know what’s going to happen. The anxiety of not knowing was worse than the anxiety of having a racist dipshit in charge, at least for me.
I sympathize a bit. I remember my heart pounding in the lead-up to the election, to the point where I felt ill. Now it’s just an endless pit of despair instead of a panic attack.
I can identify with all of that. I’m seeing plenty of people and orgs so ready to “fight back” already, and I’m nowhere near ready for all that yet… this clusterfuck of nominations doesn’t help anything.
“The Dude abides.”
A racist “dipshit” who plans on declaring emergency so as to round up certain undesirables without any constitutional requirements on their internment conditions, health, or safety.
I was raped last night. I can’t even think. It’s really clear that the world doesn’t want people like me to exist. Apparently they’re sending text messages to LGBT people about reeducation camps now, like they were sending messages about slavery to black folks a week ago.
My heart just breaks hearing this.
The text messages are the absolute worst.
Let’s start a movement to egg houses that still have Trump signs hanging, or leave burning bags of dog shit on their doorsteps, or knock over their mailboxes or some other stupid prank wave; it’s really the least we can do in solidarity.
Well that went 100-20 real quick
What do you think happens to AFABs who are “re-educated?” Lesbians and trans men have experienced correct rape for centuries. There’s an entire porn subreddit dedicated to “dyke breaking.”
It’s just a big contrast between “i was raped” and “they are sending text messages”
My advice to you would be to find a way out
Feeling pretty fucked up over what happened to you, all the more intensified by my first encounter with the phrase “correct rape”.
I hope they burn.
You deserve the right to exist as much as anybody else.
Hope you can get the police involved, if possible. Not sure where you’re from, but I know small town politics don’t always make that a real possibility. Rapists too often get away with their crimes because people are too scared to come forward and that’s just the sad reality of the country we live in now.
I’ll echo the other commenters - if you can get out of here, do it quickly. America is on a very dark trajectory. Don’t let yourself continue to be victimized.
I’m sorry that happened to you.
That’s been me for the past several months, really.
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I’ve tried a few things and all have ended up dead ends… I’m stuck :(
There should be some community-led resource centres to help as well, depending on where you’re headed. I know there’s been a lot of talk and early organizing on this side to help resource people who need to get out.
That being said, I imagine certain blue states should still be okay for a couple years at least if that’s easier.
I wish luck to you and anybody doing the same. It seems to me like it could benefit Canada to accept the people the US loses. It won’t exactly be the trumpers and domestic terrorists knocking at the door.
I have pretty deep family roots where I am, and I was born into demographics acceptable to the incoming regime, so I probably won’t be going anywhere for now. But it is going to suck watching people get hurt and the country decomposing no matter where I live.
You and me both. It’s been a joke for decades but I ain’t laughing. I think we are the first wave. Either we are overreacting and go back whenever if we want, or…well, I don’t want to think about the “or” scenario…
Back in 2015, about 5 mo the after my youngest was born, I had the (at the time) most horrific day I ever had in my life. Long story short, I got fired from my job (for mistakenly thinking HR was on my side), my oldest son had a note sent home about a live breakout at his daycare, and it rained so hard in n 30 minutes that my house flooded (the top of the mailbox was almost under water).
I got home and was upset because of being fired (I was already beyond burned out from the job to begin with), and I was trying to patiently sift through my son’s hair to check for lice. I was not a very patient person at that point, said fuck it, and grabbed my hair clippers to shave my son’s head bald. I’ve never shaved anyone else’s head, but my own, so I probably was a little too aggressive, and the unit got hot and burned my son.
My 5mo was crying, so I took him and was trying to calm him down. Around this point the storm of the century began. It was so bad that lightning hit really close to the house (three times). Each time it hit, the lights would go off and back on, and then thunder struck. It was very disturbing to say the least.
Then the water began to rise. And it kept rising. And it wouldn’t stop. No matter how much I panicked and begged for it to stop. I was personally in tears. Then I noticed my neighbor trying to drive through the flooded waters, and her car got swept away by the water. I saw the water reaching her side view mirrors, and I handed my wife the baby and was about to bolt out the door to try to do “something” (it was straight instinct).
In short order, the rain started stopping, and all the water started receding. My panic slowly faded as I realized we weren’t going to drown. In no time my neighbors (most who we hadn’t met yet) all descended on my house with mops, buckets, and fans to help start cleaning up the mess. The carpet and bottom 6” of drywall were ruined. I spent my unscheduled vacation pulling up the carpet, replacing the soaked drywall, and even painting the office (it got flooded too).
Our office and living room was crammed into our dining room/kitchen (thank goodness for open concepts). We eventually replaced the carpet and painted everything. I wet vacuumed my car and removed 16 gallons of water, took out the seats, and put fans on it for a week straight.
Those neighbors became our best friends. We all still stay in touch and have multiple get togethers each year. A lot has changed since that day, myself included. I consider it for the better.
All that to say: this too shall pass.
That’s a nice story and all, but what happens when your wife is an immigrant and your neighbors all decide to “do something about it?” Or they just say nothing as the federal goons come to deport them.
There are incalculable ways for this to NOT pass for millions of us. Saying this too shall pass is some privileged bullshit.
Saying this too shall pass is some privileged bullshit.
Or maybe people trying to give each other comfort and hope.
You’re still responsible for taking whatever measures you feel necessary but lets not attack people trying to help.
You’re not entitled to harm people on your side, we’ve done that for the last decade and all it’s gotten us is a fractured ideology with a hundred different camps of people bitching about minor differences in what progressive things are good or not, and allowed a monster to get elected because nobody cares about trying to make leftists happy anymore. Lash out at someone else who actually deserves it.
Fucking hell, this is why we’ll never have nice things. Our side is just as emotional but not quite dumb enough to unify and focus on one target.
First of all, I’m not going to apologize for attempting to comfort anybody. There is no privilege in that.
Secondly, I get you’re mad and scared/worried (or whatever adjective you prefer for how you’re feeling right now), but let me assure you that I am not your enemy. Do not follow in your neighbor’s footsteps; focus your anger where it belongs: the establishment, and billionaires. They are the threat. Not you or me.
Just want to call out, there is harm in false comfort. Building a false sense of security and optimism can encourage people to not take preventative actions. Not every storm blows over.
Every storm blows over; just like each person reads my story differently.
My intention was to acknowledge that things outside of our control can and do happen, and that they can wreck our lives in various ways. It was also meant to demonstrate that panic and thoughtless reaction are not the best courses of action. Through thoughtfulness, and community, any disaster can begin to heal. In no way should that diminish anybody’s struggle.
Is it a
perfectgood analogy? Not for everyone; maybe not even for anyone. But yes, the storm will subside eventually. The question is whether or not the damage done can be repaired.Do with that what you will.
I mean, to take an extreme example: the Holocaust. Yes it eventually ended, but the damage was massive. The people who were in concentration camps didn’t have the luxury of just riding it out and knowing things will get better.
I understand that people can come together, but there are also people with more negative views and intentions coming together as well. There may come a time when you need to fight for what you believe in or even flee for safety. Unrealistic optimism can lead people into a very false sense of security by building a bubble that’s is oblivious to an impending event that could impact them.
The storm may pass, but people may die. Telling those people now that everything will eventually be ok is doing them a disservice.
Fine. Fair enough. I just feel there is a better way to comfort people than misleading them.
The better takeaway is that he put in a bunch of hard work, and so did his neighbors. Help out if you can, reach out for help if you need it. MOST of us are in the same boat, even if we don’t realize it.
Honest question: how bad do things have to get in the US for citizens to qualify for refugee status?
Consider how bad things are in Central America right now and then remember that despite the abject violence currently happening in many countries there right now, the U.S. still harbors deep anti-immigrant sentiments and we regularly turn away people fleeing said violence and return them to the custody of their would-be killers.
Yeah, you won’t need an answer to this question when the times comes for us. You’ll know, and you’ll be willing to get on that boat or airplane leaving for anywhere else even if they aren’t accepting refugees or the odds are slim that anywhere else will take you, because the alternative is certain death.
You’re probably better off trying to emigrate now rather than waiting for things to get worse, if you are in a position where you can make that choice. Some people make their livings preying upon those who are desperately seeking an escape, so it’s a bargain right now to leave for the cost of a plane ticket and whatever elbow grease you need to put in to achieve citizenship abroad.
My grandparents were holocaust survivors and what you just said is all I’ve been thinking about the last couple weeks, few months really. I keep imagining I went back in time to Berlin 1932 and have a chat with the family. They’re gone now but I’m 100% convinced they would tell me to fucking run. I’ve got the opportunity and means right now the get the fuck out while the getting is good. It’s something I’ve wanted to do for a while now anyway. People migrate all the time with nothing but the shirt on their backs, and I can do significantly better. Worst case, I come back in a few years with some more international experience. Best case…well…best case is still a pretty bad scenario, because it means I made the right decision, which means…bad stuff…
take a look at your neighbors houses.
are they on fire or being raided yet?
no? not yet.
Even then, it’s a tossup. We’ve all seen how refugees are treated.
It’s a scale thing.
one house on fire, it’s ok.
one house being raided, it’s ok.
five houses being raided and four houses on fire, time to gtfo.
Unless those are non-white houses being raided or set on fire, then it’s business as usual on 'murica
You obviously don’t know white people.
When I was buying my house, I came for a tour of the home, as you do when purchasing a home.
Within three minutes of us showing up, walking in with the realtor, the police were outside the house. Not one car though. Three cars, the house was surrounded.
On top of that, it’s clear that we were looking to buy the house because of the big for sale sign in the front. And even clearer the fact that it was me, my wife, our three-year-old son, my brother-in-law, my father-in-law, my mother-in-law, and the realtor.
Evidently the next door neighbor decided to call the police when they saw us because they thought we were robbing the place.
Who the fuck robs an empty house with six adults and a baby?
Let’s just say, I wasn’t surprised when they put up Trump signs.
Rich white people are afraid of anything outside of their “control”.
Wait, the neighbor called the cops on you, and you still bought the place? Dang
Rich white people are afraid of anything outside of their “control”.
I grew up in Santa Fe, NM working as a handyman in Hyde Park and El Dorado and Trés Lagunas and all the “non-native” rich, white areas. After my divorce, i ended up in Cali as a stagehand working for Disney. This statement literally sums up my entire life’s professional experience.
Haha LMAO, bro you need to chill.
We put our faith in democrats and the democrats lost. It’s time for a new plan.
Too close to home 😰
Want to know what’s fun? Watching your friends decide who’s fleeing, who’s arming up, and who’s lying to themselves. Welcome to queer communities in a red state in November 2024. Gods have mercy on us
That’s… so few places to go to. Unless you have a spare 10k you don’t need… or a remote high pay job.
Yeah, that’s a contributor. I’m going to a blue state in the hopes it’s safer until things get bad enough for refugee status.
There’s time to get a passport.
Not much. If you don’t have one get it now
#2 here. It would be nice to leave but I feel like I need to stay and fight.
That’s ok. I’m proud of those of you who are doing that. I’m leaving, I’ve spent a long time working out of my martyr complex and my wife and I have decided to flee.
I think the biggest thing we can do here as a community is respect each other’s choices and try to figure out what we can do to help most from the position we take.
I want to make sure our history isn’t lost. I want to make sure that if we need voices advocating for us somewhere people will listen that I can be one. And I want to make clear that until I feel safe returning home that I am an Ohioan in exile, and that that means things aren’t ok over there.
Fight well and know that some of those of us who are fleeing are setting up networks to get y’all out if you need it.
Stay safe. Leave if possible.
Already in the process. My wife and I committed to leave on the 6th, and are currently packing. Our lease ends in the spring and at that point I quit my job and we move to a blue state (already have arrangements).
Oh and I got a passport two years ago. I’m living by the understanding that if you wait to flee until you absolutely have to, you may not be able to. Better to take some risks for safety that may just be better choices regardless. I’ve always wanted to live in a coastal state, I’m a little excited when I let myself forget the devastation that’s coming.
Well, congratulations on the upcoming move! I hope you like seafood, because as someone who has always lived in coastal states, having all the fancy regional fresh seafood around is really wasted on my dull palate. XD
My friend: “I found this really great seafood place, a little hole in the wall, let me take you.”
My friend, after eating: “What do you think?”
Me: “Tastes like… fish?”
Don’t like crabs, don’t like lobster, don’t like most fish… I wasn’t born to live on the coast, clearly.
Not a huge fan of fish, but I do like crab, lobster, and shrimp and I think they all taste almost identical. You remove the texture and I wouldn’t be able to say what it was, but I’d know it was shellfish. Only other seafood I like is tuna. But, like… From a can. Fresh caught and grilled? Ew. Idk what that says about my tastebuds.
I’m a pescatarian for the same reason some people give up all meat but bacon lol. I love fish too much to stay stuck in Ohio. My wife hates the stuff though lol.
And thanks, I’m very excited in part because we picked the city in question because a good friend lives there, and I’ve already found out it has all the things I love about my current location or at least close enough. We’re also a little excited because it’s closer to my siblings in law and we’re probably going to become aunts in the next few years so it’ll be good to be closer to the kids for extra spoilage. I just wish the move was more “hey this is crazy and we’re some of the least reckless people around but sometimes you gotta” instead of the “we’re afraid that if we don’t do this we may find ourselves tragically regretting staying”
Eyyy, glad to see I’m not the only one planning to leave Ohio; I’m eyeing the west coast myself, CA State job benefits look very attractive but I’d rather get any job (fully remote or in person) first and try for a state job later.
I need to get with my landlord this week and see about changing my lease renewal to month-to-month, since it doesn’t technically renew till January.
I’m mostly done getting rid of all the junk I don’t need and making what i still have more compact. I gotta work on my resume and start applying.
Literally the only thing I think I’ll miss from Ohio is Jungle Jims. Love that damn place. not living near my parents will suck for a bit, but frankly, I never wanted to live here anyway.
If you and your wife aren’t opposed to camping, and can do so safely, you are allowed to set up a camp for one week at a time for free in any of the National Parks, that could give you a foothold to find a cheaper place in California. Cheaper is doing a lot of work in that previous sentence.
Our friend out west actually offered us a guest bedroom while we look. We’ve actually gotten multiple offers in different cities. We’re just either waiting out our lease or leaving when it gets suddenly too hostile then staying with our friends while we find a cheap place (looks like we can downsize to a similar rent)
Good to hear! Just a heads up for you and your wife, anything next to the coast is priced outrageously, but if you look even half an hour drive inland, the prices drop quickly.
If you and your wife like nature, there are several reasonably priced places in Anza-Borrego. It’s a tiny town out in the desert, in the middle of a state park. I saw a place out there a few months ago for only $58,000
Yeah, we’re looking at suburbs of Seattle and it’s not nearly as bad as we’d expected. Like without a job we’re going to be in a studio or something but it’s not nearly the financially devastating choice we’d worried. Otherwise we’d’ve probably looked at something like Annapolis or Minneapolis where it’s fine, but probably not much worse than Ohio cities.
The biggest things for us were being in a blue part of a blue state on the border with good job prospects for our careers
I never get tired of that follow up comic. It’s just too real.
In case anyone reading hasn’t seen the full thing:
https://thenib.com/this-is-not-fine/Just needs some of the text updated to current news.
I hope we get to the point where the fire can be put out. We’re currently in the stage where the accelerant is being poured out everywhere.
