See, I knew it couldn’t be because you are stupid! But then why did you waste both of our time talking about bear survival?
given the choice of being alone in the woods with a black man or a bear, they’d feel safer with a bear, how does that sound now?
Do you still think that sounds “hyperbolic”, or do you maybe now see how fucked up and stupid it makes you sound?
Oh, maybe you are stupid… Like, to try and conflate the fear of rape to racism… talk about fucked up and stupid. I’m getting embarrassed for you…
You keep trying so hard to change the idea being expressed when women “choose the bear”. Let’s take your demonstration to it’s logical conclusion. Let’s say a stranger demands to be let into your home at night, or asks you to come alone into a dark alley, would you do it, would you feel safe? Now let’s say the stranger was black, did that change literally anything? Or is it a dangerous situation regardless of race, and you would still prioritize your safety?
Women are not being bigoted when they express concerns over sexual assault. They aren’t trying to take men’s rights away, they aren’t saying “all men are rapists”. They are sharing the very real fear they feel from the very real threat of sexual assault. And they know not every man is going to assault them, but they also know that given the chance, a frighteningly large number will. Since they can’t know which one until it’s to late, they have to play by gun safety rules and test all men like they will. Not to be mean, but to stay safe.
Now if you would get your head out of your rear, you might start to actually hear women when they “choose the bear”, and what they are really saying. So even if you think the thought experiment is dumb, please try to grasp that it is just light-hearted way to bring up a real issue facing women. And your points about bear safety and it being hyperbolic are so unimportant and miniscule compared to the actual conversation at hand, that you are just wasting everybody’s time.
Imagine seriously thinking the most important thing you can add to the conversation is that you think women are expressing their fears over being raped in a “fucked up and stupid” way.
Deep down inside you know it’s a sexist statement, but you’ll twist yourself into a pretzel trying to justify it.
It’s sexist, get over it and just admit it. It’s a shitty thing to say.
Fear is fear, you can’t pretend justifying sexism with fear is any better or worse than justifying racism with fear or justifying any other type of bigotry with fear.
If some TERF shithead posted “I’d feel safer alone in the woods with a bear than with a trans woman in the bathroom” or some shit you know how bad that would be.
You have to sit and look in the mirror and confront the fact that you think sexism directed towards men “doesn’t count”.
It does. And until the general public wraps their heads around what should be a very simple concept, shitheads like Trump are going to keep getting elected by reactionaries
Deep down inside I know it is a cry for help, not a sexist statement. And if you thought about it, you would too.
It’s very telling that you tried to undermine “Choosing the Bear” by replacing the man with a “black man” or a “trans person”. You wanted to co-opt the bigotry thrown at an oppressed group to add a charge of oppression to the “choosing the bear”. But women aren’t the oppressors, they are being oppressed, not just legally with abortion rights, but specifically physically with sexual assault.
What if we swapped your embarrassing attempt at rewriting the scenario and made it fit the reality more, where the man and woman were replaced with another group of oppressors and oppressed?
Say 1939, Nazi Germany. You are talking to a Jewish person that has recently escaped Germany, and in an attempt to explain how terrified they were of the Nazi’s they tell you “I would have rather encountered a Bear than a Nazi alone in the woods”. Well, given all your knowledge of bears, you immediately rebuttal with “that’s so ridiculous and naive of you! Not all Nazis attack Jews, and a bear is a bear! Why you are being bigoted against Nazi’s just by implying!”
Sure, Nazi’s are the go to extreme example, but it’s far more apropos to keep they dynamics of the scenario intact.
So do you maybe now see how much you would have missed the point, and how much attacking their method of communicating their fears is a sick and twisted thing to do?
No, I doubt you do, you seem so stuck on the idea that women communicating their fear of sexual assault actually makes men the real victims.
Good luck with life man, I know you are not a bad person, your arguments have consistently shown your heart is in the right place. But the men who assault women really appreciate you standing up for them, and with that you are enabling harm.
What you are continuing to fail at is that I get the point.
I’m saying that the point is being conveyed atop a sexist mechanism
You might find this wild, but a cry fir help can simultaneously be sexist. The two aren’t mutually exclusive.
You are arguing about what is being conveyed on the mechanism.
I am arguing the mechanism being used itself is a shitty one
Things can be more than one thing at the same time, which is tough for some people to understand I guess.
If you continue to keep trying to argue that a sexist post being a “cry for help” somehow nullifies it’s sexism, then you will continue to make zero progress here and, more importantly, you’ll continue to keep being part of the problem
Guess we just won’t find common ground in this one, I believe it would need to actually be bigoted to be… you know, sexist. It would need to stereotype all (or at least most) men as rapists, or it would need to push for collective blame or punishment towards men, it would need to actually be prejudiced.
But it just isn’t. It’s literally just trying to communicate to men that this problem is so widespread that it is hindering women’s ability to live without fear. All of the sexism you see in it, is imaginary. And it’s kind of telling on yourself that you think it’s talking about “all men”.
Women know that most men are not rapist, and they aren’t asking for any rights to be taken away from men to make them feel safer. But they also know that 99% of rapists are men, and 91% of victims are women, that added to the aforementioned 1 in 6~ women that will have been raped in their lifetime means they are gambling just being alone with a man. And remaining one of the 5 out of 6 requires never ending vigilance.
It’s not sexist to acknowledge those facts, and it’s not sexist for women to not want to put themselves in situations where they can’t get help. Since Choosing the Bear is literally just trying to spread awareness of this dilemma women live with everyday, and is in no way saying that all men are the problem, its disingenuous to call it sexist.
And if your grand argument is that bringing attention to sexual assault in ways that men may take offense to is the real problem, well all I can say is you are repeating the bullshit arguments thrown at the oppressed during the civil rights movement, during women’s suffrage, and countless other fights for rights and safety. You are siding with rapists feelings. You, not women, are saying it attacks all men. And you are part of the problem. You are killing the conversation around sexual assault to inject how it affects your feelings. So please understand me when I say you need to get over yourself.
Honestly, I don’t think I’ll return to this conversation, you disappoint me, and frankly I’ve lost respect for you as a person. Blaming women trying to convey their fears as responsible for Trump, and claiming it is sexist to acknowledge their fears is just pathetic. If people really voted for Trump to get back at women for not talking about sexual assault in their preferred manner, fuck those people.
edit: lol, I also just realized you basically implied you would tell a Jewish person “not all Nazi’s”. Fuck you man
See, I knew it couldn’t be because you are stupid! But then why did you waste both of our time talking about bear survival?
Oh, maybe you are stupid… Like, to try and conflate the fear of rape to racism… talk about fucked up and stupid. I’m getting embarrassed for you…
You keep trying so hard to change the idea being expressed when women “choose the bear”. Let’s take your demonstration to it’s logical conclusion. Let’s say a stranger demands to be let into your home at night, or asks you to come alone into a dark alley, would you do it, would you feel safe? Now let’s say the stranger was black, did that change literally anything? Or is it a dangerous situation regardless of race, and you would still prioritize your safety?
Women are not being bigoted when they express concerns over sexual assault. They aren’t trying to take men’s rights away, they aren’t saying “all men are rapists”. They are sharing the very real fear they feel from the very real threat of sexual assault. And they know not every man is going to assault them, but they also know that given the chance, a frighteningly large number will. Since they can’t know which one until it’s to late, they have to play by gun safety rules and test all men like they will. Not to be mean, but to stay safe.
Now if you would get your head out of your rear, you might start to actually hear women when they “choose the bear”, and what they are really saying. So even if you think the thought experiment is dumb, please try to grasp that it is just light-hearted way to bring up a real issue facing women. And your points about bear safety and it being hyperbolic are so unimportant and miniscule compared to the actual conversation at hand, that you are just wasting everybody’s time.
Imagine seriously thinking the most important thing you can add to the conversation is that you think women are expressing their fears over being raped in a “fucked up and stupid” way.
All that typing but you wouldn’t write it.
Deep down inside you know it’s a sexist statement, but you’ll twist yourself into a pretzel trying to justify it.
It’s sexist, get over it and just admit it. It’s a shitty thing to say.
Fear is fear, you can’t pretend justifying sexism with fear is any better or worse than justifying racism with fear or justifying any other type of bigotry with fear.
If some TERF shithead posted “I’d feel safer alone in the woods with a bear than with a trans woman in the bathroom” or some shit you know how bad that would be.
You have to sit and look in the mirror and confront the fact that you think sexism directed towards men “doesn’t count”.
It does. And until the general public wraps their heads around what should be a very simple concept, shitheads like Trump are going to keep getting elected by reactionaries
Deep down inside I know it is a cry for help, not a sexist statement. And if you thought about it, you would too.
It’s very telling that you tried to undermine “Choosing the Bear” by replacing the man with a “black man” or a “trans person”. You wanted to co-opt the bigotry thrown at an oppressed group to add a charge of oppression to the “choosing the bear”. But women aren’t the oppressors, they are being oppressed, not just legally with abortion rights, but specifically physically with sexual assault.
What if we swapped your embarrassing attempt at rewriting the scenario and made it fit the reality more, where the man and woman were replaced with another group of oppressors and oppressed?
Say 1939, Nazi Germany. You are talking to a Jewish person that has recently escaped Germany, and in an attempt to explain how terrified they were of the Nazi’s they tell you “I would have rather encountered a Bear than a Nazi alone in the woods”. Well, given all your knowledge of bears, you immediately rebuttal with “that’s so ridiculous and naive of you! Not all Nazis attack Jews, and a bear is a bear! Why you are being bigoted against Nazi’s just by implying!”
Sure, Nazi’s are the go to extreme example, but it’s far more apropos to keep they dynamics of the scenario intact.
So do you maybe now see how much you would have missed the point, and how much attacking their method of communicating their fears is a sick and twisted thing to do?
No, I doubt you do, you seem so stuck on the idea that women communicating their fear of sexual assault actually makes men the real victims.
Good luck with life man, I know you are not a bad person, your arguments have consistently shown your heart is in the right place. But the men who assault women really appreciate you standing up for them, and with that you are enabling harm.
What you are continuing to fail at is that I get the point.
I’m saying that the point is being conveyed atop a sexist mechanism
You might find this wild, but a cry fir help can simultaneously be sexist. The two aren’t mutually exclusive.
You are arguing about what is being conveyed on the mechanism.
I am arguing the mechanism being used itself is a shitty one
Things can be more than one thing at the same time, which is tough for some people to understand I guess.
If you continue to keep trying to argue that a sexist post being a “cry for help” somehow nullifies it’s sexism, then you will continue to make zero progress here and, more importantly, you’ll continue to keep being part of the problem
Guess we just won’t find common ground in this one, I believe it would need to actually be bigoted to be… you know, sexist. It would need to stereotype all (or at least most) men as rapists, or it would need to push for collective blame or punishment towards men, it would need to actually be prejudiced.
But it just isn’t. It’s literally just trying to communicate to men that this problem is so widespread that it is hindering women’s ability to live without fear. All of the sexism you see in it, is imaginary. And it’s kind of telling on yourself that you think it’s talking about “all men”.
Women know that most men are not rapist, and they aren’t asking for any rights to be taken away from men to make them feel safer. But they also know that 99% of rapists are men, and 91% of victims are women, that added to the aforementioned 1 in 6~ women that will have been raped in their lifetime means they are gambling just being alone with a man. And remaining one of the 5 out of 6 requires never ending vigilance.
It’s not sexist to acknowledge those facts, and it’s not sexist for women to not want to put themselves in situations where they can’t get help. Since Choosing the Bear is literally just trying to spread awareness of this dilemma women live with everyday, and is in no way saying that all men are the problem, its disingenuous to call it sexist.
And if your grand argument is that bringing attention to sexual assault in ways that men may take offense to is the real problem, well all I can say is you are repeating the bullshit arguments thrown at the oppressed during the civil rights movement, during women’s suffrage, and countless other fights for rights and safety. You are siding with rapists feelings. You, not women, are saying it attacks all men. And you are part of the problem. You are killing the conversation around sexual assault to inject how it affects your feelings. So please understand me when I say you need to get over yourself.
Honestly, I don’t think I’ll return to this conversation, you disappoint me, and frankly I’ve lost respect for you as a person. Blaming women trying to convey their fears as responsible for Trump, and claiming it is sexist to acknowledge their fears is just pathetic. If people really voted for Trump to get back at women for not talking about sexual assault in their preferred manner, fuck those people.
edit: lol, I also just realized you basically implied you would tell a Jewish person “not all Nazi’s”. Fuck you man