Apart from what other people have pointed out- what if one of your friends does great harm to another of your friends? How do you stay loyal to both of them?
You pretend to be on the side of both of them, but it could fall apart very quickly. So I don’t do it anymore. I just make my own arguments and side with the victim.
What is the difference between your friends and your actual friends? Because I thought we were talking about your friends and I also thought that friends are actual friends.
I actually like and help some of my friends, who do respect me, but others, who act like my friends but actually just bully and gaslight me, I just use for my own benefit (usually by pretending to be fine with it). Those assholes could help you, without you having to have any obligations to them.
Apart from what other people have pointed out- what if one of your friends does great harm to another of your friends? How do you stay loyal to both of them?
You pretend to be on the side of both of them, but it could fall apart very quickly. So I don’t do it anymore. I just make my own arguments and side with the victim.
So you were lying to your friends about having their back? That makes you the bad friend.
I don’t lie to them about having their back, I lie to them about my opinion as I try to avoid conflict. I don’t do it against my actual friends.
What is the difference between your friends and your actual friends? Because I thought we were talking about your friends and I also thought that friends are actual friends.
I actually like and help some of my friends, who do respect me, but others, who act like my friends but actually just bully and gaslight me, I just use for my own benefit (usually by pretending to be fine with it). Those assholes could help you, without you having to have any obligations to them.
Using people for your benefit also makes you a bad friend, and a questionable person.
It’s also a step down the road to advocating for slavery.
Doing something really immoral to a person who mistreats you while pretending to be their friends is not the right way to deal with such situations.
It’s true, but it doesn’t change the fact they are an asshole.
“They are an asshole” is not an excuse to use or exploit a person.