I mean it’s polite to ask what she knows about it first. I mean mansplaining is rude, but it’s also just kind of annoying to have to explain things to people who already know it. Much better to have a conversation and skip that part so you can just get to talking on a level playing field.
Well the issue with that is how I’ll encounter someone who tells me they already know all about it and then they go acting like they know absolutely nothing.
My current META for this is just saying “Do you know about <thing>?” wait for their response and if they know we’re done! If they say “No” I then ask “Do ya wanna hear about it? Approx listening time <x> minutes!” and respect their answer.
It’s about etiquette and giving them a choice. You have to be prepared for them to say “no” to hearing about that thing you’d like to info dump about. It’s not that dissimilar to getting consent if you think about it, it’s rude to just start shoving your information into their brainhole, so to speak lol
So do we like the mansplaining or information dumps? I’m on team information dump.
Just found it easier to not talk to anyone, IRL, who I can’t trust to not assume the worst things about me.
I’ve determined that it’s totally and completely excellent when they assume the worst. Bullet dodge me!
I mean it’s polite to ask what she knows about it first. I mean mansplaining is rude, but it’s also just kind of annoying to have to explain things to people who already know it. Much better to have a conversation and skip that part so you can just get to talking on a level playing field.
Well the issue with that is how I’ll encounter someone who tells me they already know all about it and then they go acting like they know absolutely nothing.
My current META for this is just saying “Do you know about <thing>?” wait for their response and if they know we’re done! If they say “No” I then ask “Do ya wanna hear about it? Approx listening time <x> minutes!” and respect their answer.
It’s about etiquette and giving them a choice. You have to be prepared for them to say “no” to hearing about that thing you’d like to info dump about. It’s not that dissimilar to getting consent if you think about it, it’s rude to just start shoving your information into their brainhole, so to speak lol
I kinda like the way you say stuff.
Thanks!