I don’t think I’ve spoken to a woman on Tinder who is actually interested in dating. The majority of them don’t ever reply, the few that do put zero effort into the conversation and often just want money. Once in a while a woman agrees to meet then just doesn’t. What the actual fuck? How do you guys handle this bullshit?
Before I get called an incel 1000 times, I am already doing everything right. I’m in therapy, I exercise every day, I eat healthy, I have diverse interests and several friends. I have paid people to review my profile and conversations and everyone agrees I am doing everything right.
If there’s a 0.01 percent chance I’ll find a girl on a dating app then it’s better than the zero percent chance I have without it.
I’m honestly sick of being told to “work on myself”. I’ve been fucking doing that. I’ve lost over 100lbs and I’m in therapy. I’ve been making friends. I am working on myself. It doesn’t help.
I thought it was bullshit advice when people told me that too.
I think the key is that when you “work on yourself” it’s not necessarily about losing weight, becoming more attractive, getting a better job.
For me it’s more about gaining confidence and improving your own self esteem. If deep down you don’t feel like you’re worth dating, then you won’t exude the confidence that will be required to be attractive to someone.
If dating apps are helping you meet people more than they are killing your confidence and self-esteem, then by all means continue to use them.
For me, they just made things worse.