I don’t think I’ve spoken to a woman on Tinder who is actually interested in dating. The majority of them don’t ever reply, the few that do put zero effort into the conversation and often just want money. Once in a while a woman agrees to meet then just doesn’t. What the actual fuck? How do you guys handle this bullshit?
Before I get called an incel 1000 times, I am already doing everything right. I’m in therapy, I exercise every day, I eat healthy, I have diverse interests and several friends. I have paid people to review my profile and conversations and everyone agrees I am doing everything right.
Delete all dating apps, and most social media. For me, I don’t have apps for Instagram or Facebook on my phone but will log in in the browser if I need to contact someone.
I found that dating apps were not good for my self-esteem and were therefore counter-productive. It’s like speed-rejection on a daily basis.
You just have to get out and find activities you enjoy where you can also meet people. Dating apps were not a good tool for meeting people for me. I had success with coed sports though.
Just forget about chasing women for a bit and work on yourself, which happens to also include some coed activities. Some areas have kickball, coed softball is everywhere, get out there and do something, build up confidence instead of letting dating apps and social media drag you down.
If there’s a 0.01 percent chance I’ll find a girl on a dating app then it’s better than the zero percent chance I have without it.
I’m honestly sick of being told to “work on myself”. I’ve been fucking doing that. I’ve lost over 100lbs and I’m in therapy. I’ve been making friends. I am working on myself. It doesn’t help.
I thought it was bullshit advice when people told me that too.
I think the key is that when you “work on yourself” it’s not necessarily about losing weight, becoming more attractive, getting a better job.
For me it’s more about gaining confidence and improving your own self esteem. If deep down you don’t feel like you’re worth dating, then you won’t exude the confidence that will be required to be attractive to someone.
If dating apps are helping you meet people more than they are killing your confidence and self-esteem, then by all means continue to use them.
For me, they just made things worse.
Unfortunately the dating apps are mostly enshitified at this point.
See if you can find an IRL club to join with people who share an interest. You might meet someone interesting that way.
I’m in two social groups but it’s 90% men the few women are sick of being hit on