Having a hobby and being part of a community is a very constructive, helpful, and effective way of beating back the isolation and despair that is killing so many young people.
I’m not following. Why is it being assumed this is to avoid therapy, and not just people doing an activity for fun?
Because man bad/woman bad
People will bitch about anything someone else does that is therapeutic for them.
Learning to not do this was an important part of my mental health journey. I’ve come to realize I was raised by some very negative people. Very nice people that I see regularly, but always looking for something to complain about rather than something to appreciate.
I understand this to some extent. I however wasn’t raised by nice people. When I cut contact with them I got better and discovered I didn’t have to like something someone else did for it to be good for them.
It is what it is
But is it what it is?
It’s.
It could be
i think, in fact, it might be!
That it may
perhaps it is not what it is, but perhaps that is, what it was, because it was never specific about what is, and the time of was.
Time will tell. Sooner or later, time will tell.
Is this a reference from another post today?
YOLO
I’d take that post over the bear.
Once upon a time there was a Little Engine that Could, that said “I think I can, I think I can!” Now it just says “It is what it is, it is what it is…”
And when another train complained, they sealed him in a tunnel, Cask of Amontillado style.
Sounds like a form of therapy in and of itself.
Sharing your enjoyment with others. Work you can take pride in. Preserving history. Sounds pretty great for mental health.
Yeah, most people today meed therapy because they feel isolated from their work, unappreciated, and are stressed about finances. A hobby where you work towards a common goal with no real world consequences is what most people need in their life right now. ~~~~
That was my thought.
Men got themselves a hobby they enjoy, and gets to share with others. Two amazing things for someones overall mental health. Sounds like someone living the dream.
And probably cheaper.
I can guarantee it’s not cheaper
Yeah, restorations aren’t cheap, and the bigger the parts get, the more expensive they get. And it’s not like you can hit up ye olde fireboxes-r-us anymore.
Depends on if you’re in America, or a real first world country.
One won’t be cheaper, the other has a high likelihood of being cheaper.
I am an American, and I pay zero dollars for my and my kid’s therapy. But it’s okay, you just wanted the low-hanging fruit by taking a shot at America.
Am American. The fruit is low hanging for a fucking reason.
Also depends on your insurance. I pay $25 per visit, and even over a year when I went every week, I doubt it was more expensive than restoring a train lol.
And how much do you pay just to have that insurance? How much lower is your paycheck because your company provides insurance?
steam equipment is definitely not cheaper than therapy, you get a cracked cylinder? Better hope you have literal tons of iron/steel sitting around, and or something/someone to pay for it, as well as someone to machine it, because none of that exists anymore.
Yeah, I was gonna say that these men DID go to therapy.
fuck you, coal fired steam boilers, and steam engines are one of the coolest, and most technologically impressive things we have ever done throughout history. Only topped by the deep space probes currently hurtling to the middle of nowhere spaceland.
IDK, you hear about sliced bread? It’s pretty nice.
slice bread is also pretty good. But that’s nothing compared to what a steam engine can do given a bread slicer.
Nope. Good bread basically never comes in slices, and definitely not in the country that invented pre-sliced bread. You can get passable sliced bread in Germany but the good stuff definitely stays loaves at least until you buy it. I mean it’s fine to slice it then and there if you have enough mouths to feed to have it finished by tomorrow.
Presliced bread goes bad quicker and I also prefer a different slice thickness than what is usually offered. I don’t understand why it’s seen as such an achievement.
that and hit or miss engines
idk man, i hate combustion based engines. They’re cringe and unfunny.
OR, they’ve already been through therapy and found some decent medication, and are keenly aware that personally enjoyable hobbies are an essential part of self care.
Not that I know anything about that.
- throws food into back yard koi pond *
I want a koi pond to use their poop to fertilize my gardens, any tips or resources for a newbie?
I have no information to offer. I just want to say that koi ponds are beautiful, and I wish you the best of luck.
Just gonna link this, for the oblivious among us: https://knowyourmeme.com/memes/instead-of-going-to-therapy
Who says instead? Seems like people with their heads on right
Sorry, they can’t hear you over all the CHOOO CHOOOO MOTHERFUCKEEEEEERRRR!!!
CRANKIN STEAMY HOGS WITH THE PACK
This format seems to always frame therapy as shitty, and the other thing as actually really cool, if complicated.
I doubt it’s intentional, but seems anti men’s mental health. And honestly, that situation is so fucked up beyond measure, that micro-aggressions like this meme format is really hurting the cause. My two cents.
Funny meme though.
Someone else here linked to knowyourmeme.
Most of them are glaringly obvious, some are meta. This one though can easily come across as “stuff closeted misandrists say to get a pat on the back” if you don’t know the format. Flanked by a good dose of nerd shaming.
I mean it’s true, men will literally comment on the internet before going to therapy. We will also literally tie our shoelaces before going to therapy.
You know what, this is a good thing. This time actually reading the knowyourmeme article, they’re a parody reaction thing. Some 20, 30 years ago a new pattern of insult cropped up here in Germany, things like Warmduscher and Schattenparker, “someone who takes warm showers”, “someone who parks in the shadow”. They were never meant literally-literally, but they did come up with a definite air of “you should be toughing it out”, “being a bit sensitive about things aren’t we”. They were quickly balanced out by things like Drahtseilbungeespringer, roughly “steel cable bungee jumper”.
Humour is serious business and usually the best weapon against shittiness we have, and if occasionally we have things that can be misinterpreted, like here, overall it’s still worth it.
I think that’s pretty cool, seems like a net positive for everyone, guy loves trains…guy fixes train…shares passion with community…more people love train. He wins, train wins, community wins.
It’s a meme, guys.
They dodge depression by doing something that brings joy to their hearts instead of constantly complaining about how depressed they are and how therapy is essential for everyone these days? How dare they!
What a weird fuckin take
Yeah, like you could say the exact same thing about gardening or painting or knitting. Taking up a hobby and learning how to do something can be really relaxing and beneficial to your mental health. Gender has nothing to do with it.
