Lost one of my boys a little over a year ago. Still get crippled with grief from time to time - maybe every other day now instead of multiple times a day. It gets easier, but never easy. In the process of getting a ring with some of his ashes built into them and I think that’ll be pretty special to get to bring him everywhere I go.
Not looking for condolences, just wanted to put this perspective out there in a sea of folks who seemed to have bad relationships with their parents. To those: I’m sorry. I can’t imagine.
Thank you for sharing. My coworker just lost her daughter to suicide and she has been understandably inconsolable. She’s had an outpouring of sympathy, but I wanted to give her something more than just words from a childless adult who could never possibly relate to what she is going through. I will suggest the ring made with some ashes. I think that will help bring her some comfort.
Remember, that people grief in different ways. And it’s not always about the time after the event that helps, but knowing that someone else acknowledges their struggle(s) after that the event. At least, that was true for me after I lost one of my good friends years ago to suicide.
And now… I’m getting teary eyed just thinking about him and that time period of my life. Like @[email protected] said above… “It gets easier, but never easy.” It’s 100% true. All these years later and I still have days where he comes to mind. And while a lot of the heartache has surpassed, I still have moments of sadness and rare blip moment where I grief over it for a short time.
Anyway… I’m starting to make this too much about me I think.
I’d encourage you to find a way to show that you’re there for her if and when she needs a moment or a person. It goes a long way.
Lost one of my boys a little over a year ago. Still get crippled with grief from time to time - maybe every other day now instead of multiple times a day. It gets easier, but never easy. In the process of getting a ring with some of his ashes built into them and I think that’ll be pretty special to get to bring him everywhere I go.
Not looking for condolences, just wanted to put this perspective out there in a sea of folks who seemed to have bad relationships with their parents. To those: I’m sorry. I can’t imagine.
Sending love your way <3
Thank you for sharing your experience. As someone who doesn’t have kids to begin with I can’t even begin to imagine
Thank you for sharing. My coworker just lost her daughter to suicide and she has been understandably inconsolable. She’s had an outpouring of sympathy, but I wanted to give her something more than just words from a childless adult who could never possibly relate to what she is going through. I will suggest the ring made with some ashes. I think that will help bring her some comfort.
Remember, that people grief in different ways. And it’s not always about the time after the event that helps, but knowing that someone else acknowledges their struggle(s) after that the event. At least, that was true for me after I lost one of my good friends years ago to suicide.
And now… I’m getting teary eyed just thinking about him and that time period of my life. Like @[email protected] said above… “It gets easier, but never easy.” It’s 100% true. All these years later and I still have days where he comes to mind. And while a lot of the heartache has surpassed, I still have moments of sadness and rare blip moment where I grief over it for a short time.
Anyway… I’m starting to make this too much about me I think.
I’d encourage you to find a way to show that you’re there for her if and when she needs a moment or a person. It goes a long way.