A little maybe, but not much.
I’ve seen people say they left reddit to join Lemmy because of the toxic users. To each their own, but I personally think Lemmings aren’t much better. Some people over here can’t understand that sensitive questions can be asked without bad intent. People are way too defensive about their opinions.
It is disappointing, but it’s the better option.
Lemmy is hostile to nazis. Reddit coddles them.
I’m starting to conclude that social-media is addictive precisely because the people we interact with trigger us and piss us off.
If I want a rational, polite, and balanced discussion and conversation, I use AI. It’s not perfect, but it’s clearly a superior communication compared to people on any social media platform.
So why am I here? Complex emotional reasons that make unpleasant interactions compelling (and addictive) and a deep-seated desire to have my worst views about humanity confirmed.
I’ve used this platform for 24 hours and I’m already thoroughly pissed-off by its users and the abusive way they communicate: Lemmy delivers.
Social media use is masochistic.
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So you don’t like the social part of social media. And its Lemmy join an instance that agrees with you 100%, start your own, block instances you don’t like.
Have you asked yourself why you asking sensitive questions? Like what is even an example of this situation you are talking about?
Have you considered the wording of the question might show intent.
Long time Lemmy user and ngl I’m not a fan of this broad generalization nor do I quite understand what you are talking about, and I don’t often see stuff like this on Lemmy that often.
You can check my post history if you want to :)
And you’re not worth it. Blocked ya :3
lol blocked for asking questions
Aren’t the answers for those questions obvious? People ask questions they can’t ask IRL online all the time. He’s just acting oblivious to make my post look weird. Also he can check those things for himself. 😽
the lack of self reflection is strong on you, saying all that and wondering why people could be angry with your questions is amazing
As far as I know, I haven’t said anything wrong or rude.
I have a right to block a person if he replies with the link of a song like that. He’s openly being rude and doesn’t want answers. (I did answer, told him to check my post history) I’m confused as to why you would try to defend him, honestly. Unless you’re the type of person I talked about in my post, it doesn’t make sense.
So, if you have any self-respect at all, stop bothering me.
Imagine how a trans person feels when reading transphobe a talking point or a Chinese person reading if the two child policy should be a thing? I get that you were just asking questions but any person affected by these issues may not react in a way you like.
You can check those things for yourself as you said previously.
I’m not defending anyone, I’m just stating what I see. If that bothers you it’s ok.
There is way more “I’m 14 and very edgy and very badass” vibe here.
There is waaaaaay less of that here than Reddit or ANY other even remotely popular online community I’ve ever been on, and I’ve been online since the mid-90s. I don’t know what places on Lemmy YOU go to, but I’m not seeing it.
It’s everywhere. Even in your reply with the capitalized “YOU”.
Aha, you’re the kind of person OP is talking about! Makes more sense now.
Yeah Lemmy has fewer layers of irony than Reddit does. I feel like reddit was more like that in the old days, but years of mockery buried that energy.
I miss ironic weird reddit communities. Like all those super weird spacedick types of random nonsense.
It sucks that you can’t be random and weird anymore, without someone trying to get you banned because they have no sense of irony or human and take everything as a literael truth.
Like I’d love to make random community that is about what sandwiches you’d like to have sex with, but sadly you can’t do that in 2026, because people would take it as a real legit thing, and then probably argue it’s sandwich abuse because sandwiches have feelings or something.
Unfortunately a few too many “online jokes” became real-world nightmares, so now people have been primed to stamp anything questionable out early
yeah i noticed how a lot of “4chan jokes” became mainstream jokes and now are right wing policies
Ah, SPACEDICKS.
Rest in Power, I_RAPE_CATS. D:
Well I don’t think we’re on here to appease you so shrug.
Reading all the comments here venting about bad expereince and here I am just having a blast on Lemmy with a the nice interactions! :D
I’m agreeing more with this every day. Just yesterday some guy made fun of a genuine and reasonable concern I had then made of me again sandwiching in an “apology”, and when I told them it still seemed they were making light of it, they flipped the fuck out and told me I would die alone among other completely unnecessary and inappropriate insults.
I mean, I get overreacting sometimes, but it kinda feels like some days half the people you interact with are either actively shit humans or are having the worst day of their lives. I wish you could feel at least safe enough to challenge a viewpoint without some dickhead coming for your jugular. It’s pretty pathetic and I’ve gone through several rounds of wondering if I want to be here or not. I’ve definitely had to block a lot of people in order to stay.
I have been called a Nazi and zionist for literally no reason. Once I responded to a comment from someone saying Nazis aren’t human to say “I hate the things they believe and do, and I think they should be punished harshly for their crimes, but they are still indeed human”. You would’ve thought I said “Nazis just have an opinion and do nothing wrong,” which of course I was not even slightly hinting at or thinking. I was told I was a Nazi sympathizer who should kill himself. Then the zionist accusations will come at the drop of a hat. I literally think Israel is evil yet if I say something as innocuous as “trump is hurting Gaza even more than any Democrat” that makes me a “sHiTlIb zIoNiSt”. I’m probably in the left-most 15% in the US. And yeah I know that’s not saying much globally but how about we understand that people live in a context and you cannot scream them into being on the exact same page as your own personal politics? People can be so self righteous it’s painful to think about. It’s really taxing to my mental health when I think “this space where I relate to people more than anywhere else on the Internet is also full of people who will wish death or suffering on me if I mention one thing they don’t like.”
I feel much the same way. In the past 48 hours I have been called a pro-genocide fascist and Blue MAGA, amongst other similar things, for 1. making a comment about the aggressive behavior of Grad users and how similar it can be to 4chan users aka those who fell into the MAGA pipeline, and 2. explaining to somebody why somebody else asked them who they voted for when they made a comment to the extent of “both sides support genocide.”
I came here to find a new egg_irl and traaaa, and what I’ve gotten is politics and leftist infighting.
Some people just need the first stupid loser saying stupid shit to be verbose and pompous. They wouldn’t mind if he was wrong, they’d join in to attack you
Yeah, I have thought that too. Often I will get several downvotes on something I think is pretty benign, and many of them tend to show up after some asshole is rude/insulting about that benign viewpoint.
You’re a decent reasonable person.
A lot of lemmy users, especially the .ml nutjobs, think that makes you a horrible person. They are extremists and only support other people who support their extremist views, including the use of violence towards those who don’t agree with their political opinions.
Is there a reason why an instance with so many people has the most dikheads?
Yes, because the instance(s) themselves are there to promote their beliefs and serve as safe havens for them. Just like the one you are on is about promoting books and writers. But they come into generalist instances and act like dickheads because they can’t help themselves, and/or unsuspecting folks post in their instances and they lose their minds.
Thanks. Yeah, that’s what I gather too.
I’m beginning to think half of these people are foreign bad actors, come across from Reddit et al ironically enough.
They’re my only complaint with this place. They’re so irrational you have to wonder how they get by daily and the conversations are always pushed the same way; once the accusations of Zionism and genocide supporter run out of steam, they move to attempting quotes you never made or deliberate attempts to confuse the conversation.
For the genuine ones among them, I think there’s a bit of cope because they’ve realised they’ve been played at the top political level and used, now their ego won’t let them admit that.
They’re not worth engaging with. These are at an honest level, pedophile and genocide enablers and at the dishonest one, bad actors working for the interests they project. I think that’s a lesson a few of us need to learn here.
Yeah just block em dude. I enjoy your comments. Including this one.
There’s a fair percentage of people I’d say are mentally ill or at least like you say… Seem to be constantly experiencing the worst day of their lives here. I just block them and move on with life - I’m not their therapist.
My experience of Lemmy after blocking just 40 or so users, (and shit communities that I don’t want to see posts from) has changed greatly for the positive. Don’t let them drag you down, there’s plenty of room here for reasonable opinions.
Thank you for this, good to know people enjoy my input on occasion! I have increased my quickness to block. Which sucks in a way because I do want to see even bad opinions (as long as they aren’t heinous), but I cannot be raged at by these kinds of users so often.
I would go so far as to say it may be worse.
For example, there are certain people on Lemmy who hold very strong opinions on subjects and try to shoehorn in that opinion even where it is not appreciated. There are even more of those sorts of people on Reddit, but they are diluted by a much larger user base that knows how to act right.
I like it here. You must go to some weird instances.
It was [email protected]
big mistake
blocking lemmy.ml will make your experience a lot less hostile.
the majority of crazy people on lemmy come from there and a few other extremist instances.
Zamn! I was unaware!!
This is just the same oft repeated toxic nonsense. .ml is no worse than any of the other subs. There has been a fairly steady rachet campaign since I joined to either get leftwing instances banned or encourageing folks to block them.
People going into a Marxist-Leninist instance trolling with long debunked US-hegemon propaganda are not going to give an honest account of the place.
On a wider point, there are probably a number of topics that are triggering for some folks in ways that catch people off guard. For instance people both-sidesing issues that if you only follow main stream media might seem a reasonable and popular position but the actual history of the issue can go back many decades and be obscenely unjust. Folks that have been paying attention or, worse, have been personally effected, may have a hair trigger on that issue. It’s very easy for bad faith actors to tone police folks like that. Especially when a majority of people are uninformed on the issue.
that user is just mad that they can’t say racists slurs without getting banned
.ML is one of the worst instance in the fediverse, brother.
Also stay away from Hexbear, Lemmygrad, and HilariousChaos.
the point is lemmy is ours, not some psycho billionaire’s.
I’m with you. Try having anything with “religion can be good” or “vegan has its flaws” and you’re guaranteed to be downvoted to oblivion.
Ikrr! I’m not even religious and I’ve just seen too much hate for religion over here. Not as much as reddit, but plenty
Offering a different viewpoint here: a LOT of people have been directly harmed by religious institutions, which is why there’s such a viciously negative reaction at times.
“Reddit Athiest”-type Sky Daddy isn’t real, cultist freak stuff isn’t helpful, obviously, but a lot of it is knee-jerk hate responses to the concept of spirituality because they or someone they know was genuinely harmed by a church or a religious person at some point, and when this happens it frequently goes unaddressed. I would suggest blocking instead of engaging if it really offends you, as this kind of person usually isn’t evil, and getting into arguments won’t change any minds.
Oh my, did someone not take your skyfairy story seriously? why didnt your god strike them down with lightning? Maybe you should follow your gods good example and be quiet about your skyfairy legends and how you want to apply them to everyone elses lives. If you want to bow to a fictional story in your own home fine, but dont expect the rest of us listen to your tedious BS about it.
Yeah see this is exactly what I was talking about. So much about “don’t expect the rest of us to listen to your tedious BS about it”.
and whats wrong with that? Do we owe you our ears and attention?
Why? Because religion is such a righteous dignified force in the world?
Why should anyone listen to your bullshit then? Because you’re such a righteous dignified force in the world?
buddy, a ham sandwich is a better force for good in the world than most religions. Any piece of excrement on the ground has more purpose and goodness than religion.
I’d like to think my never mass murdering self beats religion hands down-- we’re not talking about a high bar, and thats just an unfortunate fact of history.
Aww did I make a leetl boi angy??! 🥺😘
This just makes you look stupid.
It’s possible to be an atheist without acting like a 12 year old.
ok and its possible to follow a religion yourself and not bother other people about it …like you did.
If the entire world would just learn to mind their own effing business unless it directly affects you, we’d be in such a better place. Why exactly are you against this?
What religion do I follow that I am bothering people about?
This proves the exact point that was made earlier - that for some reason, Lemmings are unable to access any critical thinking skills when it comes to religion. You turn your brain off, and just reflexively post r/atheism slogans.
Like, you get there’s a difference between people proselytizing and people talking about religion? Or am I to believe that the professor for the graduate class in religious historiography I took assigned me books about Muslims because he wanted me to convert to Islam?
If you arent advocating for more tolerance of religion broadly, why comment at all?
Religion exists, is followed by many people, and impacts our lives. If you want an understanding of history to you have to have basic background on religious beliefs.
“Hurr durr skydaddy” is a deliberate refusal to think. It is lazy, it is stupid, it is embarrassing, and it does nothing to help you better understand why things are happening in the world.
The inability to distinguish proselytizing from any other discussion of religion does not imply good things about your logical reasoning skills.
I think you’re missing the point.
People are people everywhere you go. Nowhere is free of people unless you want to be by yourself.
Lemmy and the Fediverse is not about only being around people that are exactly perfect for you to associate with.
It’s about not giving your thoughts, your mental energy, and your time to build an empire for someone else to profit off of.
I have often wondered about it. I mean people are people. So why should it be? That you and I should get along so awfully?
Okay, so we’re different colors and we’re different creeds and different people have different needs.
It’s obvious you hate me though I’ve done nothing wrong. I’ve never even met you, so what could I have done?
I can’t understand. What makes a man.
Speak for yourself, you paragraph-writing Dingo! /jk
Lemmy is still social media that’s full of anonymous posters with no consequences to their posts so of course discourse is going to be absolute shit with trolls and disingenuous people vying for imaginary points and wearing that negative points as a badge of honor.
That said, with a smaller user base, while there are still complete contrarian, disingenuous users, I do find that the discussion on average are at least better than reddit and the one key to better conversations and debates I found after moving from reddit is I’m much, much more judicious about using that block user button and block communities button.
