I guess in my mind the thought experiment was that you see the person is attractive to you (in this case they are feminine and beautiful enough that you would find them attractive), but you haven’t started dating yet, it comes out before dating and then you have to decide whether to date them or not.
It’s interesting to explore various permutations:
what if she were pre-op, would her female penis be a deal-breaker?
what if she were post-op, would there be any hangups at that point?
what if she were post-op, transitioned as a child, and her trans status was an irrelevant medical fact from her distant past, would you still feel it was a lie and be upset to learn after you had been dating?
It’s interesting to me you bring up androgyny and males when thinking about trans women - I guess that makes sense, probably most people think of a man who lives as a woman socially… I guess it’s hard when the passing trans women are invisible, living as cis people without disclosing their trans identity. That leaves the non-passing folks as the most visible ones.
Anyway, let me assure you, there are plenty of trans women who look and are feminine, and indistinguishable from cis women. But I totally get why this is hard to believe without first hand exposure.
I guess in my mind the thought experiment was that you see the person is attractive to you (in this case they are feminine and beautiful enough that you would find them attractive), but you haven’t started dating yet, it comes out before dating and then you have to decide whether to date them or not.
It’s interesting to explore various permutations:
It’s interesting to me you bring up androgyny and males when thinking about trans women - I guess that makes sense, probably most people think of a man who lives as a woman socially… I guess it’s hard when the passing trans women are invisible, living as cis people without disclosing their trans identity. That leaves the non-passing folks as the most visible ones.
Anyway, let me assure you, there are plenty of trans women who look and are feminine, and indistinguishable from cis women. But I totally get why this is hard to believe without first hand exposure.