Absolutely true! I wish people would just not ruin other people’s happiness. It’s really not that difficult!
This is a weird coincidence. I just finished watching Lizzie McGuire yesterday and the last episode was precisely about not letting snobs ruin your enjoyment of something. She and her mates went to watch a live recording of a toddler show and got made fun of by Kate.
Yes, I’m a middle aged woman who likes re-watching shows from when I was younger. Anyone doesn’t like that, that’s a them problem. I could have done with a mate like Gordo as a kid though. He’s very A Team friendly.
I’ve just stopped telling my friends anything recently. it’s either met with zero response, or a 1 word answer. no point in feeling good about personal things around them when it’s just stifled quickly.
Oh dayum, that is really aweful to hear :/
I’m sorry they kind of suck in that area. Do you wanna share something that made you happy that they just didn’t get? Because I would love to hear about something that made you happy (even if only something small or simple)
What about Zionists? Or people cheering at Trump for sinking a boat in Venezuela?
I don’t think thats what this post is about
What about fucking sharks?
Of course it’s not, they are still the worst.
What if they’re excited for a trump third term?
Don’t make them feel stupid for being excited. Help them understand why it’s a very bad idea.
Nah I’m done trying that to be perfectly honest.
Fair.
A blunt instrument is a good way to help them understand
This is absolutely too general of a blanket statement. Piss all over the joy of fascists, that makes you a good person.
Yeah, this is a worthless platitude. I wish this stuff wasn’t so mindlessly upvoted.
It’s important to respect that joy can be derived from different sources, but when a third of America is reveling in the misery of others, there are bigger fish to dry than protecting everyone’s feelings equally.
I’m not sure fascists feel joy. I think they can only feel anger and hatred. Maybe malicious schadenfreude at best.
Wouldn’t schadenfreude already be malicious?
They sure sound giddy when they’re infringing on our rights.
They’re brainwashed and have twisted views on most things, including what joy feels like.
Some people are sociopaths and genuinely can’t feel joy. Put those people in positions of influence (like we have), and the meaning of joy takes on the twisted meaning ascribed by mob mentality.
That’s what we need to fix. The reason we’ve been successful as a species for hundreds of thousands of years is because we’re a highly cooperative species who takes care of each other. We’re strong together.
Sociopaths being in charge ruins that. They’re less than 5% of the population, by the way. We don’t need to let them do this to us.
Yeah there are limits to this for sure. If the thing you enjoy actively harms people around you then thats a no from me dawg. If you give in to endless consumerism and that excites you, then i will bully you for it.
People feeling joy don’t become fascists.
I’m sure deep down you understand the type of situation OP means.
No, no. This is one where offense can easily be intended.
I catch myself doing this sometimes. I don’t mean to belittle anyone’s excitement — I just tend to default to responding way too analytically/critically. It’s a trait of mine that I despise and I’m trying to be more aware of it so that I can prevent it from happening.
My parents were very excited about a fresh business opportunity by a certain Nigerian Prince. So I’m a shit person for not letting them enjoy it, sure.
Your loss, sat in my new palace because he came to me when you refused to help him.
Happened to me way too often as a kid (from other kids, never my family), and I’ve only just now begun to realize it’s why I feel such embarrassment if I ever allow myself to get excited/show excitement. God forbid I ever let myself get animated, I end up laying in bed every night for literal weeks afterwards replaying it through some fucked up filter that just gets worse and worse until I’m convinced I’ve humiliated myself irrevocably, and I stop interacting with other humans for a long time. The only places I can allow myself to be excited/animated are online and with my family.
Recently went to visit a friend and ended up getting positively hyped while helping one of his friends build a rube goldberg machine. Friend I went to visit ended up having a medical episode, and mentioned in his drugged up state that he was a little jealous of how quickly I and his friend hit it off, and I still haven’t recovered. Me and rube goldberg machine guy really clicked, but I haven’t been able to bring myself to even text the guy because I can’t get past the embarrassment of it. Friend I visited said it was like watching Romeo and Juliet meet.
To live is to cringe. There really is no antidote.
What happened to, um… JoCat? So many people were mad about the girls animation that they bullied him off the internet for a bit, and only after he was gone were they like “I agree with the cartoon, I just don’t like people knowing that about me.”
If you don’t mind me asking, what do you find embarrassing about building a sick-ass fuckin’ rube goldberg machine? I really can’t imagine somebody doing that without joy.
Building the machine wasn’t embarrassing, getting all animated and excited around other humans was embarrassing. I know it isn’t. I know that isn’t normal. I don’t know why I have that reaction later on, other than when I was a kid other kids made fun of me whenever I did. Like, if I ever got excited and hyper or something other kids would laugh and make comments about I was fat and it I moved around I’d jiggle. Shit like that. It made me end up with basically the mindset that I need to be stoic all the fucking time unless I’m very close to someone. The friend I visited has been one of my best for 20 years (online/phone), and his friend and I clicked so fast that my barriers sort of dropped unexpectedly, and I ended up getting really excited and animated. Basically I leave situations like that feeling like I’ve made a fool of myself. A fat, ugly fool.
Our brains suck sometimes
Hm. Yeah, that’s a deep well to climb out of.
Well, I’m sure you know there’s no getting out of this prison without banging at the walls, right? :p I only learned to sing by challenging myself to be uncomfortable.
Do you find that it’s easier if you talk to people later and they’re like “no, I didn’t think anything was weird; it was a joy to be around you!” or is it like a “your brain wouldn’t believe them anyway” kind of thing?
Part of growing independence is to develop some internal approval that you will enjoy your life without asking permission of others for you to go be you. You can and will seek out supportive people who will be attracted to your ideas. This is what having a vision is. You see it and that is what is important.
And Lots of other people have their own shit going on. So if they aren’t going out of their way to be cheerleaders: do not take it personally. They might come around later when they see what you got going on. They might not. But hey that’s ok. They are on their own trail. They are allowed this space.
That said if someone is going out of their way to bully you: do not give them permission to make you feel like shit. Their opinion of you is none of your business.
Not to cool your jets, but I’ve met worse types of persons
Impossible. The meme has spoken!
Definetely in the top 10 billion worst types of people.
Well I was excited about making them feel stupid for liking something and you just make me feel stupid for being excited for something… asshole.
what if they’re excited about hurting people
Autistics everywhere furiously clicking the upvote button.
The worst people in the world furiously drawing strawmen…
I’m curious to understand this comment, if you would sacrifice some time to explain what you mean?
Or even more interesting would be to know what you think I meant with my comment.
As I was scrolling down the comments, all I could see was comments using strawman arguments for why the meme is wrong. Really just pointing out the juxtaposition of reactions to meme. Wasnt saying you were wrong, more just completing the thought… as it were.
What a nice example of problems with typed conversations. I was trying to interpret your post and just failed to, and i guess i could have writte my first comment a bit less open to interpretation.
Hey, man. Im just glad we could resolve the issue with civil conversation. Thats the real win here, imo. Usually theres a misunderstanding, and people just start throwing shit at each other lol. Hope you have a great weekend, bud.
same :)
I imagine the woman in the profile picture posted this shortly after introducing her new 50 year old boyfriend to her parents.
Now I think there’s no problem in making you feel stupid for a dumbass comment, even if you were excited about it
Huh? I think you replied in the wrong thread.
relevant username
Dude tell me about it. I had a girl tell me she was exited about the tswift engagement and I just went full asshole mode for some reason and was like “oh you gonna go to their wedding? Big friends with Taylor?” … Idk why I decided to be a jerk but … Yeah I still feel low-key guilty about that but she’s said/done plenty worse so I probably should let that shit go.
Anyways, yeah I guess I’m saying sometimes I think people may not be totally aware in the moment of their dickishness so learn from me and just STFU if someone is happy for some dumb shit.
Did you apologize to her? Sounds like you were taking some of your frustration out on her and that’s probably not fair.
Yes, I’m not that big of a dick. My apology led to her sharing some silly shit she’s said to her buddies that were akin to my slip up.
It’s not like I punched her in the face and spit on her lol, if I had couched it better it would have probably just been funny but I just went hella sarcastic and dick mode.
In context she had said she got really good news then showed me the announcement on her phone so I was like expecting some actually good news for her not some stupid celebrity tabloid shit that’s ultimately meaningless.
Idk I know we all need our bread and circuses, I’m wrapped up in plenty of equally inane and pointless crap same as everyone else - sometimes I just am bad at being a human. I’m not very good at socializing in general, it’s something I’ve had to learn and try to study and be good at still - definitely does not come naturally to me. I’ve gotten pretty good at pretending, I’m a decent “professional people person” when I turn my human mask part of my brain on since reading people is something I’ve had to focus on because I can’t just socialize like a human being normally does.
But yeah that’s a very long way of saying, yes I’m not that mean of a guy.
