The best thing you can do for him right now is to leave him. If you stay with him, then he will eventually treat you like shit and if he ever gets out of this cesspool he has cornered himself into, then how he is going to treat you in the near future will just be one more regret for him.

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Why bother? Crazy how many people want to bend over backwards for some dipshit trying to maintain white supremacy. Fucking bounce.

Something I don’t see others commenting on is the agreement not to question each other’s viewing choices.

To me, the fact that this had to be discussed, and there is an insistence there are zero restrictions/conversations allowed, tells me they always planned to watch unsavoury things they knew you wouldn’t agree with, and wanted to have grounds to shut down future conversation about it.

Massive red flags all around. At this point it sounds like he’s fully “in the hole”, so to speak.

You could try to address the issue, but to be honest I don’t see it doing anything productive. He sounds pretty toxic and you can’t force people to become better… They have to want it themselves.

If you do try to address the issue with him, the important thing is to not allow yourself to get bogged down with misogynistic, manipulative bullshit. If he is dismissive of your concerns and won’t engage in a constructive conversation with you, then there’s not a lot you can do and you should move on.

You are getting lots of advice to dump him right away which i can see with lots of red flags here. The constant J Peterson and misogyn are both large red flags that needs to be addressed. Presumably you live together since you talk about shared finances. If you went on one date with this guy I would say run but since you have been together for longer you might want to stay a little longer. This depends on if this behavior seems out of character for him based on your history together.

I would suggest you talk with him about you concerns about quitting his job maybe with a couples therapist. He seems like he is miserable and doing anything to change that up but quitting a job to do streaming full time is not a great idea. Talk about how you want to find something that brings him joy in his career and will support him as he finds a realistic way to do so. This may be keeping his current job while start streaming on the regular or find a new job or new hobby / side hustle.

I do think he might need therapy to talk about these feelings with someone else. The Manosphere attracts unhappy men with no / little support. He might need more from a therapist ( maybe a male one) to talk this through. These seem like signs of a desperate for a change man.

The vast majority of people who try to get into streaming don’t make it. A lot of it is pure luck even if you’re doing all the right things.

I’ve seen many great streamers fail because they didn’t attract large enough numbers to be sustainable even though they were doing all the right stuff.

Anyone serious about being a successful streamer will keep their day job until the point where streaming is self sustainable. This guy doesn’t know shit about streaming or how to get there. How he’s going about it is a recipe for failure. And then he expects to use you to keep himself from becoming homeless if it doesn’t work out, which it most likely won’t.

Run.

The manosphere stuff is a red flag.

The plan to quit his day job without concrete plans to support himself is a red flag.

The casual misogyny is a red flag.

Is there anything I can even do to tell him

Yes, you can tell him. Based on what you’ve written here, I wouldn’t have high hopes that he’ll listen. In fact, I would brace for retaliation and gaslighting. Getting outside opinions will help keep you from being manipulated.

When you get into a relationship with someone, you’re actually getting into a relationship with three people: the person you think they are, the person they actually are, and the person they will become. It sucks, but if you find that the latter two don’t align with the first one, you need to prepare to move on.

Dude here: this one is a bad egg. Ditch him for a better one.

I think you need to have a serious talk about misogyny, the manosphere, and his business plan. If he’s going to quit his job and use you as a bank for this then i think he should do research and propose his business plan to you. Id make sure the business plan covers how how long until he can expect to make money and how much that could be (with sources).

It’s one thing to be a supportive partner, it’s another thing to bankroll someone who has in the past eluded to that they wouldn’t do the same (education).

I think there’s enough here to warrant leaving bin outright. At the very least if the serious talk is unsatisfactory then leave him.

This is the same man who said men paying for women’s education is a dumb move because she would end up leaving him in the end.

This sentence alone is reason to seriously question the relationship. He’s saying that keeping women dumb is the only way to keep them reliant on men. Think about it: are there any admirable people/organizations who think this way?

If he has self-esteem issues, that’s unfortunate, but it’s not your job to fix them. Please don’t burn yourself out trying. It won’t work, because changing yourself takes hard work, and why should he do something hard when he’s already getting what he wants from you?

I feel like he is just using me for sex and a future financial support.

Trust your feelings. Ditch the manchild and find someone deserving. You are worth it.

I normally feel like the advice to leave the relationship is often overprescribed by internet drama lovers.

Not in this case. Get out of this relationship. ASAP.

In the future do have discretion over the type of media your partner consumes because it can change who they are.

Yeah, that’s a living problem ngl. As everyone has said, prepare for his failure and behavior getting worse. He’s… not doing so great considering the manosphere shit.

Is he crazy attractive? Is he incredibly entertaining? If he isn’t both of those things he will have trouble making it big streaming.

GTFO