I am 28 yo, my husband is 31 and we got married three months ago. We live in France which might help with context. We just bought a flat and my dad was over from Germany to help us move some furnitures. Yesterday we went on a pedal boat at the lake to relax a bit, enjoy the sun and relax after all the efforts. My husband and my dad jumped in the water in their boxer shorts and kept saying how nice the water was. I just had my dress on and wasn’t planning to swim so I was a bit frustrated, and my husband told me I should remove my dress and join them. I said no. We then ate some snacks and drank some more (quite a lot actually) and then i mentioned again that I wish i had brought a bikini to swim and tan. Again he told me that there is no big deal and I should remove my dress. I gave it some thought and then decided to remove my dress indeed and to tan at the front of the small boat. A couple of hours after we went back home and my husband said he is super surprised that I « showed my tits » to my dad and that he would have never thought i would remove my dress if I didn’t have a bra on. He also said my thong was way too small. The thing is, he for sure would have guessed I had no bra when he told me to remove my dress, and I always wear this type of thong, so I feel he is unfair. He didn’t push me down or anything, but just mentioning that he is surprised leaves me a bitter taste. Also, he claims my dad was taking photos of the lake and the landscape but did so only when I was titties out, and he thinks for sure my dad now has photos of my tits on his phone. I’m totally lost and would love some opinion please
Your dad and husband both sound annoying. They suggested you go swimming in your underwear, multiple times, and when you do it’s not right and your husband makes a stink about it? Either you’re relaxed about nudity (your own and others) or you aren’t, which is also fine. But running around in underwear yourself, convincing others to be in underwear and THEN shitting on them for it is extremely hypocritical.
What he says about your dad’s photos (whether it’s true or not) makes me also think that for him you being in underwear and swimming was something sexual. Typical male hypocrisy: A woman being (mostly) naked is ALWAYS sexual, a man being equally undressed isn’t, but also the woman is boring and no fun if she doesn’t do something like spontaneously undress and swim.
Personally, I would be livid if my husband thought he could tell me when and where I can be naked. And I would absolutely give him hell if he’d push me to undress and then critisize me for doing so.
I think I shocked a bit my husband, it makes me sad. He wasn’t really blaming me, more questioning why I would remove my dress if there was nothing under… but yes I see your point