My boyfriend does when my adhd is going to loud for him. I have become more quiet for him <3
This is why I hate self described extroverts so much. They are often explaining all their bullying behaviour as ‘being extrovert’
Or worse: the diagnosed ADHD mixed with type A personality and excuse every hostile thing they do is because of the ADHD.
Essentially it always boils down to the poorly managed type A wearing different disguises.
Because when someone is alone, they might start thinking for themselves. Dangerous shit right there for those lacking the honesty to make actually win-win kind of deals
Ever been to a library? They tell extroverts to be quiet
This is why libraries are one of my most favorite places. The truly shared space.
end extrovert supremacy now!
Leaving this comment feels extroverted, I hate it.
I really felt this almost sense of justice when extroverts were forced to quarantine and were getting cabin fever after like 3 days.
Explaining to them that the discomfort they felt is what I felt every single day I had to go out into their world with all their eyes always looking at my face and making noises at me.
See this is why I miss COVID. It was the perfect excuse to stay at home and do nothing, and when I did have to go out, the roads were clear and hardly anyone was around.
Pisses me off so much that the extroverts had to ruin everything by bitching and moaning until government officials around the world caved and ended lockdown early.
Bunch of selfish cunts. Literally got people killed over their strange desire to socialize. It’s beyond infuriating.
My partner and I went to a resort town while things were in the weird not-entirely-closed-but-weird post-lockdown phase. We figured it would be absolutely dead and we were right.
It was mid spring or so, and we walked from our hotel to a nearby private pier (owned by a condo or high-end hotel or something), with a growler of beer and some glasses, hopped the gate and sat there on their deck furniture, naked, drinking in the dark on this lake for several hours. Not a soul in sight. Just the night sky, us, and a good time.
Then a cold breeze rolled in and we hurriedly got dressed and walked back to the hotel down the center of the street.
It was super surreal, very enjoyable, and had that liminal space feeling to it.
We should make taking an “introday” a thing. Wanna hang? Nah, I’m taking an introday. Cool, sometimes that’s needed.
Covid was a mixed blessing in that sense. Moving around and generally having much more privacy and space in public was great, but then the part of you that really dislikes change is faced with the glaringly obvious “this is not normal” public and facing the uncertainty of at least the immediate future.
It is. And also how nature was really rapidly healing just because we reduced the number of people commuting by combustion engine… and then we just went back to how things were?? Like we didn’t even want to try and learn from it.
COVID was a historic inflection point in so many many ways, and I fear that we’ve completely wasted it.
But we must return to office because we need to socialize and our company is so eco-friendly it’ll force you to commute in your ICE vehicle.
Amen to that
I’ve definitely been told to stop talking my entire life so idk about this
Ugh I’ve heard both. I talk too much and I don’t talk enough, which do you freaking want?! Cause I can’t win either way and I can’t win by being myself. Lately I just decided fuck it, I do what I want.
Or when they demand the introvert start talking but they complain that s/he won’t shut up and talks too much.
“Hey, aren’t you into (special interest)? Tell us about that”
…
“No, not like that”
I have even been threatened with termination at work for that. I simply cannot make small talk at work and more than half of the department are tongue wagging gossips that I cannot interact with at all beyond the barebones job requirements. My supervisor sees this as anti teamwork
Yeah, work makes us cone in twice a week to “interact with our peers”, but I work with people on different continents let’s do I’m not interacting with them either way. Anyhow, I got yelled at for not eating lunch with “the group” when I just needed some downtime
Even using zoom isn’t any less hectic when you’re juggling multiple tasks with multiple people on multiple time zones
Feeling like people who are very talkative and/or loud do often get in trouble for that as well. People with a lack of self-awareness of one’s own volume and monologuing about things of interest can mean the same people who typically are on the receiving end of trying to be “pulled out of their shell” are also sometimes the people who get told to be quiet.
Many cultures do. Maybe yours not enough to your needs or taste.
