• RBWells@lemmy.world
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    4 days ago

    Training. I sold things at a market on weekends and told my kids it was “remedial sales and social skills training”. I’m still not a social butterfly by any stretch, but fake it till you make it helped me to be more comfortable talking to people.

  • Hyphlosion@lemm.ee
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    5 days ago

    Not caring about the anxiety part. I learned after a while not to give anxiety any respect and just do what I want, regardless if I get anxiety from it or not.

    I’m not getting any younger. Not going to let anxiety run my life.

  • Kommeavsted@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    5 days ago

    Removing other stressors and toxic people from my life. Listening to emotional responses.

    My anxiety from a rough relationship was giving me generalized social anxiety.

    Sometimes you meet people and give then a chance before your figure it out. You can just cut them off once you see their toxicity. They’ll survive just fine so don’t worry about them. There’s plenty of other people who are ready for good and healthy friendships.

  • ouRKaoS@lemmy.today
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    5 days ago

    Having a space to go where I can pull off the mask of “normal functioning human” for a bit.

  • Tenderizer78@lemmy.ml
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    6 days ago

    Doing socialization anyway … is the therapist-backed approach.

    Nihilism works wonders I guess. So does not going outside.

  • Random_Character_A@lemmy.world
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    6 days ago

    Not being social.

    I realized in my 40’s that my parents were wrong. You don’t actually have to be social butterfly to be happy.

    I’m missing the need for social interaction. World didn’t end. I’m completely happy without it and there are plenty of jobs that don’t extensively need it.

    So liberating. No amount of therapy really helped on the inside. It was all just pretending.

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      5 days ago

      It’s tricky for me though because I’ve always had a social need. I don’t have a need for sex like the majority of other humans do, but I do have a need to be social. Lickily I fulfill most of my social needs by going to work, but it can be stressful at times.

  • Venus_Ziegenfalle@feddit.org
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    6 days ago

    Therapy and making my peace with the past. Like working through it and then actively deciding to focus on the present from now on. This video actually kicked off my healing process.

  • Termight@lemmy.ml
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    6 days ago

    Self-criticism fueled my anxiety and depression. Compassion and acceptance have significantly improved my well-being.

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      5 days ago

      This is also a big issue for me. When I felt embarrassed because of something I did, I would tall myself, “You’re so stupid!” Which launched me into a shame spiral.

      What has helped me break out of the spiral is to notice when I tell myself I am stupid and actively respond, “No I am not”