Jokes aside, I’m sure I can’t convince you, but I’m sharing this for other readers here in case they find it interesting.
Our brain is fairly complex and deals with unique, complex, but usually somewhat familiar problem patterns throughout the day. To handle this complexity efficiently, the brain tries to run on autopilot as much as possible. I think the brain is one of the most energy-hungry organs in our body (either that, or the Mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell).
When you’re stressed or on high alert, you carefully weigh every word. BUT when you’re relaxed and comfortable, your brain slips into these autopilot scripts. That’s when these verbal “muscle memories” can kick in.
Based on this scenario, if you can slip into autopilot mode where you naturally say “I love you” to someone, chances are high you’re regularly surrounded by loving relationships where this phrase is common. Your brain has basically created a shortcut for familiar social interactions.
So to this OP, get rekt lol. you’re actually outing yourself as someone who is NOT experiencing a lot of love in your life! Hope I’m either wrong or this changes for you in the future. CHEERS.
So what gets me is the idea that saying or hearing I love you means a person is surrounded by love in a loving environment. I have known many the person who says I love you to people who they would not go out of their way to pick up if they needed a ride. I see love in the actions I take and my family takes on a a regular basis.
yes this is the crux of why I made my comment. I love you used as a replacement for goodbye just feels like it lessens it. Curiously when I tell my wife I love her verbally its actually an action because I know she needs to hear words sometimes but much like swearing I don’t like it to become to so common it looses its meaning.
9/10 of my phone calls are with my wife, it’s a reflex to say, “I love you.” before hanging up. I could definitely see myself accidentally saying it to someone else as we ended a pleasant conversation.
Very sad way of looking at this. How about, the person who said “Love you” is so willing to let love in and to give love to others that it comes naturally to them when having a friendly interaction with another person.
Saying “I love you” as a reflex is an indication that you’re surrounded with love so much of the time that instead of having to consciously think about whether love should be expressed, you instead have to consciously think about whether love shouldn’t be expressed.
You’re the one in the flippant relationship lol, do you not see how much projection you’re doing rn? You’re a goddamn overhead with the wet-erase markers
Feeling the need to end all conversations with “I love chocolate” likely means that you really love chocolate. Most people don’t express love so often that they do it accidentally unless they feel it so often that they’d want to express it at the end of most conversations.
Counterpoint: love deserves reinforcement, and for many people the seemingly trivial task of appending it to a verbal statement - our most basic form of communication outside facial gestures - serves well enough if you know the foundations of your love are good.
You may not see it that way and you may feel different, and that’s fine. But this is clearly an issue for you and your partner(s), not us.
is it wholesome that love you is so meaningless a person would auto use it with a random person???
Hi stranger! I love you!
Jokes aside, I’m sure I can’t convince you, but I’m sharing this for other readers here in case they find it interesting.
Our brain is fairly complex and deals with unique, complex, but usually somewhat familiar problem patterns throughout the day. To handle this complexity efficiently, the brain tries to run on autopilot as much as possible. I think the brain is one of the most energy-hungry organs in our body (either that, or the Mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell).
When you’re stressed or on high alert, you carefully weigh every word. BUT when you’re relaxed and comfortable, your brain slips into these autopilot scripts. That’s when these verbal “muscle memories” can kick in.
Based on this scenario, if you can slip into autopilot mode where you naturally say “I love you” to someone, chances are high you’re regularly surrounded by loving relationships where this phrase is common. Your brain has basically created a shortcut for familiar social interactions.
So to this OP, get rekt lol. you’re actually outing yourself as someone who is NOT experiencing a lot of love in your life! Hope I’m either wrong or this changes for you in the future. CHEERS.
So what gets me is the idea that saying or hearing I love you means a person is surrounded by love in a loving environment. I have known many the person who says I love you to people who they would not go out of their way to pick up if they needed a ride. I see love in the actions I take and my family takes on a a regular basis.
Ideally yes, but I do recognise they’re just words in the end. Actions are what matter most if I’m understanding you correctly? If so, I fully agree!
yes this is the crux of why I made my comment. I love you used as a replacement for goodbye just feels like it lessens it. Curiously when I tell my wife I love her verbally its actually an action because I know she needs to hear words sometimes but much like swearing I don’t like it to become to so common it looses its meaning.
I was going to say “I bet you’re fun at parties”, but that would require you to get invited to any, which I highly doubt happens.
how can you be so jaded in life to turn this fun and positive story into a negative? lmao
9/10 of my phone calls are with my wife, it’s a reflex to say, “I love you.” before hanging up. I could definitely see myself accidentally saying it to someone else as we ended a pleasant conversation.
They’re not a random person. They’re someone the sayer has a close work relationship with. They may have worked together for years, we don’t know.
Very sad way of looking at this. How about, the person who said “Love you” is so willing to let love in and to give love to others that it comes naturally to them when having a friendly interaction with another person.
saying I love you as a reflex is not feeling love.
If that’s the way you feel, your relationship sucks.
I’ve been married close to a decade and we mean it even if it sounds casual.
I have been married 24 years so take that what you may. One reason my wife like me is because I show love more often than say it and vice versa.
Saying “I love you” as a reflex is an indication that you’re surrounded with love so much of the time that instead of having to consciously think about whether love should be expressed, you instead have to consciously think about whether love shouldn’t be expressed.
It means you are surrounded by phrases of love. Love expressed so flippantly has meaning equivalent to I love chocolate.
You’re the one in the flippant relationship lol, do you not see how much projection you’re doing rn? You’re a goddamn overhead with the wet-erase markers
I think you are extrapolating a lot of information that isn’t there. You should reflect on why that is
Damn bro are you okay?
I think you have some issues to work out, man.
Feeling the need to end all conversations with “I love chocolate” likely means that you really love chocolate. Most people don’t express love so often that they do it accidentally unless they feel it so often that they’d want to express it at the end of most conversations.
Counterpoint: love deserves reinforcement, and for many people the seemingly trivial task of appending it to a verbal statement - our most basic form of communication outside facial gestures - serves well enough if you know the foundations of your love are good.
You may not see it that way and you may feel different, and that’s fine. But this is clearly an issue for you and your partner(s), not us.
this I get but I do worry about those folks as I think they will fall into the trap of looking at words of love rather than actions of love.
It definitely isn’t wholesome that the concept of feeling love towards a great number of people, it even strangers, seems so foreign to you.
saying I love you as a reflex is not feeling love.
It is if your reflex is to say it when you feel it.