Jokes aside, I’m sure I can’t convince you, but I’m sharing this for other readers here in case they find it interesting.
Our brain is fairly complex and deals with unique, complex, but usually somewhat familiar problem patterns throughout the day. To handle this complexity efficiently, the brain tries to run on autopilot as much as possible. I think the brain is one of the most energy-hungry organs in our body (either that, or the Mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell).
When you’re stressed or on high alert, you carefully weigh every word. BUT when you’re relaxed and comfortable, your brain slips into these autopilot scripts. That’s when these verbal “muscle memories” can kick in.
Based on this scenario, if you can slip into autopilot mode where you naturally say “I love you” to someone, chances are high you’re regularly surrounded by loving relationships where this phrase is common. Your brain has basically created a shortcut for familiar social interactions.
So to this OP, get rekt lol. you’re actually outing yourself as someone who is NOT experiencing a lot of love in your life! Hope I’m either wrong or this changes for you in the future. CHEERS.
So what gets me is the idea that saying or hearing I love you means a person is surrounded by love in a loving environment. I have known many the person who says I love you to people who they would not go out of their way to pick up if they needed a ride. I see love in the actions I take and my family takes on a a regular basis.
yes this is the crux of why I made my comment. I love you used as a replacement for goodbye just feels like it lessens it. Curiously when I tell my wife I love her verbally its actually an action because I know she needs to hear words sometimes but much like swearing I don’t like it to become to so common it looses its meaning.
Hi stranger! I love you!
Jokes aside, I’m sure I can’t convince you, but I’m sharing this for other readers here in case they find it interesting.
Our brain is fairly complex and deals with unique, complex, but usually somewhat familiar problem patterns throughout the day. To handle this complexity efficiently, the brain tries to run on autopilot as much as possible. I think the brain is one of the most energy-hungry organs in our body (either that, or the Mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell).
When you’re stressed or on high alert, you carefully weigh every word. BUT when you’re relaxed and comfortable, your brain slips into these autopilot scripts. That’s when these verbal “muscle memories” can kick in.
Based on this scenario, if you can slip into autopilot mode where you naturally say “I love you” to someone, chances are high you’re regularly surrounded by loving relationships where this phrase is common. Your brain has basically created a shortcut for familiar social interactions.
So to this OP, get rekt lol. you’re actually outing yourself as someone who is NOT experiencing a lot of love in your life! Hope I’m either wrong or this changes for you in the future. CHEERS.
So what gets me is the idea that saying or hearing I love you means a person is surrounded by love in a loving environment. I have known many the person who says I love you to people who they would not go out of their way to pick up if they needed a ride. I see love in the actions I take and my family takes on a a regular basis.
Ideally yes, but I do recognise they’re just words in the end. Actions are what matter most if I’m understanding you correctly? If so, I fully agree!
yes this is the crux of why I made my comment. I love you used as a replacement for goodbye just feels like it lessens it. Curiously when I tell my wife I love her verbally its actually an action because I know she needs to hear words sometimes but much like swearing I don’t like it to become to so common it looses its meaning.