• MisterFrog@lemmy.world
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    13 hours ago

    Personal experience from when I was newly an adult, and chatting with a female university classmate and somehow got on the topic of games and I started explaining what Steam was, because I just subconsciously assumed, her being a woman, didn’t know.

    She politely pointed out I had mansplained to her.

    I am very thankful to her for the experience as it’s stuck with me and saved me from making a fool of myself on more than one occasion since.

    I’m sure there are possibly small things like this, that you may have been been “guilty” of in the past.

    These men, are engaging in similar behaviour cranked up to 1000.

    However, it’s even more malicious with them, because it’s not like the last 30 years or so haven’t had constant and increasing messaging (in the anglosphere, at least) about feminism and ways in which women have been treated unfairly.

    So, it’s not like they haven’t had the opportunity to reflect, and change.

    In summary, yeah, it is kind of baffling, but I will say society, while largely better than 30 years ago, still does have structural as well as conscious and unconcious bias towards women.

    So I’m not surprised people like this exist.

    • Tartas1995@discuss.tchncs.de
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      13 hours ago

      I hear you but what cranked it up to 1000?

      Like I always saw my mom as a extremely competent person, as a child she was flawless. Nowadays, I see her flaws but I am flawed, so if my father and any person I ever met. I am impressed by my sister and how I can be like the person that she is in many ways.

      I am talking about my direct family because these women had a lot of influence on me. So I wonder, what was their experience like to think so poorly of women? Not blaming the women in their social circle for being “bad”, I just wonder wtf happened. Where does that belief come from? I don’t think they all had great experiences with their male role models but horrible ones with their female role models. So what is it?