Is this unique to women? Do men experience anything similar in women-dominated fields? I’m not actually sure what these may be; teaching, childcare, hair stylists? I realise this may make me sound misogynist, but I’m really clueless.
Unfortunately I’ve seen men tend to dominate the conversation in women dominated fields as well, but only if they are misogynistic. I work a lot in the fiber arts industry and more often than not it is assumed I don’t know anything because I am a man and humble, but I quickly prove my worth with my 20 years experience and it’s wonderfully collaborative. Then I see so many men come in and say, “Look I knit a sweater! This is easy! Give me praise!” and weirdly enough there are enough people out there that just feed those egos. I completely blame the men in this case, but this problem wouldn’t be so prevalent if everyone was just willing to shut these idiots down.
Propublica has some useful peices, but it might take an ebsco search or three to pry loose that dangerous and embarassing level of ignorance about what living is like.
Watching sociology videos can be a bit of a grind, but tastes better than foot-in-the-mouth.
For my anecdotal story, I’ve never been treated worse than when I was doing IT for a hospital and working around nurses, who were almost exclusively women. God it felt like I was in a mean girls movie or some campy coming of age story about bullying.
Being burned out doesn’t mean being catty, intentionally spreading false rumors, forming impenetrable cliques, and just being rude and talking behind each others backs.
I get it, nurses are over worked and under paid. But so are a ton of other professions and they dont have this same problem.
Eh, being burned out means exactly (most of) that. Especially being rude is a huge sign of being burned out, because you just can’t muster the energy to be positive, because everything about your work pisses you off, including your coworkers, customers, bosses and the work itself.
There is a difference between “I’m frustrated with work so I will be short with people” and “I am going to systematically create a rumor that one of the IT guys is actually bi” or “10 of us are going to gang up on a new nurse and bully her until she leaves crying”.
Those are some of the worst examples but little petty stuff happened all the time. But it was even little things like every time a nurse would walk away the other nurses would talk about how they’re putting on weight or being a bad mom or some other nonsense.
I don’t know, like I said this is anecdotal stories. But I’ve worked a lot of places in a lot of industries and nurses aren’t the only ones who are overworked, underpaid, and burnt out. But they are overwhelmingly the ones who act the meanest.
I know I’m gonna go on a hot take that looks like is deflecting the problem but I experienced bullying and seen it and it can be worse than how they treat women. I think is related to a play of power the alpha beta shit existed before it now just has a name. Is all a play of power over others an male social status in the eyes of other males may times is defined by the amount of vaginas they have, had and would have access to. I think is all related and women get the short end of the stick a lot more than men but some get get the stick that says “fuck your life haha”. Of couse some men take it entirely with women for some reason too so with them women get both sticks.
And (knowing the internet i say this beforehand) please with this I do not mean to do a whataboutism argument. Women do have a problem here as well as many other problems we all need go help with.
Is this unique to women? Do men experience anything similar in women-dominated fields? I’m not actually sure what these may be; teaching, childcare, hair stylists? I realise this may make me sound misogynist, but I’m really clueless.
Unfortunately I’ve seen men tend to dominate the conversation in women dominated fields as well, but only if they are misogynistic. I work a lot in the fiber arts industry and more often than not it is assumed I don’t know anything because I am a man and humble, but I quickly prove my worth with my 20 years experience and it’s wonderfully collaborative. Then I see so many men come in and say, “Look I knit a sweater! This is easy! Give me praise!” and weirdly enough there are enough people out there that just feed those egos. I completely blame the men in this case, but this problem wouldn’t be so prevalent if everyone was just willing to shut these idiots down.
Men in fem dominated fields get the glass escalator to promotion.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Glass_Escalator
Propublica has some useful peices, but it might take an ebsco search or three to pry loose that dangerous and embarassing level of ignorance about what living is like.
Watching sociology videos can be a bit of a grind, but tastes better than foot-in-the-mouth.
This is anecdotal, but male teachers get a special treatment if the school staff is mostly women.
For my anecdotal story, I’ve never been treated worse than when I was doing IT for a hospital and working around nurses, who were almost exclusively women. God it felt like I was in a mean girls movie or some campy coming of age story about bullying.
I don’t think hospitals do count, being burned out could be an official requirement for the job and you wouldn’t notice a difference.
Being burned out doesn’t mean being catty, intentionally spreading false rumors, forming impenetrable cliques, and just being rude and talking behind each others backs.
I get it, nurses are over worked and under paid. But so are a ton of other professions and they dont have this same problem.
Eh, being burned out means exactly (most of) that. Especially being rude is a huge sign of being burned out, because you just can’t muster the energy to be positive, because everything about your work pisses you off, including your coworkers, customers, bosses and the work itself.
There is a difference between “I’m frustrated with work so I will be short with people” and “I am going to systematically create a rumor that one of the IT guys is actually bi” or “10 of us are going to gang up on a new nurse and bully her until she leaves crying”.
Those are some of the worst examples but little petty stuff happened all the time. But it was even little things like every time a nurse would walk away the other nurses would talk about how they’re putting on weight or being a bad mom or some other nonsense.
I don’t know, like I said this is anecdotal stories. But I’ve worked a lot of places in a lot of industries and nurses aren’t the only ones who are overworked, underpaid, and burnt out. But they are overwhelmingly the ones who act the meanest.
I know I’m gonna go on a hot take that looks like is deflecting the problem but I experienced bullying and seen it and it can be worse than how they treat women. I think is related to a play of power the alpha beta shit existed before it now just has a name. Is all a play of power over others an male social status in the eyes of other males may times is defined by the amount of vaginas they have, had and would have access to. I think is all related and women get the short end of the stick a lot more than men but some get get the stick that says “fuck your life haha”. Of couse some men take it entirely with women for some reason too so with them women get both sticks.
And (knowing the internet i say this beforehand) please with this I do not mean to do a whataboutism argument. Women do have a problem here as well as many other problems we all need go help with.