Ah, the low intelligence of the female. That’s like them.
also men: “WE HAVE A LONELINESS EPIDEMIC!”
As a woman, yeah i totally accidentally told my bros I got married a few years after the fact. In my defense we eloped and my friends and I sometimes go a few years without talking much
When offer to go to lunch with someone you haven’t seen in 15 years and they respond with as long as its not within 100ft of a school
Me: um I’m sorry I think everywhere I can go is within 100 ft of a school. But best of luck to you with your future and stuff.
SNL did it
When people watermark memes. SMH
Weird incel memes at that
I’m genuinely curious here: what makes this an incel meme?
The high maintenance example is women, while the low maintenance example is men, but that does seem to be a bit of a leap.
It’s stereotypical humor and not meant to be taken literally or held against women
Ohhh I didn’t realize you made it and knew the original intent and context in which it was created and shared
I enjoyed the stereotype to laugh it but I feel obligated to state one thing. Relationships require maintenance, that’s it regardless of boy or girl. Sure some people might say hi back but that doesn’t mean they’re a friend.
Sure some people might say hi back but that doesn’t mean they’re a friend.
True. But I’ve had some great friendships grow after years of just “hi” in passing. We weren’t friends yet, but we were destined to become friends.
Idunno I have quite a few friends where we only interact like every 4-8 months ish. But when we do we talk everyday for a month or two, then go separate ways again. Lifes busy we all know that. Not being in contact does no mean losing a friend.
True, but I also don’t want to be friends with you if you get upset because I’m not constantly sharing my whole life story with you at all times.
I’ve had my share of high maintenance friends, and I burn out so quick.
But if you’re an incel and a Chad says “hi” back then yeah, it’s a big deal for those weirdos
Keep in mind they call each other bro because in 45 years they don’t even know each others names since they met.
Would die for each other tho.
I learned someone’s name at work yesterday. We’ve been at the same location for like 8 months… and we have nametags…
I have friends that i know for 10+ years and i don’t know their real names
I picked up an order at a stor for a long time friend the other day. They needed his last name. Luckily I was able to reach him via text.
Most of the comments share my distain for this sexist shit “humor.” So where are the over 500 upvotes coming from? Who likes this shit?
I’m with you but just for the sake of hypothesizing an answer, it might be that those who like it or don’t think too much about it just read, upvote, and move on. While those who have comments click and share.
Chill man. It’s a meme
A sexist meme. What’s your point? Is sexism okay as long as it uses these meme faces and is posted in a meme subs?
Light hearted not so sexist memes are fine and accepted by everyone
It’s not that deep
This is neither light hearted nor accepted by everyone, hence the existence of this conversation. If it’s satire it’s not obvious at all.
If you think this isn’t light hearted meme then I don’t know man. I guess you never opened instagram, reddit or any other social media
It sarcastically describes my life as a man, especially when I try to be the top two people but every other man wants to be the bottom two. The title might glorify it but we aren’t.
Who likes this shit?
People with a sense of humor who don’t get offended each time wind blows.
This is not even funny. Just sad boomer humor
So you’re sexist. Neat. You should work on that.
it’s funny because it pokes fun at the latent sexism in our culture. It’s not glorifying it, it’s portraying it as silly.
I think it is funny. I enjoyed it because like most good humor, it is a playful exaggeration on patterns that exist on real life. Sometimes those patterns break along racial or gendered lines, and that’s ok. You’re not a bad person if you think it’s funny. I get laughs out of lighthearted humor that pokes fun at men as well.
Are they really patterns, though? Or is it confirmation bias?
Even early psychological studies from 100+ years ago found that women, on average, feel and react to emotional stresses the same way as men. There are 100+ year old studies on PMS that say women, on average, don’t express more anger or sadness prior to or while on a period - and yet we still get hysterical women PMSing memes.
Media can make us see patterns that aren’t there. Media can change the way people view the world around them and affect how they behave.
I think it is a trend that men in general are less inquisitive about each other’s personal lives and discuss them less often, yes. I don’t think that’s an inherently good or bad thing but I think it’s true. Also, it’s worth noting that the “PMS mood swings are a social construct” theory is still listed as an “Alternative Theory” on the Wikipedia page and the handful of women I’ve talked to about it have all said no, the mood swings are definitely real.
Don’t let me get in the way of what you think, or what wikipedia and other women have told you. I’m basing basing my comment on the psychology courses I’ve taken.
It’s important to note that research on PMS has been fraught with medical, historical and personal biases. This is a very well done article on why the issue is incredibly nuanced: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK565629/
The other reason this is a sore spot for me is because I am a woman who lived with undiagnosed mental and physical disorders for over ten years because my complaints were disregarded as menstrual symptoms. I was eager to internalize that because of prevalent media that pushes the idea of the hormone-driven, irrational female, without providing the basis for those claims.
As it turns out, being in a whole fuck lot of pain and having doctors tell you that’s normal can make someone pretty irritated.
Sorry, I don’t understand. Were you experiencing severe pain and mental symptoms related to your menstrual cycle? If so, why would you be arguing against the notion that PMS symptoms are real? If anything I would think telling women “nope sorry, your perceived symptoms are all in your head, that is just a patriarchal myth that you’ve internalized” is more condescending than saying that PMS symptoms are real.
I feel like you need to read my comment and the link provided again.
I’m gonna be honest I didn’t read that entire chapter but I think I get the gist of it. King posits that PMS is falsely understood to be a primarily mental/mood-related condition due to the underlying sexist belief that women are fundamentally irrational and overly emotional. Sure, no disagreement there. PMS has sort of become a meme and a cultural phenomenon, which may cause women and men both to play up the mood swing side of it. With that said, “The chief complaint is one or more of the emotional symptoms associated with PMS. Irritability, tension, or unhappiness are typical emotional symptoms”. According again to Wikipedia which in my experience is more accurate than any single source or anecdote.
Damn, really easy to spot the Americans in the comments
We’re all Americans here right? That’s why it’s called lemmy.usa, duh.
Girl boring guy quirky.
Isn’t it just boy and girl different?
Yes. Men and women are different.
And it’s ultimately insulting to men too, like the idea of being excited to share personal news is somehow anathema to the male experience.
Low maintenance friendships are the best ships 🛳️
I’m no psychoanalyst but it sounds like someone is insecure in their ability to love and be loved and would prefer to guarantee a balanced reciprocity of low effort on both sides.
I don’t know how serious one has to take themselves to find this “ultimately insulting”. It’s a silly meme and it’s funny because most men can relate to it.
Lmao you could have just written “it’s not that serious bro” like the worthless bottom of the barrel dumbfuck you are. Now tell your moral and intellectual superior how serious an idiot has to take itself to respond like you did.
Just so you know, this isn’t Reddit. You’ve just been blocked by everyone reading along here.
If you start to feel like no one replies here, it’s actually you, in this case. It could help to try again with a new account.
I’m not even that other person, just letting you know you’re an asshole.
It’s not my problem that you deserve worse than prison.
“But I am gay.”
Plot twist!
“Low maintenance friendships”, aka friendships. Can’t remember who I heard it from, but someone put it in a way that resonated well with me. If it needs constant work, it’s not a friendship. If you’re friends, you can meet after not being in touch for five or ten years and continue exactly where you left off.
This idea that any kind of relationship should be effortless and easy is, frankly, incredibly absurd. Good relationships (of which friendships are) take real effort and work. If you don’t want to put that work in to it then you need a pet rock, not a friend.
Friendships take effort and work absolutely, but once you’ve made friends for life, they stick. I feel you’ve misunderstood what I was trying to say. People that are in constant need of you serving them or they say they’ll stop being your friends were never your friends to begin with.
Probably doesn’t work the same for everyone, but I’ve never been one to have a big circle of occasional pals or “friends” to hang out with. For the most part, with the people I connect with I develop very deep, lifelong friendships that work through thick and thin because they’re not based on what one can gain from another.
once you’ve made friends for life, they stick
People drift apart. Actually making the effort to communicate and meet up occasionally is important for maintaining those relationships. If you’re not in the place where you’re can stay aware of major life changes (marriage, divorce, kids, major career changes, moves between cities, major illness or injury, deaths in family, etc.), were you really “friends for life”?
Even making brunch plans in my 40s requires consulting a calendar. That naturally shrinks the number of close friends in the mix. I’m closer with my friends who live close than the ones who live far, simply out of inertia, that maintaining those relationships takes less effort.
I’ll give you an example of what I mean. A couple of weeks ago I saw one of my best friends throughout my life for the first time since covid. He’s never been much for messages and calls, so staying up to speed that way has always been unreliable anyway. But I always made sure to visit when I was visiting our hometown, where he still lives. But since he remarried they were traveling a lot and he wasn’t often at home. When I wasn’t getting replies to my messages I started to wonder if I’d done something to anger him. But I kept sending messages whenever I were coming to town, and dropping a box of chocolates at their porch every Christmas, since they were never at home when I went by their place. Well, the last time I rang the doorbell they were home - and what ridiculously bad luck it is that it took so long to catch them. They were in fact packing for a several weeks long trip. Anyway. We picked up where we last left off. No, not angry at me, they just got used to a bit of a hermit lifestyle during covid. He said that apart from one visit from his sister (and they literally share a backyard), I’m the last the person to visit them.
Anyway. That’s a pretty weird and extreme example. But neither of us, in our friendship, is the kind of person that requires constant attention and reaffirming the friendship. We were separate for a very, very stupid long time. But that didn’t erode the friendship we’ve had for the past four or so decades.
I’ve had high maintenance friends, mentally needy, those whose friendship requires constant sacrifice for upkeep. They can be good friendships. But in my experience they don’t last.
You described a lot of effort on your end to keep that relationship going. That’s what I mean. Relationships require maintenance.
Putting in effort does not mean it was strictly necessary. And I’ve never said you shouldn’t put in effort. Just that deep friendships often are low maintenance and will weather even long silent periods. High maintenance relationships will not.
Yeah, active relationships take effort. However, the true friends I made growing up, I can hit them up or they can hit me up, after any number of years, and we pick up right where we left off… It hits different.
waahhhh there is a loneliness epidemic and nobody cares about men
This is very real, I felt this
Shit, that reminds me I should text my best friend, he might be a father by now.
When was the last time you texted him?
