• LouNeko@lemmy.world
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    2 days ago

    I already stated openly on here that I despise women, but hear me out. I think mysoginy/misandry, racism, etc. are not hereditary. Nobody is born that way, it’s a learned or environmental behavior. A lot of men lack a positive feminine role model, usually the most impactfull person to fill that role would be their mother, but sometimes mothers suck, that happens and it sucks for any kid in that situation. So were else to look if not to the only person closest to you? Media? I think we can agree that women have been under- and misrepresented in media for a long time. So the real world is the only place left. But the real world is volatile, everything is dependent on luck or opportunities. As a kid, not everybody has the chance to for healthy and meaningfull relationships with the other sex. Sometimes you just get unlucky, sometimes life just isn’t fair and while others are playing in on the playground together, you have to lock yourself into a room to hide from the parental abuse or take care of problems that other kids don’t have. You miss out on so much essential character building that will be impossible to catch up on later in life. And here is the point where the hate starts. I don’t thing mysogyny nesseraly starts with men, I think it’s the desperate attempt of belonging from young boys that is often met with hostility, bullying and ridicule from young girls that manifests as the image they have of them for the rest of their lives. You surley can’t hold every woman accountable for that, but it only takes one.

    As an adult and sane person I realize that about myself. I realize that I have a learned involuntary response to women based on how I was threated in the past. But I’m also mature enough to accept that for the betterment of everybody, I’ll be better of aline. Maybe if a woman would step up and show me that their actualy better than my experience makes them up to be. But here’s something a woman recently said to me that makes everything fall into place on why this hasn’t happened yet.

    “Women don’t owe you anything.”

    Why should a woman go out of her way and prove all the others wrong? Why go through the effort? Why take the risk? They don’t owe me anything and I have nothing to offer in return.

    If I’m not the only one who feels that way, then this is an issue that will never be solved, only prevented. And I think it is getting better nowadays with the next generation and more representation.

    So my advice is: “Girls, be nicer to boys, your words carry weight that you can’t know the consequences of. And while women will always have appeal on their side, men don’t. Either they’re accepted or they’re not, and that’s mostly for you to decide.”