I mean, it’s a joke. The question is just: is it a good joke?
In some ways, it punches up, and — ugh, I’m about to do the “explain the joke” thing — shows something interesting by putting a harmful effect of patriarchy on men (loneliness) next to a harmful effect of patriarchy on women and suggesting they’re connected. It’s a solid premise.
But in other ways, it’s not really punching up. Most men don’t quite benefit from patriarchy enough to make up for the ways they suffer due to patriarchy, so taking a jab at them by connecting the two is kinda shitty from that perspective.
Also, I think most men don’t really think about it, and just accept a toxic concept of superiority over women (and right to affection from women) as a fact of being a man rather than a flimsy consolation prize for playing along with a system that hurts them.
So it’s kinda bleak, leaving that part unexamined and just leaving it as a “you problem” while taking a more systemic view when it comes to the pervasiveness of men hating women.
This comment is intentionally insulting, intended to provoke engagement.
There’s a myriad of reasons why men might be lonely, and honestly I don’t think that being an asshole is necessarily correlated with being lonely.
I mean, it’s a joke. The question is just: is it a good joke?
In some ways, it punches up, and — ugh, I’m about to do the “explain the joke” thing — shows something interesting by putting a harmful effect of patriarchy on men (loneliness) next to a harmful effect of patriarchy on women and suggesting they’re connected. It’s a solid premise.
But in other ways, it’s not really punching up. Most men don’t quite benefit from patriarchy enough to make up for the ways they suffer due to patriarchy, so taking a jab at them by connecting the two is kinda shitty from that perspective.
Also, I think most men don’t really think about it, and just accept a toxic concept of superiority over women (and right to affection from women) as a fact of being a man rather than a flimsy consolation prize for playing along with a system that hurts them.
So it’s kinda bleak, leaving that part unexamined and just leaving it as a “you problem” while taking a more systemic view when it comes to the pervasiveness of men hating women.
You’re right, i’ll block them while the community is still small.
I know many, many assholes who are drowning in it. People can be into that!
Inb4 “nice guys finish last”