in the psych ward because verbal abuse from my mom bc I’m trans (among other reasons),
“woah how that XXX left, there’s only girls here!”
It’s the sweetest thing anybody other than my sister has told me
I’m an ugly woman and I remember getting a compliment from someone at dunkin. It was another woman, but she said I looked pretty. I think to this day she’s the only person who has complimented me that wasn’t a friend or something. 😅
I’ve had plenty of men yell out “huge bitch” and what have you though. 🤷🏿♀️
I don’t imagine they were quoting Deuce Bigalow?
Some of them definitely were. They said it with the inflection and everything. 😂
“If I wasn’t a lesbian, I’d 100% date you”
Normally, I’d write this off as someone “letting me down easy”, but this was my best friend in High school that I knew for years, so I know the sentiment was genuine.
I give my man compliments all the time. He calls me silly and pretends he doesn’t care, but I think it is working. Have been running a semi-non stop compliment campaign since Covid where I tell him how beautiful his hair is in the hopes he will cut it less. It’s been a good while since he last came home looking like a sheep after shearing. Summer is approaching, though, so I’m bracing myself for him getting the idea to visit the barber and have him mutilate those beautiful locks of his. It should be crime, honestly.
It’s such a cruel thing that compliments from partners don’t feel the same as compliments from strangers. My wife has been telling me parts of my body are attractive for agres, but I didn’t really internalize it until I heard it from others as well.
It’s the same phenomena as when your parents try to give you good advice but you will only listen to it if it comes from the mouths of “outsiders”.
Example: my boyfriend tried to get me into Tool for ages and I was very indifferent to it. Then my closest colleague starts playing Tool at work and I’m like “omg this music is awesome” and I go home and tell my bf about this amazing new band I have gotten into and he just gets so offended like “I literally tried to get you into it for years wtf”. We laugh about it sometimes.
“You smell so nice” - a gay female co-worker. I was wearing a new cologne that I purchased for myself. It was very expensive so I’m glad I chose well
You deserve a blowjob.
That’s kept me floating for years.
I hope you receive it one day 🙏
It’s the thought that counts.
Is it though?
no.
It’s the throat that counts
Everytime the cashier flips the tablet over before a tip, they say a compliment. I always tip more than I usually do.
They got you good
I was told blue looks good on me by a girl.
10 years later, most of my shirts are blue.
I hope she wasn’t colour blind 😬
Turns out she was making a BJ joke and occasionally lies awake cringing at the joke that everyone missed.
Purple for me. Fortunately I like it too.
I work in hospitality. I get women multiple times a day asking if I sing, act or do radio work
A little kindness can go a long way. Remember to just compliment so. every once in a while, just for the sake of it. It could make their day.
Girls have a super power they can use to live rent free in any guy’s head pretty much eternally. All they need to do is catch them off guard with a compliment.
A guy will keep a shirt until it literally disintegrates if one time a girl said “that color looks good on you.” Pretty much every guy that wears a particular cologne, wears that cologne because at some point a girl said he smelled nice. It’s not even a horny brain thing I don’t think. It’s just that guys get so few compliments on their appearance that every single one is massively precious to them.
girls would do this more often but there’s always the (justified tbh) fear that the guy will take it the wrong way and get weird about it :(
It goes both ways I think too. Guys wouldn’t obsess over the idea that a single compliment might be flirting if they were more used to compliments in general from both sexes. On the other hand some guys are so afraid of misreading a compliment or normal friendliness that they can’t tell when someone actually is flirting. I sort of think there need to be more voices out there meant to speak directly to men and masc people about social literacy that aren’t trying to turn them into hateful, violent, incel republicans.
It’s absolutely justified fear. For every one guy who will just take it as a sweet compliment, there are ten guys who will think “she wants the D!”
Honestly I don’t think the ratio is that bad… But it doesn’t have to be, when just one creep can ruin your life…
I’ve always bought my husband red shirts because I think he looks good in a bold red color. About 17 years of marriage before he finally told me he doesn’t really care for the color, that he just wants to look good for me.
awee 🙄 (I can’t find the sweet teary eyed emoji, pretend this is that one)
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I did a lot of clubbing in the '90s. Once, a beautiful girl came up to me and said: “You’re gorgeous” and then ran off. Thing is, though, I was in my early 30s at the time and she looked about 16. So, obviously, I didn’t pursue her or try and make a thing of it, or follow up. But that’s stuck with me for over 20 years. I can still hear it in my head.
I don’t remember basically anyone from my secondary schoold other than my 4 close freinds and this one girl that randomly asked me for a hug one day, said I give really good hugs, then basically never spoke to me again.
One time a buddy and I were out drinking and on our way out he ran into a childhood friend. So while they were catching up I was just leaning against a table and listening to their conversation and people watching.
A pretty attractive woman came up to me, looked me dead in the eyes, and said “you’d be more attractive if you had some self-confidence”, and then walked out of the bar.
I think about that every day. Because I have never in my life been told I need “more confidence” (actually, it’s usually the opposite haha).
Shit like that, I’d probably not read too much into it. Some girls just like to fuck with people (people have been trolling before trolling was an internet term). She probably left laughing how she fucked with your head (yeah, some beautiful girls are fucking deeply ugly on the inside, and vice versa)
Maybe she wanted you to approach her, you ignored her “signals” and the only reason that could be, at least from her point of view, was that you lacked confidence.
Aahhh… so, that morse code…??
Yeah I assumed so. It was a few years ago so we probably talked for a bit at the bar (I am not allowed to go get drinks by myself cause I’ll end up talking to strangers for 45 mins haha) but I don’t remember her from any other point in the night.
Idk it was just really strange haha
I could never count the number of times in my life I thought people were laughing with me. They weren’t.
