• Triasha@lemmy.world
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    12 days ago

    Logical enough. I did nearly the same thing.

    Hooked up with a couple. Was more attracted to the girlfriend even though boyfriend was more enthusiastic and attentive in bed.

    I’m lesbian.

  • huppakee@lemm.ee
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    12 days ago

    I would argue your sexuality isn’t necessarily something you already were when you were born and you have to figure out, i would say words like gay and straight are words to describe other what you desire and what you don’t desire. If you’re curious and haven’t decided which words fit, just take more time and try more things. On the other hand, if you now figured something out you can now have words to describe what you do and do not want in life.

  • Libra00@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    13 days ago

    How you know this is legit: if he’d been talking about any dating app other than grindr step 6 would look like 'wait 6 weeks to get a match, get ghosted, get depressed, go to bed mumbling about ‘who needs sex anyway?’.

      • Azzu@lemm.ee
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        13 days ago

        I’m a guy, and it hasn’t been my experience. Not particularly attractive either. But I also match with a very little amount of people.

          • Azzu@lemm.ee
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            12 days ago

            I have a twitch linked in my profile if you wanna know how I look, though idk if there’s any videos since I haven’t streamed for ages

            • festnt@sh.itjust.works
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              12 days ago

              i’m a straight guy too, i think that image is just uncanny because of the effects added

              (if you want to see how he looks without effects look up jschlatt)

              • sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works
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                12 days ago

                Ah, some YouTube guy. He seems decent enough that a good personality match could bump him up a few notches w/ the right mate. And maybe he’s genuinely good looking, idk.

          • SkyezOpen@lemmy.world
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            12 days ago

            Awful mutton chops 2/10 would not bang

            I kid, but seriously he would look better without the chops.

            • ace_of_based@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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              12 days ago

              I disagree, the chops are doing good work on this face, accentuating his cheekbones, pointing to his lips and narrowing the jawline to de-roundify his dome. Judging by the thinness of the chin hair it’s quite likely he simply can’t go full Riker, so though I’m not a mutton man either i think he’s making the most of what’s he’s got

              • festnt@sh.itjust.works
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                12 days ago

                i like how you got that he can’t grow anything more than that from a heavily edited image of him

                (if you want to see how he looks without whatever they did to him in that image look up “jschlatt”)

                • ace_of_based@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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                  12 days ago

                  Ah, am i being insulted? Why? I don’t know who this is mf cat is

                  Edit: on reread i think youre saying you "like that i can still tell he can’t grow in that area"which makes more sense. Sorry yo

  • hihi24522@lemm.ee
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    13 days ago

    As someone who has done a similar experiment (though only making out) I feel like this guy is gayer than myself because I don’t think I could stay turned on or motivated enough to fuck a dude effectively, even a very fem one.

    That being said I feel like gay is supposed to mean “attracted to other men” not “not-overtly-repulsed by sex with another man”

    There are asexual people who can and do still have sex because they aren’t sex repulsed. Those people are still asexuals, just like asexuals who are sex repulsed are asexuals.

    It’s less about what you do and more about why you’re doing it that makes it gay. Are you attracted to other men? No? Then I guess it’s not necessarily gay.

      • Dasus@lemmy.world
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        12 days ago

        I mean… masturbation for men means touching male genitalia. You’re not bothered by that. So why be so bothered by other male genitalia?

        I had a few gay experiences as a teenager. I had fun, but I never dreamed of it, unlike with girls. Even a whiff of some girly sweat mixed with like the intoxicating smell of some girls hair could make me wank off to them for days. But never replayed the experiences with my male friend in my head when looking for sexual excitation.

        But the gay experiences were more like “I wonder what a blowjob feels like”. Zero sexual innuendo or romance or lust or infatuation or anything.

        Just two friends getting each other off for a novel experience.

        Wasn’t really my thing. But I’m fairly confident I’m more confident I’m not gay than most guys, having explored that aspect and found it to really not be my thing.

        Did the same with most drugs as well. Tried em all in my youth, but now I only use weed and alcohol.

  • [email protected]@sh.itjust.works
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    13 days ago

    I’ve read all of the comments, at this point, and absolutely no one is actually replying to the question OOP posed. It’s impossible to get a straight answer out of any of you.

  • nickwitha_k (he/him)@lemmy.sdf.org
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    12 days ago

    An ex (casual) once told me about her ex that “He needed to suck enough dicks to realize that it wasn’t for him.” A little on the crass side, maybe, but she wasn’t judging him for it and it’s perfectly valid. We’ve only got one life to live and not experimenting with one’s sexuality, if so inclined, is kinda silly.

  • MTK@lemmy.world
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    12 days ago

    This is logical and healthy imo. To be straight does not have to mean absolutely hating any sort of gay sex, just not being into it. I think that society makes as believe that straight means the absolute opposite of gay, when really all sexual preferences are one big spectrum and you can be a straight man who is willing to try gay things but not enjoying them.

        • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
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          12 days ago

          Yeah as someone not into guys it’s a powerful and unpleasant smell in a very different way. Like when you’re eating something you very much dislike but understand others might love it. This is contrasted to the butt smell where yes some people are into that, but it’s because they’re freaks

    • MTK@lemmy.world
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      12 days ago

      Idk, even good prep can end up with some smell, it is what it is. But let’s be real, all sexual acts can have smells, we are smelly creatures.

      Oral can definitely be a bit stinky, but that is just human nature.

  • psycho_driver@lemmy.world
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    13 days ago

    I mean, you did a gay thing, but only to try it. I smoked pot a few times, didn’t care for it. Don’t smoke pot and haven’t in years and years. I am not a pothead.

  • Ledivin@lemmy.world
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    13 days ago

    If a man had sex with a woman, then proceeded to have copious amounts of sex with other men and never with a woman again, would you call him straight?