There are certain things you can Google. For everything else, there’s MasterCard.
I have to open that way because this all feels … surreal. The first time we talked, she wanted me to snuff her, and now she wants to be my slave and financially support me (and has already sent money).
I know this is not a BDSM community, and that’s all I’ll say on this front, but she’s late-20s, pre-op and seemingly enamoured of the fact that I see her as a woman. Texting with her, as we started, she seemed totally passable … we hit a giant fucking speedbump when she sent art of random chicks, and I had a come-to-Jesus moment after the reveal after being gangraped in college and faced with cock again.
It was not the easiest 24 hours I’ve had.
Net result, we’re out the other end, and since she’s at the start of her journey, she wants me to give her a name.
There is some … not irony, but … one of my first memories is of watching The Neverending Story on a TV wheeled into a ski lodge so the kids could watch while the parents drank. I’m not going to provide a synopsis here, but the elder son of my second ex wife (always a phrase you want to be able to use) was Atreau.
The thrust of the movie at large is giving a name to a new girl. There are some twists and turns.
And so here I return to this well. I fucking hope Amanda was a good choice. She just felt that way.
I fail to see why anyone is making 29-45 an age gap story.
Half your age plus seven.
I did the math and you scraped my blessings.
You can smoke them later if you keep enough.
Because there’s a huge gap between her age and your age. A gap that’s more than half her life and almost a third of yours.
A 29 year old is not a child. It’s a mature adult with a fully formed frontal cortex. Harping on the age difference is infantilising her.
And? Nobody said otherwise.
Wrong. Nobody says ”It’s wrong because she’s a child.“ The thing is even with adults, a significant age gap is a red flag. There’s a difference in upbringing, culture, maturity, experience, etc. But a red flag is not a no go, it’s a warning sign that signals possible conflicts in the future.
Speaking from personal experience, having such a “fully formed frontal cortex” doesn’t guarantee enough maturity to prevent problems more commonly associated with childhood. There’s roughly 25 years of life determining your thought processes before you reach that point of brain development, and it can easily take just as long (or even longer) to realize the problems with (and correct, if they’re strong & brave enough to do so) poorly developed thought processes from those early years. That’s why there are so many divorces even well into people’s later years.
Unfortunately, many never manage to undo the damage wrought by their childhood. The asshole moving (back, unbelievably) into the White House & his supporters are living proof.