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I am not talking about people enjoying things that I don’t personally enjoy, I was talking about an instinct that men (allegedly) have to share quote disgusting stuff with each other.

This post doesn’t seem to me to be about sharing a weird common interest with your friends. There’s nothing (inherently) toxic nor gendered about having weird hobbies.

The post is about seeing something disgusting and immediately sharing it with all your friends who will also be disgusted, and portrays this as if it’s just a completely normal thing for men to do. And while I can kind of understand where the assumption that men behave like that comes from, I have never experienced anything like that with any of my friends, and I’m pretty sure I never will. So it seems like a bit of a misrepresentation.

There’s so many weird societal constructs about how men are supposed to behave. I have never encountered any of that shit with my friends, but that’s probably partly due to a selection process where I have no interest befriending people who display toxic masculinity traits.

If you genuinely think men obsess over disgusting shit and talk about who they want to fuck all the time, maybe take a moment to reconsider a) who you’re hanging out with or b) the cultural impulses you allow to shape your perception of the world.

I think the main reason men act this way is that they’re trying to fit into an image of masculinity that has been imposed on them, in part through tweets such as this one.

Yeah, the zoomers I know who make an effort with regards to fashion all dress in a very fun way. I dig it.

If I’m upset by it it’s just because young people are not wearing the same clothes as me and more, implying that I’m getting old. It stings a little.

Also Telegram is growing shadier day by day. Signal is the way to go.

Thanks! Thank god Twitter is so dead set on killing itself it doesn’t even need people or companies to make even the simplest moral decisions to leave it.

Not that there’s any chance of it happening, but this would be an ideal use of the shared Mastodon/Pixelfed API. All the social media functionality, none of the being associated with any particular service provider.

One difference being that Twitter is not (technically) dead - Nintendo Is removing support for a service that continues to exist, presumably because they don’t want to be associated with it.

Often people are looking for some sort of validation, even when it’s not obvious.

If they say “I can’t join you in the bar today, I have too much work to catch up on”, “K.” is not a good answer. Several aspects needs to be addressed, ideally:

1. That’s too bad
2. Next time
3. Commentary on the state of work: Keep your head above water/your boss is such a jerk/we’ll make up for it after your deadline on Thursday/whatever, depending on the situation and your relationship.

Basically, it’s a way to show that you care about what they’re telling you. It can be a bit exhausting at times.

Is Linux Mint well adapted for touch screens?

I think I would go for GNOME if I were to use Linux with a touch screen. Then again, I’m using it anyway, so I’m probably biased.

They’re also not holding anyone hostage. I can see how people are tired of the whole “if you don’t like it, fork it” argument, but Kbin, mbin, and Piefed are all perfectly viable and interoperable alternatives that are available already.

It’s convenient that the gavel is used both for auctions and for courtrooms. Both situations apparently boil down to giving it to the highest bidder.

In the end, nothing is better than second hand!

I think the Fairphone 4 is also worth checking out. It works great with Ubuntu Touch, SailfishOS seems to be doing well on the device, and there’s developments towards PostmarketOS. :)

I personally see it the same way, but for some people the pressure to schedule themselves translates to massive overworking and stress. Academia is also a bit random - sometimes you stumble upon something by luck, other times your findings suck for no fault of your own. If you worked a lot just to find yourself in the latter category it’s very easy to fall down a mental hole, working long days and weekends for months and months in order to save what’s left of your research agenda/professional life.

Academics are not necessarily famous for being the best acrobats of the work/life balance.

Yeah, there are absolutely tradeoffs. The distinction between work and free time becomes very vague. You might achieve nothing for days in the office trying to work, just to have an eureka moment in the middle of the night later on. So taking time outside the office is easy, but sometimes you wouldn’t manage to stop working even if you wanted to.

Most people feel very personally attached to their work, so if they don’t feel like they perform well (which is a rare feeling) it’ll often feel like a personal failure. This often leads to people overworking and all kinds of negative spirals. A lot of people long for a more structured job.

That said I personally love it - the flexibility is by far the biggest reason why I want to stay in academia. It’s not for everyone, but it is an incredible deal if you can manage to maintain some sort of work/life balance.

Academic here, I can do whatever the hell I want 95% of the time, only problem is that if it doesn’t add up to a shitload of work eventually I’ll be screwed. But taking a week off without telling anyone is just business as usual.

Most people nowadays also seem to buy into the idea that anarchists worship chaos and destruction. I’m not sure exactly where that idea comes from, but it’s certainly convenient.

True, I always read him as at least sympathetic to the original communist struggle, no matter how much he despised Stalinism and authoritarianism.

It does, however, make sense that people who in all likelihood consider themselves Stalinists wouldn’t be the biggest fans of Orwell. What doesn’t make sense is that these morons still exist at all, but that’s a different issue entirely.

To be fair, Orwell writes in Homage to Catalonia that even though he fought alongside Communists, he was there to fight against fascism, not for communism. I think it makes sense that the communists are not all that eager to praise him; that they are too ignorant to read him is their loss.

No matter how you put it, Stalin was certainly a more effective anti-Communist!

Orwell is pretty much universally hated by authoritarians on both sides of the political spectrum.

He’s a personal hero of mine for many reasons, but that’s certainly one of them.