“You can’t know if someone is a dipshit until after you interact with them, btw.” That you said that is kinda at odds with what you are saying now.
If you are going to treat all members of a group as being the same as the worst members you have met then you are just choosing to be a bigot.
The issue isn’t trans people as a whole. It’s also not even close to half of trans people. There is something unique about your situation.
Yeah painting all trans people that way is nonsense. It gets pretty close to bigotry territory. I gotta wonder where you live or what kind of choices you are making to surround yourself with that many unhinged people. Where I’m at I’ve encountered zero trans people that act like you’ve described.
Avoid “them” meaning all trans people or the handful of dipshits you were choosing to talk to?
Could you explain?
I’ve assumed elon was a pedo ever since he accused that one diver of being one.
It sounds like there is a lot going on and most of it sounds very concerning.
Codependence is bad. Hinting that he will die without you is bad. It’s either seeking pity, attempting to control or manipulate you, or a genuine mental health issue. Tickling, biting and punishment are bad. If you are not enjoying and consenting to those things and he knows that then it’s a form of abuse if he continues any of those things. Being possessive and jealous are bad.
It sounds like he’s been engaging in a lot of tactics to control you.
You can love someone and it can still be best for both of you to not be together. If he is an incomplete non-functional person without you that is his issue. He needs to fix that. It is not fair and not your responsibility to try and fill in the rest of him to make him a whole person. If the things that make you happy, like concerts and the city, upset him so much that seems like a significant issue as well. You both need to be able to do things to fulfill your individual happiness in addition to your joint happiness. If you doing the things that make you happy makes him unhappy that is incompatible. If you give up the things that make you happy for his sake that’s still incompatible. Being together shouldn’t depend on one of you being unhappy.
It’s impossible to give perfect or absolute advice over the Internet. However I suspect you should trust your conclusion that your lives are heading in different directions. I think it would be good to discuss the things you have mentioned here with your psychologist. They are presumably a competent professional and can go into greater detail with you. In the end though a relationship has to work for both of you. If you give up the city and concerts and devote yourself to staving off his depression or self harm then you will wither and eventually resent him.
Not again? Last time was stonetoss. If you are this disconnected maybe do a quick “is this artist a well known bigot” web search before posting from here on.
As a nerd who was on the internet in the 90s I can assure you that was no filter against idiots.
That’s been my experience. It’s weird seeing people get so angry at op over the assumption that op ignored fundamental information that is so often omitted by the manufacturers.
Weird. The last three TVs I bought didn’t have the foot width listed on the box.
Most TV’s don’t list the width on the feet on the packaging do they?
I like how as you descend into evil and madness you increasingly discard the “don’t draw attention to yourself” part and with chaotic evil the wealth generation aspect is pretty much forgotten. The progression feels right.
Not the richest fastest but probably nice and discreet: electronics repair shop using mending.
To be fair he might not like some people because they are black, trans, or little people regardless of if they are conservative or not.
I especially like that this format of the meme removes the d-bag that is in the original.
The inherent traits of a species of berries is not comparable to the behavior of an entire demographic. If you treat all trans people as though they are unhinged or looking for the slightest excuse to be offended then that is as much bigoted behavior and stereotyping as treating all Mexicans as lazy or all black people as criminals or all Irish as angry drunks. People are not berries. Their treatment of you isn’t coming from the genetic level.
You may have had some legit crazy fringe case experiences and the shock and hurt that you would feel from that would be very valid but if you turn immediately from that to “if I’m gonna be treated like a bigot then I’ll just be a bigot” then there are some worrisome seeds already planted. If things went as you described them then you had some unfair encounters but those handful of experiences are not close to enough to judge all trans people by. That’s hard to grapple with if there is still that emotional sting from those experiences. I do understand the reaction of “fine I’ll show you just much I can be the thing you wrongly accused me of being”. I’ve been guilty of that in other contexts. But it’s destructive and toxic. It makes the people treating you wrongly feel completely justified. It makes you act like a terrible person that you are not.